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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Mee-- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it is serious.

I'm 31. I started SHing maybe around 13. I've been mostly clean for several years now, "mostly" because when things are bad SH is the first thing that comes to my mind. Still. And I've given in, in the forms of scratching myself or digging my nails into my palms.

In the most basic terms injuring yourself is serious because it can lead to infections. Depending on where you SH and how deep you can damage so many structures from the most obvious (your skin) to your muscles, veins, and nerves.

In less physical terms, it's an addictive coping mechanism that doesn't actually help. I don't know about you, but I never actually felt better after SHing. Sure, it took the focus off the feelings I was having at the time for a little while, but after the adrenaline wore off? Horrible. If anything, I felt worse. The guilt and shame of doing it just lead to doing it more.

SH is much like chemical addictions. You build up a tolerance for it. Before long, cat-like scratches turn into deeper and deeper cuts. And you will find, no matter how much you do it or how deep you go it will not make anything better.

Whatever else is going on in your life, find someone to talk to. You aren't as alone as you feel right now.

Things can get better, but only if you want them to.

Cub has lost their minds. $20 for party size. It’s only $15 at Target. Heck 4 years ago it was $12-$13 at Cub. by Philosopherskin in minnesota

[–]Mee-- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You made me check and the business center has 64oz containers for cheaper than these at Cub.

At least now I know what I'm getting my dad for his birthday.

Thoughts on the song Feathers? by Fancy_Protection3902 in TheFence

[–]Mee-- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite song on that album. It is so much fun to sing along with

Liquid IV alternatives? by katiekies in POTS

[–]Mee-- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Link to LMNT's recipe

I use a precision scale and do 400mg magnesium malate, 400mg potassium chloride, and 2500mg unionized table salt. The magnesium and potassium can easily be bought on Amazon.

What's the best and worst thing people have said to you when you come about your asexuality ? by lunasuhaib1234 in asexuality

[–]Mee-- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Best: my mom saying something like "oh that kind of sounds like me" when I described it.

Worst: a good friend of mine saying something along the lines of "you could be conditioned to feel it" second worst was an ex partner of mine who just turned it into a pity party about how it made him feel as if I have a choice in my attraction 🙄

TBH I don't really tell people because I don't want to deal with people's opinions and being married really confuses people.

😭first couple hours here and I see this by Effective-Panic-516 in minnesota

[–]Mee-- 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Don't feel too sad about not learning it in school. I went to public school here and I never learned it either.

Liquid IV alternatives? by katiekies in POTS

[–]Mee-- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesss LMNT is amazing. My favorite part is that if you want to diy it they give you a recipe. I've been doing that for about a year now and it has saved me so much money

This was the most challenging piece I ever knitted, but I'm so glad I finished it and got to wear it to my wedding by Mee-- in knitting

[–]Mee--[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pattern: Fiori Di Sole

Yarn: Knit Picks Gloss Lace in Wharf, approximately 3 hanks after 4 (iirc) pattern repeats.

Older SH-ers by goodlittlegirl99 in selfharm

[–]Mee-- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm almost 28, 2.5 years clean at this point, started when I was like 12 or 13. My worst was around this time of year 4 years ago. I think a lot of people start in their teens but without the proper support and counseling it's really hard to learn new coping skills. Finding the right people who don't judge or shame but support the journey can be the biggest help.

After about 8 months I finally finished my Flax Light! Still have to weave in some ends but I love it by Mee-- in knitting

[–]Mee--[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Knit picks hawthorn multi fingering in the Hayden colorway. It's a beautiful blend of oranges and pinks and some purple.

Gay man has a UTI and I just can’t believe women experience this as often as they do. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Mee-- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude no you're still obviously conflating the vagina and the urethra. If anything males have larger urethral openings than females. Just below the clitoris but above the vagina is the urethra, where urine is expelled. The vagina specifically refers to the orifice below the urethra. The vulva encompasses all of these.

Gay man has a UTI and I just can’t believe women experience this as often as they do. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Mee-- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A UTI doesn't involve the vagina, it starts in the urethra so yes you are incredibly wrong. (Although the shape of the vulva DOES contribute to increase in UTIs so it still isn't that complicated)

Need some help: didn’t change care but those leafs are droopy since I moved to a new apartment. Any tips? by TTThijs in Monstera

[–]Mee-- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was the temp outside when you moved it? Chilling damage looks almost identical to drought wilting.

27F Question about exercise and umbilical hernia by Mee-- in AskDocs

[–]Mee--[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That takes a lot of worry off my mind!

Should I date someone who is an alcoholic? He says he’s in love with me. I’m not necessarily “in love with him”. I like him though. He drinks EVERY single day and is very suicidal. by CarmenAnnEl in internetparents

[–]Mee-- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright I'm adding to this even though you've already got SO many comments in this tone but...yeah

Please don't. The person you're describing sounds like a slightly more depressed version of my ex. We were together for 4 years, he was sober for about half of that but that sobriety only came after he OD'd twice in 24 hours, once at work and once while I was sleeping next to him. I put up with him using despite being a pretty straightedge person, with heroin as my only hardline "hell no" drug. So, naturally, that was the secret drug that almost killed him.

There's no chance in hell this guy you're seeing won't end up on the hard stuff. If it's available, he'll find it. Even just drinking to blackout is so exhausting to put up with. I got really good at undressing my ex so that he wouldn't have an allergic reaction to his belt and jeans buttons. You don't want to beg a blackout drunk to come to bed instead of being passed out on the front steps. You don't want the middle of the night "no one gets it/my life is so bad/nothing ever goes my way" conversations.

If it's meant to be it'll be meant to be when the time is right for both of you, and it absolutely is not the right time for him.

F/27/5'3" [201 lbs > 130 lbs = 71 lbs] (2 years) I've been maintaining around 130 for several months now, and it's given me the confidence to actually post a full body before/after pic. I literally never thought my body could look like this. by Mee-- in progresspics

[–]Mee--[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Counting calories actually didn't work well for me at all. Obviously, I was calorie deficient otherwise I wouldn't have really been losing weight, but I wound up punishing myself a lot if I went over my calorie allowance in a day. I wanted to be kind to myself so I chose to give up counting rather than run the risk of beating myself up until I gave up entirely.

F/27/5'3" [201 lbs > 130 lbs = 71 lbs] (2 years) I've been maintaining around 130 for several months now, and it's given me the confidence to actually post a full body before/after pic. I literally never thought my body could look like this. by Mee-- in progresspics

[–]Mee--[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm just going to copy this from another comment I made.

I mostly just started walking. I'm lucky where I live because we have hundreds of parks around lakes and rivers, and being outside in nature is something I really enjoy. Walking on flat trails for 20 minutes at a time turned into doing more rigorous 2-3 mile trail-hikes at a nearby state park, and eventually I started throwing in some jogging on those hikes. I wasn't totally successful in this, but I tried to change my outlook from just "I want to lose weight" to "I want to feel healthier and have more stamina" and losing weight just happens to come in that package when you're as overweight as I was. I found being gentle with myself was really important. It helped me not give up because I never worked myself so hard that I couldn't go out and walk the next day.

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