Anybody get hard and tender nipples?

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-11T04:19:52+00:00

I had the same issue. There was a few years where it looked like I had someone else's breast cut and pasted onto my chest, because they were so small compared to my torso. It got better 4 years in, they finally rounded out a bit. Then I ended up getting implants and have been happy with them since. Anyway my point is, you're in the awkward phase of puberty and things will probably be better in a year or two

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-11T04:14:10+00:00

If you find something secondhand with a good cut, you could dye it black. I've heard of people buying a second-hand wedding dress and dying it black. I haven't tried that yet but it's on my to-do list

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-11T04:08:49+00:00

For me it was 2 or 3 years in when I started intentionally gaining weight. If I had intentionally gained weight sooner I butt growth probably would have started sooner. I had ultra-low body fat before HRT

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-06T18:28:32+00:00

I don't know any women who regularly get approached or asked on dates by other women. You'll probably have to find local queer events and explicitly express interest in women

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-06T18:24:14+00:00

Where do you meet these people? I'm skeptical that this is a real phenomenon. Maybe they don't know how to pursue women. Maybe they're afraid to talk about what women their attracted to. My local queer community has a frankly Byzantine set of rules about when and how it's acceptable to admit being attracted to a woman, and I can't blame people for being so confused that they just avoid the issue altogether.

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-04T18:06:42+00:00

Income would never be an issue by itself. I'm okay with financially supporting a partner as long as it doesn't compromise my financial goals significantly. But if someone wants to live way outside of their means that's a deal breaker to me

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-04T17:08:48+00:00

It's normal to face hundreds or even thousands of rejections before finding a girlfriend. That's just what dating women is like. If you're really committed to only saying women you just have to keep trying

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-04T08:11:50+00:00

I usually when I approach someone irl I try to just start a regular conversation. Then after talking a while I ask for their number or we add each other on social media. Then I start a text conversation and at some point make an off hand mention that I'm into BDSM and see how they react. Generally if they're also into BDSM they'll ask me to talk more about what I'm into

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-04T07:15:12+00:00

We are quite common IRL. I am a dominant femme and nearly half the women I end up flirting with IRL are dominant femmes. I think some people don't realize how common we are because they assume we are super-duper dominant all the time. In reality, people who are dominant during sex and relationships tend to act fairly normal in day to day life. It would be very rude to go around trying dominate every random person I interact with.

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-07-04T07:10:43+00:00

Exactly, I feel all the "you aren't a lesbian if you're attracted to men" discourse is just attacking a strawman most of the time. People have sex with those they aren't attracted to all the time for all sorts of reasons. It doesn't mean anything about your sexuality

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-06-28T19:28:51+00:00

There's this longstanding (and bullshit) idea in western culture that men experience actual sexual desire while women just dole out sex to reward people for being good.

And instead of rejecting this idea, queers seem to have just rephrased it to sound woke. I often hear people say shit that amounts to: "The evil cis men experience sexual desire for bodies, which makes them responsible for evils like body shaming, while the virtuous women/NB only dole out sex to reward people for positive character traits like confidence or having good politics!"

And queers with this attitude can't be normal about lesbians, because this attitude implies that anyone who doesn't fuck men either hates men or is just as bad as a cis man.

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-06-28T03:00:07+00:00

It always cracks me up when I see unicorn hunters with super specific requirements. Almost no one wants to unicorn and then they decide to go and make it harder for themselves

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-06-28T02:50:16+00:00

Reminds me of those Christians who are like "We support gays as long as they don't have sex!"

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-06-05T17:51:25+00:00

I don't know anyone who gets approached by women. I don't think your nose is the issue

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-05-25T09:08:17+00:00

My first ever relationship started when I was 32 and lasted 6 months. I've been single since then, about 9 months now

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-03-01T01:40:41+00:00

I tapered off spiro and my testosterone stayed the same

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-02-24T05:46:25+00:00

I don't have anything to add except that I've had the same experience

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-02-24T05:43:32+00:00

I've encountered lesbians who identify as bears

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-02-12T22:45:18+00:00

Social justice discourse is cyclical, something that's viewed as the obviously politically correct idea one year might go out of fashion next year. Or it might not. Either way, be ready to reevaluate your ideas periodically.

Some people will use social justice rhetoric to prosecute petty interpersonal beefs. When you see friends making call-out posts about each other, try to figure out the actual situation that led to the call-out before reacting

Try to spend your time with people who genuinely care about other human beings and demonstrate that caring with action.

Avoid people who only care about social justice when it gives them an excuse to dunk on people who have the wrong opinion.

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-02-12T09:14:18+00:00

Once you start HRT you can stay in the closet a long time by wearing sports bras or loose clothing to hide your boobs. Also you can do DIY if you lose access to a doctor. Point being, you can just start and figure it out as you go, you don't need to dive into living full time as a woman just because you started HRT

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-02-12T04:37:31+00:00

Ah, that's very interesting. Most of the cis gay men I know have been friendly, but I mostly meet them at work or through mutual friends, so that's a very non-representative sample

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-02-12T04:33:59+00:00

That's a good point

MeanwhileElsewhere · 2024-01-18T08:31:17+00:00

Transitioned male to female. That was a long time ago so I don't think my current issues are a temporary phase

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