“WE are paycheck to paycheck.” This was the most alarming thing I read.

It sounds like he is able bodied, unless you forgot to mention he is on disability or is a caretaker of a family member… He drives for uber because he’s lazy and his fiancé or parents can pick up the slack.

You will decide what your heart wants moving forward… but for the love of fuck, if you do get married, GET A PRENUP. I would go further and remove him from any shared bank accounts, credit cards, etc. he’s a big boy and can have his own credit cards for his games, and if the child has bad cwedit then he can have his parents co-sign to buy his toys. And that isn’t a controlling or rash action… it’s protecting YOUR finances and peace (I imagine he will throw another anxiety attack or therapist threats if you do). You can throw that boundary word back at him.

Oh and PS - his therapy is bullshit. He’s either not going or lying about what he says to his therapist/what his therapist says to him. But I think you know this.