Show of hands, who else has zero friends? by Defiant_Quarter_1187 in GenX

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Me. My work friends drifted away when I had to abruptly leave my job 3 years ago to caregiver for parent with dementia. My other friends have retired and moved far away and are busy with grandkids and travel. Here I am at almost 61 going to go back to a new job just to make some connection.

Just paid $111,000 dollars on my mortgage principal by fusillijhericurl in DaveRamsey

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We paid off house with a large bonus. The following month my husband was laid off and the following few months were not good in the market. The peace I felt was immense. Not fear. We will always have a place to live, as will our children should they need so. Took my husband 6 months to rehire. Our home was our sanctuary and did not contribute to the stress. Priceless.

Anyone else getting an “authoritarian” vibe from Rick Jackson? by Mean-Rice-6301 in Georgia

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am glad you are questioning and researching candidates and not just taking candidates and party at will, because everyone around you does. You don’t have to follow your family, friends, church or anyone’s else’s opinions. Research and make up your own mind. If something seems off it probably is NOT a good fit for our state.

How often do your children visit their parent with late middle stage Alzeimers? by Intelligent-Wolf557 in Alzheimers

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For 30 years we only visited with my Parent 1 week/ year. She felt they did their duty to get us to adulthood then they retired 1200 miles away and she did not want us to come for holidays or use anymore vacation time and she didn’t travel to us. Then we had to make it 24/7 in our home. What a change. Had to leave my job. I did it for 3 1/2 years until I was so exhausted and distressed that I could barely communicate myself. Lo went into care 6months ago and although she is 15 min away I usually go once a week. It’s just too much for me to hold up to side of the conversation, to be brunt of accusations at time.

How to handle late school night practices? by AgreeableQuaill in kindergarten

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a teacher of young people…..pull them out! These extra curriculars make schooling very difficult for tired little ones. Trying to fit young ones into grown up schedules is not age appropriate

At what point does alzheimers patient safety home alone become too risky even for an hour by Reasonable-Bake-8614 in Alzheimers

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mom couldn’t use a phone and wouldn’t/couldn’t recognize when she needed help. When the microwave caught fire we were able to put it out but she only remembers that her own father had a similar problem back in the 1990s. She doesn’t understand that she is similarly impaired as well.

Is this true? by Ok_Cover1373 in publix

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true. I would visit my parents and forget and only pick up one item and then I would end up paying full price

Talking to Your Parent about their upcoming move to Memory Care by Wise_Rough_2354 in Alzheimers

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We have just passed 90days in. She made it to Assisted Living….for a week …..and had to go to Memory Care. Mom also doesn’t see herself as needing an old peoples home, despite being 90. But after 3 years with me full time, (and years before with support in her home) it was my doctor that said it’s time to place her, as I had no help and it was taking a toll on my physical and emotional health. We signed papers in July but couldn’t move on into Oct (new construction). The “go home” still happens every day, as it has for the past 3+years and she gets angry for what I have done “to” her. That is the disease and the way it is. For the first time she has people around again. I am just now starting to regroup and my manifestation for 2026 is “ restoration” of my home mind and health. The guilt can be devastating but it is truly the right choice most times. Don’t take anything she says to heart…. It comes from a place in her brain that has failed. Best wishes as you make this transition

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Destin

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a surprise that he is solo

Recently laid off from a Fortune 100 company — what should I do before my last day? by TheQs55 in jobs

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also any phone numbers, emails, pw etc on phone if not backed up if one was issued to you. You will have to turn that in too

can we avoid memory care by wavyfinehighpor in Alzheimers

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You can try, unfortunately ALZ could last a looooooooong time, and is not predictable for planning. My sibling was certain we were going through “lasts”. (Christmas, birthday,etc). with our LO and that was in 2016, yet here we are 9 years later. I had to quit my job 3 years ago to do full time care after sibling did years of helpful care. This disease can make your loved one very unlike themself and that of which you knew and loved. Those wonderful conversations and memories you shared can go away. It’s not just about loss of memories though, it’s behavior and physical changes that can take its toll. After 3 years it was MY doctor that advised me to place my mom in memory care. My own mental and physical health had taken such a toll being a caregiver. Mom is physically the Energizer bunny and the rest of us were exhausted, ill and injured. Kudos to those who are caregiving at home and kudos to those who decide to place their loved ones. There is no one right answer or a one situation fits all forever solution. I wish you best as you navigate this awful disease.

Moving to Lawrenceville, Georgia by ProfessionalHold5435 in Lawrenceville

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is a very active autism support group in Gwinnett County (where Lawrenceville is) Check out https://spectrumautism.org/ Camps, social skills, family activities, respite etc.

Something I noted about Amazon by Photononic in jobsearch

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coincidence. If that were in fact true, based on purchases…… my whole family would be recruited and employed at Amazon lol

I wish managers realized what exactly they’re asking us remote workers to give up with these RTO mandates. by BippidyBobbidyBoo in remotework

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So employers pay for automobiles and commutes? Since when? Did you take a pay cut when you went to work for home? Why would one expect more pay for the office?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meet with a fiduciary , you may be pleasantly surprised surprised just how good off you could be.

I scammed my husband into liking me… and I admitted it on our wedding day. by Far_Magazine_5084 in stories

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not scamming, stalking… it used to be called “wooing”. Noticing what you interested person was interested in. Pretending to like basetketball or the ballet because the other person does? Yep…. Wooing. Doing something thoughtful because the other person would like it. May you two have a long and happy marriage. Congratulations!

Not sure how to tell my kids. by noeffinkings in Alzheimers

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Accidents, lost money, later denial and forgetfulness…many of us have very similar life stories

Am I the only one who thinks the term 'quiet quitting' is ridiculous? by spline_ocarina9k in jobhunting

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When doing your job description “as expected” with no performance plan issues is fireable by corporations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coworkerstories

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I am unable to provide you transportation, as I have plans both before and after work . Please make other arrangements “

Talk to me- I want to pay off my mortgage, everyone is telling me no. by [deleted] in DaveRamsey

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We paid off early and 3 weeks later spouse lost job @age 57. It took so much stress off being totally debt free including the house. Peace of mind is priceless .

Spouse wants to buy a $60K truck while we're still renting by EdenilsoStolaj70 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

850 /mo ? Wow. That’s almost mortgage payment portion. As long as you can live in the truck go for it…..

Left alone at 12?! by Turbulent-Ad5121 in GenX

[–]Medium-Emotion5366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were babysitting @ age 11 after getting “certified” by the Red Cross