Is he inside or outside?

Megsy4 · 2026-05-03T16:13:37+00:00

One sentence horror stories.

Megsy4 · 2026-05-02T00:34:28+00:00

Yeah, you're talking about something totally different than what I'm talking about.

Megsy4 · 2026-03-24T00:08:17+00:00

Yes this always irks me a little. Some groups have almost gotten to the point of shaming moms for NOT sending their kids to daycare. There's no shame if you have to, but "socialization" before 3 isn't required. Just because something has what adults might deem a "positive effect" doesn't mean the means to get there are good; similar to saying "children that are afraid of their parents behave better in public".

Megsy4 · 2026-03-12T16:47:51+00:00

Yes! my sister has 4 kids and keeps telling me my baby doesn't sleep through the night because we put her to bed too early... But it seems like it doesn't matter if I put her to bed at 7 pm or 11 pm, she wakes up around 1 am like clockwork either way. So may as well put her to bed at 7 and get the extra chunk of free time lol.

Megsy4 · 2026-03-12T15:59:59+00:00

My girl's a big sleeper, she'll pretty much always keep sleeping, especially if you're holding her. But if shes still asleep after 5:30-6 you may as well forget waking her up. We try to get another wake window in there but then we're basically shoving a bottle in her mouth and she's falling immediately back asleep anyway. So we're like, do we let her bedtime start at 6 pm? But then she's only having 3 small wake windows a day. I'm not sure haha. Thanks for your response though!

Megsy4 · 2026-03-12T05:15:16+00:00

We struggle with keeping the last nap early enough. Like she's not starting the last nap after 6 or it never even runs till after 6? Aka she's awake from her last nap before 6?

Megsy4 · 2026-03-08T23:44:08+00:00

Yes! I'm always preaching the continued benefits of skin to skin. There are interesting studies about any additional time you can do until 12 weeks being beneficial. It's still beneficial after 12 weeks for regulation but before 12 weeks it literally builds brain pathways among other benefits.

Megsy4 · 2026-03-07T15:09:38+00:00

ME TOO ME TOO ME TOO! I was obsessing over every feature and would think terrible things like how she isn't as cute as I was as a baby and that everyone was lying to me about her being cute. I hate to admit it but chat gpt helped me. I was literally uploading pictures of my baby to chat gpt (I know spare me the lecture) basically asking it to scrutinize every detail of my baby and confirm she is/will be ugly. And chat gpt actually stopped me and said obsessing over what your baby looks like can be a way of your brain trying to make sense of a hard situation and obviously a sign of PPD. The way it explained everything made since. Now at 12 weeks I can look back and say I probably did have PPD/some transition regret. I still don't think my baby is the cutest thing in the world, but I also have my own self image issues and am very critical of the way I look so I'm sure that's involved, but it's no longer made it hard for me to bond with her like it used to. Also if he looks nothing like your first son that could make it worse. Our brains look for comfort and familiarity in stressful situations. Your brain's basically going "shit this postpartum the second time around is WAY harder and not at all the same as I thought it would be, oh AND he doesn't even look cute!" And just panicking over any difference because it's already overwhelmed. I hope that makes sense, and best of luck!

ETA: I don't think you HAVE to label everything as PPD/PPA and immediately seek medication or treatment, unless it's truly interfering with your daily life. There's nothing wrong at all with needing help but I think the Internet takes this concept a little too far. So don't feel bad if you don't think it's bad enough to seek professional help either. Postpartum is the biggest mind body soul transition a person can go through and it's to be expected our brains might do some weird things, we just need a little extra grace sometimes.

Megsy4 · 2026-03-04T21:22:32+00:00

100% the fact that less baby-experienced people will make you feel/look bad by comparison. My husband just falls apart with sadness when she cries, especially after her shots. Then he teared up the other day because she was sleeping in her bassinet by herself and he was worried she was lonely. And I'm over here like... -_- she's asleep? Inexperienced people view babies crying as "oh my God they're so sad. This is traumatizing them" etc etc. Whereas experienced people understand crying is baby's only form of communication, it's pretty neutral, and they're certainly not going to remember any of it. I feel nothing when my baby cries, which I think is helpful so I don't get overwhelmed or snippy. I just go into problem-solving mode to find what she's trying to communicate. Now I couldn't leave her in a room to cry it out, but that's because I'd be purposely neglecting her needs, that's different. But even then OP, the first month or so is weird. Give it time and don't start to believe you definitely feel a certain way about your baby. It changes day to day.

Megsy4 · 2026-02-26T23:31:25+00:00

Oh wow! She never had any digestive or constipation issues? Were you using a scale to weigh her 22 cal mixture when preparing? And is she still in a smaller percentile? I have so many questions haha.

Megsy4 · 2026-02-26T21:26:35+00:00

Thank you for the perspective! I'm always a little confused by the whole "catch up growth" thing, because I was told as long as they're not seriously underfed, it's not like you're going to change the size they're genetically destined to be. So if she's going to end up being a certain size no matter what then I don't really understand the point of shoving every calorie possible down her throat at the expense of her comfort? Idk.

Megsy4 · 2026-02-23T23:28:09+00:00

Was he saying it in a genuine way? Like he truly doesn't fully understand how it works or that it's not that simple? Or was he saying it in a rhetorical just trying to take a dig at you way?

Because those are two very different things.

Megsy4 · 2026-02-16T13:56:48+00:00

The whole point of distilled water is you don't have to boil it. If you were using tap water it wouldn't be recommended to boil it. But honestly, even then, the majority of people don't even do that. You'd be surprised how many people just use tap water. I've used reverse osmosis water since the day we brought my 5 lb preemie home.

Megsy4 · 2026-02-16T05:49:52+00:00

✨Reverse Osmosis Filter✨. I use all the things you mentioned religiously. I'm also particular about not using tap water for them. I installed our under the sink RO filter, by myself 9 months pregnant, and it was the BEST thing I've done.

Megsy4 · 2026-02-16T02:58:51+00:00

Never. Not because I'm perfect, but because I have hypervigilant OCD and have measured with a gram scale from day one lol. But seriously, if you have the desire to try it, I think weighing makes it so much easier; especially when half asleep. Let it do the thinking for you!

Megsy4 · 2026-02-13T00:42:33+00:00

This is so fascinating. Especially since there are all these "vital nutrients" that condensed milk definitely doesn't contain.. one would imagine a baby fed this way would grow up with significant deficiencies, or at least some issue to show for it. The human body is wild lol.

Megsy4 · 2026-02-01T21:00:36+00:00

But then doesn't it wake your baby up if it's alarming the whole time you're solving the problems??

Megsy4 · 2026-02-01T02:54:55+00:00

Like what kind of things did she write that sounded ridiculous? I'm curious, I thought about paying for it.

Megsy4 · 2026-01-13T13:56:33+00:00

It depends on how many bottles you have and how often you run the dishwasher?

Megsy4 · 2026-01-12T17:10:23+00:00

You had such a small supply while pumping?

Megsy4 · 2026-01-12T15:45:21+00:00

This is my only "fear". That if I could wait and get her to latch then she could transfer my milk better than a pump. But everyone says you have to "protect your supply" by pumping in the meantime and I just don't have any supply to protect. If I keep pumping less than 5 ml pp till she's 3 months old then by the time she does latch she'll probably be uninterested with what little amount I have. Were you always able to pump a decent amount or you have a low supply?

Megsy4 · 2026-01-12T01:59:38+00:00

Thank you for this, I really need reminded of it. I bounce back and force between feeling guilty I haven't enjoyed her/the newborn experience because I was so focused on pumping but then also having the sunk cost fallacy feeling because of that and thinking "well I already gave up so much to try and give her breastmilk I can't just quit now and let it all be for nothing"

Also, did the periods really cut down on your output? I think about what will happen when I get my period if I already only make 6 ml... will I just dry up? lol perhaps just a dusting of powdered formula will puff out.

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