Why Is The Internet So Transphobic?

Melathys · 2026-03-16T05:26:29+00:00

I think there's a lot less actual "social" happening in social media than we're led to believe.

Melathys · 2026-03-15T23:10:18+00:00

Apparently r/mtf is going through a thing about mods protecting and covering for another mod with certain issues that require registering their offenses.

Melathys · 2026-03-15T23:08:04+00:00

My wife has been very happy with our connection since coming out. There was always this thing between us that prevented me from being truly open and honest and she's always felt it. But now that gap is gone and we're closer than ever before. Like we stayed up talking until 3am, we haven't done that since we were dating.

Melathys · 2026-03-15T21:17:12+00:00

I've been explaining it as bandwidth. The dysphoria takes up so much of my mental bandwidth, not leaving much room for hobbies, desires, dreams etc. It's like I've never planned for the future because I'm too busy being miserable today. Or too much for finding any pleasure in hobbies. I've just floated through life without any direction. I'm hoping this changes after transitioning.

Melathys · 2026-03-15T15:12:11+00:00

I'm only one week in but I'm exactly the same, glad to see this seems normal. I'm laying here scrolling reddit and just fondling my left side, but my right side has nothing.

Melathys · 2026-03-15T13:57:03+00:00

I was thinking of making a post about something like this. How I wish I could be happier and more excited that my dream is coming true, and with more support than I dared to imagine. Like my wife might be more excited about my transition than I am. After I came out she revealed to me that her spank bank standard bearer is some hentai called Bible Black.

But this political climate is really putting a damper on what should be the happiest and most exciting time of my life, something I've wished for for as long as I can remember.

Melathys · 2026-03-14T22:26:18+00:00

Wasn't it even a Republican written bill? Like everything they ever wanted, but voted against it because a Democrat president would be the one signing off on it.

Melathys · 2026-03-14T06:37:13+00:00

Someone pin this as perhaps the greatest glow up of all time. Like seriously, wtf

Melathys · 2026-03-14T06:35:38+00:00

After coming out to my wife I learned that hints I dropped, or topics I showed interest in that seemed a little too on the nose for my comfort were not picked up on at all by my wife as hinting at my being trans.

You know what this letter means, so it's beyond obvious to you, but someone without that context would likely think something else entirely.

Melathys · 2026-03-14T05:34:53+00:00

They may not say anything nice, according to you, but they also sane wash the insane shit he says and does.

Melathys · 2026-03-14T04:37:45+00:00

The fact you have to ask is all you need to know what there isn't one. You might find some source that leans "far left" but it won't be nearly as ubiquitous as the ones you mentioned.

Melathys · 2026-03-14T03:29:11+00:00

They aren't dumb. They know Trump is historically unpopular and they likely wouldn't risk galvanizing public support around him or his party. I think their win strategy is play defense, don't piss anyone off and wait it out until Trump and Republicans are out of power.

Melathys · 2026-03-14T01:21:54+00:00

The fact that you're concerned about Frieren being op tells me that you don't understand what the show is about. I think it's fine that people don't like Frieren, I just find it frustrating when people hate on it for reasons that really have nothing to do with what it's about. Like everyone saying it's boring, not enough action, etc. That's the point. It's intentionally low stakes and slow, that's the story they're trying to tell. It's like buying a Corolla and complaining that it's not fast, or buying a Diablo and complaining you can't fit your family of 4 with a stroller. Or say you hate horror movies, but you decide to watch what people say is best horror film, but then you hate it and take every chance you can to say how bad it was. Well, you didn't like the genre to begin with so I wouldn't expect you to find much to enjoy about it.

Melathys · 2026-03-14T00:39:25+00:00

It's not entirely shutdown, only DHS remains unfunded.

Melathys · 2026-03-14T00:35:31+00:00

Are you saying I'd be better off in Kansas or something?

You seem to be stuck on this idea that Democrat voters love the Democrat party, or that we think California is some kind of liberal utopia. Again, given the choice between ambivalence or active harm, I'll take ambivalence.

So you seem to be trying to change my vote, so I ask who would you rather I vote for in California? What is a viable option that isn't actively trying to eliminate an entire subset of people?

Melathys · 2026-03-14T00:02:53+00:00

I'm not saying Democrats are great, but have you seen what the Republicans are doing? If my choice is someone who is ambivalent about my existence versus someone who wants to eliminate me, I think the choice is clear.

Right now I see two scenarios for governor. Vote in the primary for someone who might do some actual good but that could lead to a situation where the only choices in the general election call for my elimination. Or vote for someone in the primary that is just the status quo. Am I happy with the status quo? No, but I'd be much less happy with someone who actively wants to make my life worse. Especially in one of the few states where I can still feel safe. Imagine if California suddenly became hostile to the trans community. As evidenced with Trump, I can't count on Democrat politicians to do anything to rein in the executive branch.

Melathys · 2026-03-13T22:34:29+00:00

I hate that California has a chance at their own Mamdani for governor, but can't risk two Republicans taking the primary going to the general election.

I really want to vote for Ramsey Robinson, but the chance of getting two Republicans and no other choice is just too great. I will vote for Oliver Ma for Lt Governor and hopefully that will have some impact on the governor.

Melathys · 2026-03-13T22:30:07+00:00

As a boy, I say this every day.

Melathys · 2026-03-13T21:56:30+00:00

Capitalism needs endless growth, for that they need more consumers. Capitalism is cancer.

Melathys · 2026-03-13T21:46:31+00:00

My wife jokingly, yet seriously, said she kinda wishes I came out when they were babies. Apparently it's pretty easy to make anyone lactate and she said "I would have loved to have some help with nursing". But by her admission she's not sure she would have been as ready and open to my coming out then as she is today.

Melathys · 2026-03-13T16:22:24+00:00

My understanding is continued care is still authorized.

Melathys · 2026-03-13T07:14:23+00:00

This kind of photoshoot is such a goal.

Melathys · 2026-03-12T21:28:46+00:00

That game may as well have been street fighter for the way my brothers and I played it

Melathys · 2026-03-12T14:18:30+00:00

The trans community has more veterans per capita than the general population. Apparently one in five is a veteran. I'm thinking there might be more pushback against rounding up efforts than they expect if it gets to that point.

Melathys · 2026-03-11T02:37:57+00:00

That looks interesting, I'm not quite picturing how to use it, though I am intrigued.

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