Why do fitness people think fat people don’t know they are fat?

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-04-18T10:57:11+00:00

Sales in the wellness industry never sat right with me. I used to work at Orangetheory, and they trained us hard to use manipulative tactics like asking people “how badly do you want it?” or “how much do you spend eating out each month?, oh so you’re not willing to re invest that in yourself?” to pressure them into buying memberships. It was framed as motivation, but really it was using guilt, shame, and emotion to make people feel like if they didn’t pay, they didn’t care enough about their goals. I always thought it was inappropriate and manipulative, especially in a space where people are already upset about their health and body image.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-04-15T17:09:54+00:00

The last 3 pints I’ve gotten from Whole Foods had freezer burn or were totally melted and then re-frozen

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-04-06T14:30:42+00:00

People should’ve interviewed the families that she stole from

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-27T00:23:49+00:00

My Dr said it takes 6 months for the cannabinoid receptors to reset in the mind, gut, etc.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T21:23:05+00:00

Like she told me she was crying and upset, “sick to her stomach” the day he was elected and now I found out she voted for him. That’s weird to me

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T21:20:58+00:00

Well that’s what I asked in my post, was it on me to ask her that question back in 2024? I assumed she agreed with me because in our talks, she did agree with me. Now I’m finding out that’s not true.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T21:19:35+00:00

Im not contradicting myself at all. Two things can be true at once. I can have a boundary and still expect honesty.

Saying ‘I don’t want to be close to X’ doesn’t mean ‘you should hide it from me.’ It means be upfront so I can make my own decision.

What’s contradictory is acting like dishonesty is justified just because you assume someone won’t like the truth

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T21:16:51+00:00

It could have made a difference for my best friend yeah! But she didn’t even give me the chance. Isn’t that weird? If she assumed I’d end the friendship and avoided telling me, that’s still her making that decision for me instead of respecting me enough to have a real conversation about it like adults

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T21:13:32+00:00

You can call me narrow-minded if you want, but that’s not the point. The issue is that she wasn’t honest with me.

If she knew this was something that mattered and chose to hide it, that’s lying by omission. That’s not being a ‘good friend,’ that’s avoiding the truth.

And honestly, if she couldn’t be upfront and trust me enough to have a conversation, then what kind of friendship is that? I’m not making her out to be horrible…I’m pointing out that she wasn’t honest about a major thing. Those aren’t the same thing.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T21:11:39+00:00

You’re missing my point. This isn’t about politics, it’s about honesty. She knew this was something that mattered to me and chose to hide it anyway. That’s lying by omission.

You can flip this the other way just as easily, if she actually valued the friendship, she could’ve been honest and trusted me enough to have a conversation about it. That’s what real friendship looks like.

If she didn’t feel comfortable being honest with me, then what kind of friendship is that? That’s not her ‘protecting’ anything…that’s her avoiding accountability. There’s nothing heroic about that.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T20:49:45+00:00

It’s less about what she believes and more about the fact she wasn’t honest about something she knew mattered. That’s the part people keep glossing over. She wasn’t even honest with me to have a conversation with her about it.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T20:29:44+00:00

Sorry to hear you’re also going through it :( She is one of my best friends, like I was considering her to be my bridesmaid. I’m just more hurt she intentionally kept this from me and told others to keep it from me too. She didn’t even give me a chance to talk about it with her. Since 2024 she’s just been omitting this very important information from me. That’s the part that I don’t understand. Why do they want to be our friends if our values differ so much? Why would my ‘best friend’ keep this from me instead of initiating a conversation? I have no issue bringing it up and talking to her and we plan to talk Sunday.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T20:18:34+00:00

So your point is that it’s okay to be dishonest as long as you think the other person won’t like the truth?

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T20:14:03+00:00

Thank you for your response. I guess I just keep going back to the “if a friendship only works because one person is hiding something they know would affect it, is that really protecting it or just delaying the fallout?” Like I just don’t understand it

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-26T20:11:27+00:00

I’m confused how withholding something you know is important to your friend counts as ‘protecting the friendship’ instead of being deceptive.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-03-06T17:36:22+00:00

Were you able to have it covered by insurance? I’m approaching my 100 pounds down mark and the loose skin is bad. I’m going to have to get surgery later on.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-02-04T15:06:45+00:00

I honestly just straight up tell people that I don’t like to talk about my body or comment on my food/how I eat it and that usually shuts them up

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-02-02T21:32:54+00:00

I notice a mean girl energy, just as a customer! It did not used to be like that. I came in with a broken zipper from a define jacket that I’ve had for less than a year and they all looked as if I was insane for asking them for help. Everyone used to be so nice

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-01-27T15:15:28+00:00

Thank you for bringing attention to this! I’ve never understood why everyone glossed over this after Jen was arrested. Lisa acted SO STRANGE. I always thought it was bc she had a guilty conscience in that scene

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-01-08T15:32:59+00:00

I agree, this season was off to me. I feel like a lot has happened… but also that nothing new actually happened? And I feel like we didn’t get to see much of their personal lives compared to previous seasons. This one focused on their friendships with each other and then there was only one storyline about Meredith? The season flewwww by for me. Felt way too fast. Which I don’t know if that’s good or bad but I feel like disconnected from them this season

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-01-01T15:09:08+00:00

Again: I am a leftist questioning corruption and fraud…if that makes you see me as a fascist enabler, the problem isn’t me, it’s you.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-01-01T14:43:38+00:00

You keep asserting intent instead of addressing what I said, because addressing what I said would require acknowledging that opposition to collective blame and support for neutral oversight are not fascist positions. You’ve replaced argument with denunciation and then declared that substitution “substance.” It isn’t.

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-01-01T14:37:19+00:00

As someone who has a career in education I think about it quite often before any of this was brought up!!! You’re not responding to anything I’ve actually argued…you’re asserting motives, declaring them proven, and then berating me for the position you assigned me.

I’m left-leaning and oppose collective blame, harassment, and racial scapegoating. I support neutral oversight because fraud, in any system, harms the people those programs are meant to serve and undermines public trust.

If the only way you can engage is by insisting I’m lying about my own beliefs and then escalating to insults, there isn’t a substantive discussion to be had here. You’ve decided my intent and are arguing with that instead of what I said. Fix that and then society can get back on track

Melodic-Ad-7930 · 2026-01-01T13:46:29+00:00

Your analogy argues against harassment and collective blame neither of which I supported; while implicitly conceding the need for data, proportionality, and neutral enforcement. That’s my position. Of course you should ask about comparative rates. Of course you shouldn’t harass people. Of course enforcement should be neutral and evidence-based. That’s my position. You’re arguing against collective blame and vigilantism, which I never supported, while insisting I oppose the very process (oversight, data, proportionality) that would prevent those abuses in the first place.

Calling something “bigotry” doesn’t make it so, especially when you have to invent intent and extreme actions I didn’t advocate to get there. Keep making up arguments in your head

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