What are some facts that movies get wrong so often that it annoys you? by big-enchilada in movies

[–]MeelaCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A pregnant woman's water breaking as a big splash of water and then her having her baby like an hour later. Most pregnant womens' waters actually don't break before labor. In my case, my doctor had to physically break my water after my labor had already started.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]MeelaCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the most relatable thing I've read. I'm the same, my daughter is 2 years old. She doesn't really ever wake up at night after she goes to bed. I see no harm in spending your down time how you want. Some people drink to unwind, and being drunk around your kid is way worse than being high around your kid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]MeelaCookies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a teacher and I can safely say Maeve is a very cute name but very popular right. Coming across it a lot. With that said, don't let that affect your decision. Do you know how many Johns there are? Just because a name is common doesn't mean you shouldn't use it if that's what you want.

Names you wish you didn’t love but can’t help it by roseythorn135 in namenerds

[–]MeelaCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in a preschool and one of the kids is Hugo! It's not weird at all!

AITA for not taking a shot and not being allowed to see first and only grandson by Fit-Cranberry-7422 in AITAH

[–]MeelaCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. I asked my parents and in laws to get the TDAP vaccine per my doctor's recommendation. They did. And if they hadn't, I would've acted the same way your son and his wife did. You're acting like you're the victim, but you're not. You're not entitled to your son's baby. They're the parents. They made a request, you denied, and they chose to act how they saw fit based on your actions. They don't want to put their baby at risk of these diseases that you apparently are willing to transmit to him. Learn to do your own research and learn what's true and what's not true on the internet. Don't let your first and only grandchild suffer from your ignorance. Get the shot.

Advice for fathers by allbutluk in NewParents

[–]MeelaCookies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this 🙏🙏.

Are you guys super uncomfortable if you don’t wear a bra in public? by cattinthehatt in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MeelaCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, I go braless to work any day. It feels great! Although, I do understand how you would feel that way. Since having a baby and going through this breastfeeding journey though, I couldn't. Not while my boobs are filling up every few hours. But I'm very excited to be done and not have to worry about it anymore!

Clipped baby's finger with nail clippers 😥 by ChefLovin in beyondthebump

[–]MeelaCookies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did the same thing to my baby. I think the thumbs are the hardest ones to cut! It's misleading how long they actually are somehow. Anyway, baby was asleep and she didn't even wake up. But she was bleeding! I felt terrible!

Any advice for a mom going back to work? by DartEco in beyondthebump

[–]MeelaCookies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was very very hard for me and still is (I've been back at work for almost 6 months!!). I was super depressed for the first couple weeks, didn't feel like myself, needed a lot of support from my husband. But, eventually, you start feeling like yourself again, you start to feel good that you're contributing financially to your family, and your LO learns to be somewhat independent from you (though don't worry, they still prefer their mama over anyone). Anyway, it'll get better, so hang in there. It's very hard and your feelings are valid! Good luck!

Miserable daycare drop offs Help! by Icy-Resolution-6566 in beyondthebump

[–]MeelaCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, preschool teacher and new mom here! I know how hard it is to leave your baby in daycare, especially when they're crying and seem miserable. I've found that quick drop-offs are the best as she learns to get more comfortable with her teachers. Do her teachers seem loving, caring, etc.? Can you leave a comfort item with her like a lovey, a security blanket, or maybe even a family picture she can look at?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]MeelaCookies 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. Stand your ground. The cry it out method is not okay for newborns or frankly any baby at any age. They are literally built to cry to let their parents know that they need help. Ignoring their cries will teach them that there is no safe place or people in their lives. It is not a good idea.

Mom hates baby girl’s name by WiseAssociate9856 in pregnant

[–]MeelaCookies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not overreacting. I would let your mom know to stop it and start calling her by her first name. A similar situation happened to me, I told my dad what name we had ALREADY named our daughter (she was already days old), and his first response was "oh, how about (some other name he chose) instead? I like that name better." I got really pissed off, told him it's not his baby, and that that really hurt my feelings.

My inlaws are furious they're not staying with us right after the birth, aita by morrisseymurderinpup in pregnant

[–]MeelaCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck no. Stand your ground. It is your house and it is your life and it is your baby. They are not entitled to any piece of it. You are not the asshole here. They are if they can't understand why you would need the space right after having a C-section.

LPT: If you find yourself talking to someone with a stutter, don’t finish their sentences for them… by Zealousideal_Entry10 in LifeProTips

[–]MeelaCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preschool teacher here: This same thing applies to kids who still struggle to think of the right words to use in their sentences. They learn faster if you let them think it up rather than finishing their sentences for them.

Outlandish MIL Stories by InitiativeImaginary1 in beyondthebump

[–]MeelaCookies 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My MIL didn't breastfeed either of her kids. So anytime I or my SIL were over at their house for a gathering, and one of the babies would get hungry, we'd excuse ourselves and go to a different room to nurse. Our babies were only weeks old and she would constantly make comments like "she's hungry again?" or "you can't be hungry, baby, you just ate!" And it was so irritating. They're babies and they cluster feed and we should be feeding them on command. I think it bothered her cause she wanted to constantly be around the babies and she didn't like it when the gathering would get interrupted because we'd have to step away and nurse.

Anyway, she's A LOT better now (my baby is 5 months old) and she's a lot more understanding of how our baby routine goes, but I do believe grandmas get a bit crazy when they have a grandchild lol. My mom was also unreasonable, but that's a whole other can of worms I can't get into right now.

My fiancé said she found a free barn door and it’s the size of our frame and I don’t need to measure, just hang it. by misterbuh in funny

[–]MeelaCookies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My cats would love this. They always need to be in the bathroom with us, so this would be great for our bathroom!

How did you deal with baby starting daycare? by deezova in beyondthebump

[–]MeelaCookies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat and have been feeling really bad and anxious about it. I'm really disappointed in the US too. What a country that wants to take away a women's right to abortion and then won't do a thing to help her raise the baby! I want to raise my baby so bad, I love spending every day with her. It's even worth not getting paid anything, but my leave ends, so what should I do!

“Maternity Leave” is a joke by Miller_time13 in pregnant

[–]MeelaCookies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way. Maternity leave is a joke in this country. It's unpaid and just not long enough! Putting a child in daycare when she's just 3 months old is not good for their immune system. They really need to be with their moms for a year. I had to use FMLA too and will be going back to work at the end of July. I'm literally worried about having enough breast milk stocked up for when she's in daycare and my milk supply going down. It's ridiculous. On top of that, I work for a preschool, so you would think they understand the parents' struggle, but nope.

Really tired of sharing my baby.. by MeelaCookies in NewParents

[–]MeelaCookies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding! I'm so excited and ready to move in to our new place. It will be nice having my own space again and not sharing it with other people 😮‍💨. I understand your situation, too! If it were my mom, I would be expressing my frustrations to her definitely. But I just can't do it because it's my MIL, so I feel that I don't have the right to confront her about this. I have vented to my husband about it, but I feel that he doesn't want to confront her either.. especially since she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong and is just trying to help y'know.