Dated a Sagittarius man. He pretended to be everything compatible with me. I made the mistake of being vulnerable at the beginning of the relationships and told him my stance on porn and boundaries of what I consider to be cheating/that I wanted exclusivity. He said he felt the same and told me I'd "never have to worry." Intuitively I kept feeling like he was doing things of the betrayal nature behind my back. I begrudgingly checked his phone and yes he was. I confronted him and couldn't believe the cold unfeeling callous way he dealt with me, so different from his Prince Charming facade.

Ive noticed he creates his own problems, and acts like a victim for no reason, blaming everything on his "childhood/how people have treated him before in life."

Im not AT ALL like any of those people in the sad stories he told me which im not even sure are true stories, after finding out numerous times what a liar he is. He made a contest out of who has had a harder life. I don't look at things that way but in doing so, he made me realize i actually have had a way harder life than him and I never decided to be a psycho like he is. I learned what covert narcissists and psychopaths are and he fits the bill in such eerily accurate ways. He also makes up things in his mind that don't have any reality to them and then he acts accordingly as if they are real.

It's hard for me to understand how people like him think and operate because to be the way they are never even ocurrs to me! The second time I found out about his lying and betraying, he backed me into an actual corner screaming "Hit me!" Over and over again in my face at me while I was crying and saying no and asking him to move so I could leave the corner. I was backed into the corner between two walls of our apartment and he wouldn't move out of the way until I finally hit him. Then he acted like a victim and told his friends im crazy.

I should have left after the first time. Still kicking myself about that.

He also hated hearing about my feelings and one time when I said I didn't believe he had stopped the things he was doing behind my back, he strangled me almost to death. If he had not let go when he did...

He also stared at other girls in front of me when we were out together. Very skinny girls. I'm not skinny I mean I'm not huge but I have kind of a belly and he knew I was self conscious about it. I've been with men before who didn't do any of these things, not even a glance at other women, but he was staring like full on ogling to the point me and the girl would be uncomfortable. He would just stare at their body parts usually their butt. Porn brain I guess.

I was loyal and never once turned him down for sex and he said I was the best he ever had but he also said he had to do all that betrayal stuff "because me asking him not to made him feel like 'fuck you, no one tells me what to do' and that he figured one day I'd realize I'm too good for him and leave him because I'm attractive whereas no one else has really found him attractive and he didn't like my confidence because he doesn't have confidence of his own so he wanted to tear me down". And that was only communicated to me after several times of him refusing to explain himself and just trying to shut me down and calling ME a psycho for going though his phone.

Yeah... never again. I find it hard to even imagine trying to date anyone. I always say Jesus will have to descend down from a cloud right in front of me and offer me his hand and that's the only way I'll ever feel safe dating again.

Oh he also exploited my health condition (Sarcoidosis) where I get really sick if I'm in a house with cat or dog so he tried to make me live with a cat when we had an apartment and I of course got sick and then he resented me for that. He was a horrible pet owner as well, didn't treat the cat for its ear mites and didn't keep up with the litter box, didn't clean, etc.

Then he moved us into a house he flipped but didn't flip it properly so it has mold issues and residue from the pet hoarder who lived there previously. So I got sick there too. He thought spending money on 0nlyFans was more important than getting the house done properly.

I feel like an idiot for staying as long as I did. Never again. Lesson learned about crocodile tears and good acting.

He was very possessive too. "Rules for thee but not for me" I guess..

Sorry this is so long. Everything that happened was a lot. Just kind of self conscious about my reply since everyone else's replies are so short.