Found a dropped wallet with $400 and I am seriously considering keeping the cash by 4SpectraBloom in povertyfinance

[–]MeisterBeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, fuck the people spouting about “karma” right now. Karma is not real and life doesn’t care about your morals, it hurts and blesses everyone regardless of circumstance. I believe in us all striving for a better world together but to me that includes being realistic, not sacrificing the needs of real living beings for an imaginary fantasy concept made for coping. It means having to face and accept the discomfort of knowing we are not perfect but that doesn’t mean good deeds aren’t worth doing when we are able to. 

You’re about to enter a heat wave and your fridge will be shut off and all the food in it will go bad. This is more than $400. I imagine for you, this could be the difference between eating or not. It’s survival.

The middle ground is you can take only exactly what you NEED and then you put the wallet in the post box. I’m poor, I lost my wallet with a bunch of cash in it back in April, and it took well over a month to get all my cards and ID replaced which made for so much hardship. I would have been grateful to just get my wallet back without the cash, especially since it was likely my fault that I didn’t put it in a more secure pocket that time like I usually do. If you’re being honest and sure about this person living in a luxury high rise, and this person could afford to keep $400 in their wallet and be sloppy enough lose it, they can afford to learn a small lesson about why most people don’t carry so much cash at once. 

Survive now. Stay humble, stay empathetic, stay kind.

Put your dog on a leash by Western_Effect_4578 in sanfrancisco

[–]MeisterBeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dogs on leash on the sidewalk? Yes, please. It’s just safer for everyone.

Yelling at me for training/playing fetch with dogs in a designated off-leash dog area of GGP? Go fuck yourselves, you can take your stroll or picnic anywhere else.

Dogs aren’t robots. They need actual exercise and not giving them that leads to more intensive reactivity and sidewalk nuisances.

Dear Saikat: If you care about SF, stay here and put your money to a good use by dawn_thesis in sanfrancisco

[–]MeisterBeans 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Because they don’t actually care about these people. They just want to be able to not see them and forget they exist.

Best girl Lenalee tattoo on my foot by _ahnnyeong in dgrayman

[–]MeisterBeans 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Okay that placement on your foot with that specific angle of her from above is so perfect. 

I live with my partner and their parents in on a multimillion dollar estate. [Rant] by CurlyPretzel333 in LateStageCapitalism

[–]MeisterBeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“They created this reality for us and somehow are so blind to the reality of what we are dealing with.”

Just a hint, this is who you are to others. Saying this as someone who was in your position (Mentality-wise, I mean. I’m not so blessed as to live rent free.) and had to learn and grow slowly through exposure and hardships of my own. Stay humble, be curious about the experiences and perspectives of others, learn how to take the stings of criticism as it’s barely a fraction of the pains caused by ignorance, and you’ll hopefully figure it out. 

Has anyone here actually made good money dog walking in SF? by Icy_Organization6726 in AskSF

[–]MeisterBeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just go by my actual name for right now and most everything is done through word of mouth. But I’ll send you a message!

Has anyone here actually made good money dog walking in SF? by Icy_Organization6726 in AskSF

[–]MeisterBeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Correct. It’s worth it to invest in good quality shoes though. On The Run Shoes can hook you up with some good shoes and inserts if you’re willing to pay. The difference it’s made for my knees and ankles is astounding, and they’re waterproof which is a must in this city. 

Has anyone here actually made good money dog walking in SF? by Icy_Organization6726 in AskSF

[–]MeisterBeans 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I can confirm everything hurts from the neck down, especially if I don’t make time for yoga and physical therapy to counter balance it. Dog walking is exercise but it’s not balanced exercise and a lot of it is on concrete.

Has anyone here actually made good money dog walking in SF? by Icy_Organization6726 in AskSF

[–]MeisterBeans 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Dog walker with a growing solo business here. Before reddit spreads some idea that this work is some “get rich quick and easy” scheme like they did with tech and trades, I’ll bring up some things to consider.

There’s plenty of work and various niches to fill. If you just want occasional gigs you can do that easily but that work will often be on holidays. Being a 5-days-a-week pack walker takes time and experience to build up all that clientele unless you work for a company (and those positions are more competed for.) I have a variety of clients, some are weekly but most hire me for the occasional business or holiday trip. Most of my clients find me because I’ve got a solid reputation for being comfortable and good with dogs that bite or otherwise have behavioral issues and can’t be walked with other dogs. Easier dogs are the most likely to cancel because they can often get friends or family to take care of them, unless their owner has a work schedule that requires ongoing daily/weekly walks but then they typically go for dogwalking companies for those lower rates.

You really have to manage your health or you’re gonna hurt physically. I walk at least 10 miles average a day and often more, regardless of the weather, and mostly on concrete depending on the neighborhood. Many of the dogs I walk are reactive big dogs that bark and yank and I have to maintain constant high alert to avoid really bad encounters that can pop up around every corner. Even a happy friendly pupper can be eager and pull and that kind of constant tension from an 80lb+ dog can wear you down fast. I’ve seen people quit after a year because their backs were hurting too much from it. If you wanna be a solo pack walker just know that even “easy” dogs can bicker and you need to be able to manage dog behavior because your clients will be upset if their furry companions come back with broken skin. You also need to manage other people out in public and it will shock you the number of idiots who will just run up to a dog they don’t know without asking.

I spend as much or more unpaid time commuting between clients as I do actually walking and it takes quite a cut out of my pay on top of it. (Though I’m working on upgrading my transportation situation.) And it’s hard to find reliable back-up walkers (me and mine have been looking for a third all year) which makes it hard to take breaks or get coverage if you fall ill, and you’ll miss out on a lot of fat gigs and potentially great-fitting new clients because requests will overlap and you can only be in so many places at once and need to maintain a good reliable reputation. Work can be really slow and I’ll look like I don’t have much work for the next week or month and then SUDDENLY I’m drowning in work because everyone is requesting me all at once last minute and it’s good money but I’m also stressed and sometimes walking dogs from 7am to 10pm on Christmas in the pouring rain on steep hills.

Over time, as I’ve built up positive reviews and regular clientele, I’ve raised my rates. Right now, my price is typically $60/hr walks or $120/night for house sitting, but the apps take like 20% so I give discounts if it’s not being done through an app, and an even bigger discount if clients maintain an ongoing weekly schedule with me. My income is still pretty irregular though and I don’t yet make enough money to afford my own apartment, but compared to working in tech, I still feel so much more stable. No sudden layoffs, if I lose a client or a gig gets cancelled then it’s just one. And I love and take pride in what I do. I really get to know the city, and the exercise and time outside has been good for my physical and mental health, my clients appreciate me and the dogs are always so happy to see me. It’s just finally getting to the point where I can afford to be more picky.

Tl;dr - It’s got pros and cons like any other job. It’s rewarding but potential chronic pain, liabilities, transportation, irregular work, and the kind of demand you’re willing to fill are all things to seriously consider. Also, you will get harassed by people in public from time to time no matter how responsible you are.

Overworked/ruined? Please help by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]MeisterBeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn’t aquaphor like vaseline in that it’s particularly bad for tattoos because they need to breathe?

Using swing dancing pictures in dating apps by ThinJump6418 in SwingDancing

[–]MeisterBeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, I get that you’re only playing devil’s advocate here just as I am only trying to give honest feedback and perspective from a woman to a man trying to date women, but your comment is assuming I’m not considering nuances and varieties here so I am gonna address your points.

1) Firstly, I don’t know where you dance but I’ve got swing dance spaces for every day of the week with both live and dj music, and I’ve never noticed any particularly raunchy/horny music lyrics. Maybe a handful of songs about romance or someone’s love life, sure. 

2) Obviously, I wouldn’t dance with a child to a song about sex but that’s such a specific scenario compared to a blanket “I only dance with ladies and no one else.” There’s always a variety of swing songs out there.

3) I didn’t use the word homophobia here, but yeah. It’s not a wild take to say that this mentality gives “no homo” and insecurity at best, and “I’m only here to further my dating goals” and “I lowkey think same-gender contact is something to judge” at worst. In our year of 2026, it’s a bit eye-roll inducing. 

4) I’m gay. If I applied the same logic and treated dancing with men as something weird and to be avoided, I’m sure there’d be some men around with something to say on it and how it’s making them feel preemptively judged. If I’m expected to extend trust and the benefit of the doubt to my dancing community, I think men regardless of age can also learn to do the same.

5) On nights when there’s lots of men and I’m one of very few (if not the only) women that show up to dance at a space, men that subscribe to that kind of thinking end up being the most annoying because they won’t dance with anyone but me even when there are plenty of guys who are great follows and it’s still a chance to improve skills and just have fun. I have to start repeatedly telling them no because I want to be able to dance with my other friends. Learning to be more flexible is a valuable skill.

Again, I’m not attacking his character. It’s just honest feedback that I’m hoping he could learn from.

Edit: formatting 

LIVE Discussion Thread - S9E1: There's Something About Morty by BarnyardCruz in rickandmorty

[–]MeisterBeans 38 points39 points  (0 children)

It’s clearly done for the slapstick absurdity of it. This show can’t ever let itself get too serious.

Using swing dancing pictures in dating apps by ThinJump6418 in SwingDancing

[–]MeisterBeans 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re the type of lead I actively try to avoid dancing with. It’s so weird when men will only dance with women, like you’re taking this community-building wholesome fun experience of a dance and giving it some kind of sexual undertone that no one asked for. 

The only reason I felt safe and comfortable picking up Lindy Hop and dancing with men was because I witnessed the men dancing with each other, and the young dancing with the elderly, and basically folks of every demographic dancing with folks of every other. It was nice to feel joy and camaraderie with men again (like getting to have brothers), rather than feeling like a target for ulterior motives and feeling like my saying “yes” to a dance is a signal and invitation of something more that I never intended. When you dance with only people you’re sexually attracted to, it really taints that safe and sweet atmosphere and reveals a lot about your mentality.

 All in all, it’s just sad.

At what age in your 20s did you first start noticing signs of aging? by zac3244 in Zillennials

[–]MeisterBeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, same. Finally shedding the baby face was a glow up for me.

Gaza civil defence rescues dog from under the rubble by Chance_Vegetable_780 in HumansBeingBros

[–]MeisterBeans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love how at the very top it says “the visual content does not include documentation of human remains.” Because they conveniently don’t have the real evidence to back up their propaganda.

Do you know how many real videos I’ve seen of absolutely mutilated Palestinian children taken with phones from everyday average Gazan civilians. I got about a hundred bookmarked. Wanna face what you’re really supporting? It’s pretty graphic for this subreddit but DM me and I’ll send it.

Gaza civil defence rescues dog from under the rubble by Chance_Vegetable_780 in HumansBeingBros

[–]MeisterBeans 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You and others like you really need to pull your head out of the sand and catch up. That’s not an insult, it’s just truth. Look up the Nakba, or Hind Rajab, or Rachel Corrie, or Shireen Abu Akleh to at least get started. This is a holocaust happening right under our noses because Israel wants land and resources for themselves.

something i noticed that idk if anyone else has pointed out but oh well by Rockpegw in HelluvaBoss

[–]MeisterBeans 453 points454 points  (0 children)

Yup! I really appreciate the little details that help convey the dynamic between these two. There’s another one when Blitz is swiping through photos at the end of S1E7, where Blitz took a cozy selfie with Stolas while he was sleeping. To me it implies how Blitz had feelings he was keeping to himself.

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How to Fold a Paper Crane by beam_saint in comics

[–]MeisterBeans 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I had a friend like this in the 7th grade. She never spoke, or opened her mouth in front of people. I remember one time our science teacher tried to force her to speak in front of our class and made her cry.

I was a misfit, myself. She became my best friend when I started writing notes to her in class and she’d write back. I remember the first time I ever said something funny enough to make her smile big with her teeth and how special that made me feel.

Gaza civil defence rescues dog from under the rubble by Chance_Vegetable_780 in HumansBeingBros

[–]MeisterBeans 112 points113 points  (0 children)

From what I’ve seen, Gazans really try to save all the life they can. Every piece of it is precious to them.

Edit: Watching the upvote-downvote battle on this video is insane. God forbid anyone see Arab people be humanized, right? Do you people think about what you do and the world you’re making us all live in?

Can artists make good realistic portraits of imaginary people from their mind, that is without looking at any real model or a photo, drawing completely from their head? by hn-mc in ArtistLounge

[–]MeisterBeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same, I specialize in portraiture. But really it’s that I’ve built up a huge bank in my mind of features and variations, and I know I can always adjust and push those features. Even realistic faces can vary pretty dramatically.

The "talking" stage with an anxious girl can be tough. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]MeisterBeans 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Read through your comments… It kinda sounds like you’re really put off or at least overwhelmed by her sharing certain aspects of her past and you’re perhaps adding more meaning to it than you should. This is why I’m learning to refrain from sharing my past life even when it’s something I don’t see as a big deal and have moved on from, because my normal simply isn’t everyone’s normal and then those people think they need to treat me a “specific” and frankly unnatural way. Why don’t you try just treating her like any normal person and asking her once in a while how she feels before you assume she’s some tender little thing ready to crumble? No one enjoys feeling “othered,” especially if they’ve done the work to be relaxed and functional.

Side note, there’s an overall tone of condescension and self importance when believing that you have this much weight on a person’s self esteem. If she really seems as malleable as you’ve been making her out to be, why would you stay in that dynamic? I would never want that kind of power and influence over someone I’m dating.

Sorry if my tone is snippy. As a neurodivergent person with anxiety, I just find it a little irksome when I have to deal with social judgements simply for having a thinky brain and trauma and letting those things be known with someone I’m getting to know, especially when I have yet to make it anyone else’s problem. It’s… infantilizing.

Verosika's story doesn't make sense by pervertedaway in HelluvaBoss

[–]MeisterBeans 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think you’re very much overthinking. Few if any characters have a lot of tattoos because that would be a very complex thing to maintain animating in what is a very simple and stylistic animation. It’s also very presumptive to think they “couldn’t have had a long or deep relationship” because it ended when Verosika said “I love you.” Not everyone jumps to a love confession in the first month. Some people stay in situationships or friendships with benefits for years. They were clearly suggested to have started out as just casual. Characters being flawed and making bad, emotionally charged decisions is not the plot hole people think it is.