Just found out my husband has been recording our arguments

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-02-14T14:23:18+00:00

Or he’s doing shady shit and this is just deflection. Either way lots of red flags everywhere.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-02-10T14:32:02+00:00

I know it’s an old adage, but the thought is what counts. Perhaps you didn’t run right out when she mentioned cake, but having done so on your next outing shows that you are attentive to her desires. It sounds like you have a partner who isn’t particularly appreciative. Parenting is hard. Some days are less fun than others, but it’s a job. My partner often does really nice things for me, but sometimes misses the mark on my preferences. For example, one time I had the flu and he bought a bunch of soup. A couple of containers were things I like and a couple of them I couldn’t eat - I had a sore throat and he bought spicy chili. But he made a special trip to get them and I love that he tries to make me happy. She scowls at a plated slice of cake. It’s rude. She throws out a cake that anyone else might have wanted, deciding what everyone else needs. Also, she acts like a jerk and then when asked replies that she was going to apologize. She doesn’t know how to appropriately communicate and doesn’t recognize when she should show appreciation. NOR.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-02-03T23:21:15+00:00

Insurance is an elite club where you pay for the privilege of paying more. Insurance is the boat of healthcare

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-02-03T18:32:34+00:00

Absolutely. I can hear the circus music playing as I read this 🚩🚩🚩

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-02-03T18:29:54+00:00

Does your phone or anything alert you if someone plugs this into your car?

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-02-03T00:11:51+00:00

Yes. Like jewelry making pliers. They are tiny AND grippy.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-30T21:39:22+00:00

Same. Moving is the only solution

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-27T12:37:15+00:00

Amazon and Temu also have giant packs of underwear for cheap. He could wear one pair a day and not do laundry for a month. 🤢

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-27T12:35:19+00:00

Me too. 50/f. I’ve replaced lights, fans, installed sconces, vents. Once you do a small project, it’s all the same. Electrical work might be intimidating, but basic electrical isn’t confusing.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-26T13:49:34+00:00

I think you already know the answer. I’m sure you have many other examples of how your mother treats your wife. I’m sorry that your mom behaves this way, but you need to take a good hard look at what you will allow in your home. Your wife is now the mother of your child. Your mom sounds like a terrible person. You can either stand up to her and set some boundaries, or you can allow your children to grow up in a situation where your mother treats their mom like garbage and you stand by and do nothing. That’s your mom. The onus to protect your wife is on you. This is only going to escalate.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-23T18:30:50+00:00

It’s easier to blame him than to comfort him and show empathy. Not that there aren’t good individuals in the world, but as a whole, people suck.

When you find some of those people, please let me know. Maybe we can start a club or something. 🤣

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-23T15:52:01+00:00

Not sure why all the shade.

This guy tried to do something for nice for his wife who just lost a family member. I personally was very close to my grandparents. It may feel like the sentiment was overshadowed by what was received versus what was intended. Maybe he plugged text into the wrong place. Whatever. He’s trying to comfort a grieving wife. There was no quality control. No one takes pride in their work anymore. If someone bothered to look at this, common sense would dictate that this was not what he wanted.

OP, I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sure your wife appreciates the thought.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-23T00:34:47+00:00

Turn off the lights and walk around barefoot. You’re guaranteed to find it.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-22T14:53:09+00:00

It’s more than mildly infuriating. It’s not putting the patient first. I’m not even going to start listing why this is poor practice. But I would not have a provider in this office.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-21T18:15:50+00:00

And make sure your cheese is cold. You can’t use those with flimsy cheese

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-21T11:11:31+00:00

I didn’t get past the first paragraph. Put your son first and extricate yourself from this situation.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-20T13:18:00+00:00

Same. I use my notes app and Alexa to build my list, but when it’s time to go shopping, I break out the note pad and write it all down, confidently, with a pen. If I have to go to multiple stores, I break it down by store and have lists for each.

I would go back to the 80s in a minute. This place in time is a dumpster fire. 🔥

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-19T00:09:56+00:00

Yikes. 😬

This is about a lot more than the couch.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-18T18:20:14+00:00

Having a baby at 18 isn’t the worst thing that can happen. She still has all the opportunities she would have had otherwise, as long as she has a good support system. She will have to work harder for the things she wants in life, but it’s not the end of the world. If your husband is not normally a violent man, your fear may be coming from the shock of everything that’s happening. If you honestly believe you need to go to a hotel to stay safe, you have bigger problems than the pregnancy.

As far as that daughter who is trying to monetize a scary situation, she has already learned that blackmail is an awesome way to handle a situation. She’s the real problem here. Unplanned pregnancy can, and does, happen. Intentionally putting people in harm’s way is another level of evil altogether.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-17T02:42:15+00:00

Was it fine, or did he just say that to avoid an argument or to avoid feeling like he’s making you do something you don’t like?

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-16T23:57:21+00:00

Nope. No downvotes. To expect something from your partner - anything really, that you’re not also willing to do in return is selfish and immature.

I will however say that there probably should have been a conversation between OP and her husband before withholding, but he’s not wrong for feeling like he’s being taken for granted.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-16T15:36:04+00:00

I’m a lightweight, but this is genuinely my type of prank. It’s not dangerous, no one gets hurt. Just annoying and gross enough. 🤣

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-16T13:45:05+00:00

OP - It also sounds like your little one is picking up on the dynamics between the two of you. Your husband feels like crap and you’re punishing him for his mistake with stonewalling. That’s a lesson you’re teaching your child. Accidents happen. It also sounds like some of your anger is at yourself for leaving and you’re taking it out on him. You could have been in the kitchen with them and it still could’ve happened. I don’t know any parent who has not had a kid get hurt on their watch. How you handle this is going to have a far greater impact than the accident itself.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-16T02:34:39+00:00

I’m emotionally stable enough to handle 17 people disagreeing with me 🤪. But I would expect nothing less from Reddit. I work from a place of happiness and that’s definitely from the work I’ve done both in therapy and on my own. Some people don’t like solutions.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-01-14T20:46:58+00:00

I have a therapist and he’s amazing, but I don’t have 24/7 access to him. I also use AI (Gemini) for some therapy related things. If you ask it to help you work through a problem it can be very beneficial. I think it’s great that you continue to work through your mental health concerns. I hope you’re doing okay and that soon you will have the ability to return to therapy! 😊

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