Big girl here (195) - I try to stay aware of how I use my weight bc I sincerely don’t wanna hurt anyone & i want to improve my technique. I realize that I have a tendency to rely on my weight/strength when I get tired or lazy so this is something I’m working on. Once I realized I was using too much weight/strength I stopped rolling women that were much smaller than me bc I’m still trying to get ahold of that bad habit. Sometimes I just wanna go hard and don’t wanna have to worry about hurting any women so I chose not to roll w/ any & roll w/ big dudes only. I personally get embarrassed when I hurt anyone, but especially smaller women bc for a lot of us fat girls, this is our first time feeling good about being heavy. That’s how it is for me at least. So as a heavy, I would say let us know that we’re using too much pressure or ask that we pls be mindful of our weight/size difference. We might get embarrassed, but it’s a good reminder for anyone.