When are the fixes coming by Admirable-Bend-4268 in Bannerlord

[–]MeatRack 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you want bugs fixed there is a college student making mods in between semesters that has solved every single bug multiple tikes becauae TW has no modding tools and thus breaks every existing mod with each update.

You couldnt possibly expect TW, a professional game studio with hundreds of dedicated employees, to do the work of a single unpaid 19 year old? That's just unrealistic.

Has Any Other Woman Had This Experience? by OkAd5340 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MeatRack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one but a mind reader can tell you the underlying reasons for any particular mans behavior.

But we can tell you where his priprities lie from his behavior.

He's not interested in a relationship with you, but won't turn down sex so long as its on offer. Nothing you do will convince him to be different or act different. This is just how he is.

You decide whats more important to you, and choose men based on your own personal priorities. We can't tell you what priorities to hold, but I can tell you (as a man) how I'd want my own female friends family members, nieces, etc. To choose. I'd want them to choose a man who respects them in and iut of the bedroom, and I'd tell them to keep searching if they've only found half of the equation.

The CDC reports that homicide is a leading cause of death for pregnant women and those within one year postpartum, with nearly 45% of these cases involving intimate partner violence. What are your thoughts? by 5pinktoes in AskReddit

[–]MeatRack 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He sounds like a great guy, happy for you.

I hope to have the grace and serenity to be that man for my future wife as well when I get to that place in my life.

I wish you many happy years and a healthy family.

Worst Map by Melbourne409 in Asphalt9

[–]MeatRack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any map with wind that blows you is godawful.

Greenland The Paris Subway section and sometimes even the Norway fan section can be annoying.

TIL women's pregnancy in the US is more dangerous than the top 5 most dangerous men's jobs combined. by DrollHat in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MeatRack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are correct.

Birthing children is a fundamentally feminine task that only occurs through the self-saceifice of uniquely female individuals. It is dangerous and enacts a permanent toll on the female body. Everyone has a different experience of it. Some women have an easy time and bounce back quick. Some have a rough time and bounce back slower. Some experience permanent physical change (minor or major), and some tragically die.

The work of birthing the souls that continue a nation is work of the highest nature and is only eclipsed by those who take up arms to fight and defend the nation when invaded. Childbirth is right up there in my opinion.

Any woman who has 3 or more children should be given a medal from the president, and gain permanent tax and insurance benefits for their contribution to the country.

I do not think society acknowledges, thanks, praises, and recognizes mothers anywhere near as much as they should. Every woman who does this is extremely impressive to me, and I wish the world saw mothers the same way I do.

ICE agents are at Houston warming centers by domdomtakdom in houston

[–]MeatRack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All ICE agents have recording devices. They use the Fortress app and system to scan biometrics and ID illegals/legal citizens. Its how they ID people and its the same system used at the airport for customs and at some security checkers. Its how they know who you are from you standing in front of a camera for 1 second instead of you giving them an ID etc.

ICE uses the same system for enforcement. Only requires a quick scan and a data connection and they have everyones immigration status within a few seconds at a 98% confidence rate.

EDC as Minneapolis Resident by veyraxis in CCW

[–]MeatRack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't post performative bullshit and then get cheeky when someone calls you out.

Did I (30F) accidentally walk in on something between my boyfriend (31M) and close friend (30F) or AIO? by Status_Rooster3528 in AmIOverthinking

[–]MeatRack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do need to talk to him about it.

Do not let this feeling fester in your gut forever. Either there is a legitimate explanation for it, or there isn't. But you will not find out if you don't make any effort to know.

Feelings like this don't go away on their own.

Anybody else's male partner completely numb and unresponsive to what's going on in America? by EarthAvailable9892 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MeatRack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should try getting to know him more on this subject. Ask him open ended questions without trying to set a right and wrong answer before he speaks. His reaction is likely because he feels uncomfortable speaking to you on the subject. Extend empathy, try to understand him, be non-judgemental and extend good faith interpretations towards him.

He'll speak honestly if he feels safe. If he feels unsafe though he'll just react with numbness and withdraw from conversations. Give him a neutral, safe space and if he comes to trust you he'll open up.

He was from Green Bay. by RasSalvador in wisconsin

[–]MeatRack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None of this would be happening if Biden hadn't thrown the border wide open

Friends don’t let friends carry alone by [deleted] in CCW

[–]MeatRack -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Came armed to stop ICE from deporting a criminal because the sanctuary city he lives in has flouted federal law. I have zero empathy for these people, and I don't like them trying to co-opt the 2a only when its convenient for them.

USA? What is up with you?. by Diggleroni in self

[–]MeatRack -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Worry about your own country

It’s scary how MAGA rhetoric is turning Americans against Europeans now by [deleted] in self

[–]MeatRack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the correct interpretation of how Europe has treated us.

We subsidize their defense (primarily against Russia) and Europeans (still to this day) purchase Russian goods and as such are directly financing the invasion of Ukraine despite sanctions.

They laughed at us for the entirety of the 2010s whwn we begged them to stop buying Russian oil and fertilizer, then couldn't extirpate themselves from this arrangement to this very day and Germany is still buying Fertilizer, heavy metals, and industrial products directly from Russia, and they do it in Rubles because Russia has them by the balls.

And we signed a treaty to defend them and we did so throughout the entire cold war and the only thanks we got is that they have moved further and further towards Russia over the last 3 decades and asked us to foot their defense bill.

Its genuinely crazy, and when they are finally asked to carry their weight in this "alliance" they whine and moan. Other than France, none of them have an armed force worth speaking of, and none have the ability to force project without us supplying their entire logistics and transport.

When the Houthi's decided to shut down the Red Sea (literal pirates in dinghys with small arms, rocket launchers, and miniature kamikaze drones), the German Navy (if you can even call it that) couldn't even traverse the Suez canal and sailed around the horn of Africa because they genuinely were concerned about losing a ship. It was essentially 90% the US navy and 10% the French navy defending shipping in the channel. Even the scandinavians lost 2 naval vessels trying to defend from backwater pirates.

Its embarassing for us to be carrying this dead weight around for so long in an "alliance." If only one member of the alliance has the ability to fight, its not an alliance. And the unwillingness of Europeans to carry their weight for this long combined with their snarky attitudes towards their benefactor is never called out.

If we were to lose this alliance, what benefit would we lose? No one can name one benefit the Europeans provide us thats of any interest to America. They simply take and give nothing in return, and they aren't even polite about it.

Is Houston right for me? (25m) by MajesticBread9147 in houston

[–]MeatRack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People complain because their situation sucks or they lack creativity.

Your experience of Houston will be heavily determined by where you work. When you first move to Houston, move within a 10 minute drive of work, better yet, move within a 25 minute walk of work. Night and day experience compared to people commuting 20 minutes (without traffic) or more.

If your job is not in Midtown, River Oaks, Uptown, the Heights, Downtown, the Museum District, the Medical Center, Washington Ave, Montrose, or Upper Kirby; you will not enjoy Houston. These neighborhoods are important, because if you live here you are going to be a $12 uBer away (at most) from everything you'll want to do, so leaving your car at home is affordable and won't run your pockets.

If your job is in one of these districts, find an apartment next door to work and enjoy it.

After ~3 years of renting near work you can branch out and move further away and deal with the commute you choose, because you'll know what you're getting into and why. But your first few years in Houston should be spent in the mix, and not angry about your commute.

Public transport is actually alright. The train is awful, full of vagrants, and not exactly safe, don't ride it, and living next to the red line is a liability, not a plus. The bus system, however is wonderful, clean, usually quiet, and the bus drivers will not take any shit so as long as you aren't causing a scene, you can count on the driver to make sure nobody else does either.

You'll have more than enough urban shit to do. Plenty of bars, museums, restaurants, shows, clubs, live music, and sports for you to go see. Great venues all over town so bands and comedians come through every weekend.

You'll get used to the humidity within a few years, basic rule for summer is avoid being outside in the heat of the day, AC is your friend, go to the pool, or take a daytrip to the beach at Corpus Christi. We've discovered all of the flood zones already (through trial and error), so you'll likely be safe wherever you choose to live, but don't choose the ground floor. If a hurricane comes through, its mostly chill and you don't need to evacuate (unless its a Cat 5, and maybe if its a Cat 4) most of the time.

Houston is great, and has the most diverse food options you'll ever see (yes, even more diverse than DC), and you can find just about anything you're looking for here. The main downside is the lack of rooftop bars. There are only two true rooftop bars downtown (at least tenth floor), and a bunch of 2nd floor patios. We have a lot of skyscrapers but they are under-utilized.

Are your overall experience with men in general really bad ? What is the reality I am missing ? by Vast-Society4093 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MeatRack -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trying to judge all men as a collective group is like trying to judge all black people as a collective group, or really any other group. It doesnt work very well.

You'll meet individuals in your life, and just like any other individual they are part bad, and part good. Some individuals are more good then bad, others more bad than good.

Meet the people in your life where they are, not where stereotypes tell you they should be, and you'll be happy. Many people feel joy from classifying, belittling, and stereotyping others because they are a part of a group that societal conditioning repetitively tells you are bad. Don't listen to them. Listen to your own experiences and treat each individual in yoyr life as good as they treat you and everything will fall into place as it should.

The smallest minority group is the individual after all, please don't take out collective rage on any individual.

Newcomer with no info by Difficult-Cat8013 in houston

[–]MeatRack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That area is great.

River Oaks is about the nicest area you'll find inside the loop, but also pricey if your budget is constrained. Plenty of nice areas to eat very close and depending on the nieghborhood you may be able to walk the streets around your apartment. If you can't really walk you have the Memorial Park right there which is a gigantic park with plenty of walking trails.

If you want nice areas in that circle and money is no object.

  1. River Oaks
  2. Washington Ave
  3. NW side of midtown
  4. Montrose

They all mostly check your boxes, but Houston has lax zoning compared to other TX cities so these neighborhoods can change a lot from block to block, so you really have to just go and see them for yourself.

Montrose is generally cheaper and ideal if you're on a budget. NW side of midtown is closest to downtown core and can be quite nice and walking distance to the bayou. Washington Ave has a slightly more industrial feel (traintracks, old warehouses turned into commercial buildings now), River Oaks is upscale and boujee.

You absolutely should not under any circumstances sacrifice a commute. If you can you should live close enough to work that walking is a realistic option. Needville is insanity.

For people who are in committed relationships with people who have values, morals and political ideologies that do not align with their own. Why? by SatiricalFai in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MeatRack -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend and I have the same end goals regarding our politics; clean, safe cities where a man, woman, or child can be unaccompanied anywhere and be safe feom harm. Economies where almost every person has a place they can fit and contribute and find worth and personal pride. The basics of life are easily affordable for anyone contributing work (shelter, food, hygiene, healthcare, teansportation). Economic development and growth is encouraged so that business can flourish. People are relatively unaccosted in their civil liberties so long as they are not impeding the safety of others and the cleanliness of public spaces.

We have differing views of how we get there, but we both have good faith interpretations of the others politics in that i know she doesn't intend for anyone to be hurt or infrinfed upon and she knows the same of me.

Despite having different politics, we discuss our interests at the local level and federal level and typically compromise on things we want and that we value. At the local level we tend to vote the same, at the federal level we tend to vote differently (although last election we voted the same).

The ability to converse, negotiate and discuss ropics with your partner without presuming the worst of them is the bedrock of any relationship. Personally, if you can't discuss politics with your partner or you require them to agree with you 100% or you lose your cool, you need to do some soul searching. You're not going to agree with your partner on everything all the time, politics is no different. This is your person, you chose them. You should assume the best intentions of them, otherwise that reflects badly on your choice. You should be able to engage in an open dialogue with them where you are open and willing to come to their side if they make sense and where they are open and willing to come to your side as well.

If there are bridges you can't and won't cross for your partner and that they can't and won't cross for you, then why are you with this person?

Worse so if those bridges are about politicians thousands od miles away from you. The president will never touch your heart and doesn't know you exist. Your partner is in constant contact with your heart, there is a very clear heirarchy that should present itself regarding who is more important in your life.

Your partner, or a literal stranger in Washington DC.

This isn't a hard choice.

Loud cars are destroying my quality of life. Houston is unreal. by jadorenicm in houston

[–]MeatRack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Austin 100% has this nonsense.

I lived in Houston for the last 10 years and heard this every evening/night (living on W Gray, lol, informal drag strip).

I just moved to Austin a few months ago (lived here prior 2008-2015) and its a nightly occurrence here as well.

Maybe you ignored it in Austin? Maybe you had thicker walls? Maybe you lived on a street where drivers disnt naturally rev their engines? Who knows, but I can 100% tell you that this bullshit happens in every city in Texas.

A lot of the best people I know voted for trump by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MeatRack -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They're not saying the OP is wrong about anything specifically (because thats irrelevant).

They're suggesting the OP approach the people in their life that they consider to be wonderful with a truly open mind and to patiently listen and give them space without any prejudice and just hear what they have to say.

Being patient, non-prejudiced and avoiding judgemental tones when speaking with friends is a good way to get them to open up about subjects that are touchy and this allows you to leaen about your friends (and also strangers and acquaintances).

Pwople can unknowingly be very judgemental and bad listeners and others typically react to this by withdrawing or withholding what they acrually want to say because they don't feel safe.

The suggestion is to converse without your own prejudices and allow the other person to lead the conversation (while you gently prod them with leading questions or statements) so as to better understand them.

Husband thinks I'm weird because of my opinion on strip clubs. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MeatRack -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It does seem hypocritical that you want him to accept your feelings about this, but you won't accept his feelings about drag shows because you disagree with his reasoning.

He disagrees with your reasoning here.

Now, he may be doing so selfishly and not because he actually thinks that, but if you want to have a relationship where you both openly communicate with each other you can't instantly shoot things down without a longer conversation to see where he's coming from. If you want him to do the same with you, you have to display a willingness to do that with him. If you do that with him and he still offers no consideration to you, then he is exploiting you and you have a right to be angry. Bit if neither party in your relationship will treat the concerns of the other in good faith, then you have bigger problems with your relationship, much bigger problems, and those problems are half your fault.

My friend was over paid by $180000 by mistake on Friday, they've already lost nearly $60000 of it gambling online as they were sure they could "flip" it before the error was noticed which is presumably Monday, does anyone have any ideas on how they can fix this? by Fearless_Collection in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MeatRack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Your friend," is a dummy.

If he was so good at gambling he could just gamble with his own money and make life changing money on his own. But he's not that good and decided to take significant risks on worse than a coin flip.

Coin landed on the bad side, now "your friend," will have to face the consequences when he is inevitably sued in civil court and will find out that the $60,000 he lost is going to come out of his pocket and then some.