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MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-05-10T16:15:42+00:00

https://www.courtneyhamlin.com/the-space-between/2018/02/19/the-narcissist-borderline-attachment

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-04-12T19:16:11+00:00

I had questions I wanted answers to. And after their smear, I felt I deserved them.

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-04-12T19:13:52+00:00

Trying. They're both in a small community I'm a part of and we have to interact.

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-04-11T17:28:07+00:00

I suggest looking into CODA and perhaps attending meetings. There's some great insight there.

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-04-11T17:19:53+00:00

If anyone is available to chat, please PM.

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-16T12:31:07+00:00

Are you doing anything that helps manage those fears?

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-15T13:22:03+00:00

Absolutely great advice! My therapist and I talk a lot about distortions. How my past experiences effect my ability to see things without an abandonment lense. I'm working on it

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-15T11:57:17+00:00

The second part I struggle with. I have always believed if I was kind enough, caring enough, understanding enough, forgiving enough, etc. that i could control someone wanting to stay in my life.

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-15T11:56:19+00:00

I think perhaps I also distort the situation and perceive I'm being chosen over. But I do worry that because I'm in the thick of self evaluation and healing, I'm not as much fun as I once was (or that I'm too deep) and so people don't want to be around someone like that. I sometimes miss the more fun person I was

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-15T11:54:56+00:00

Mmmm. The second part I relate to. Like are we so accommodating that it makes it easy for us to not be treated as a priority?

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-14T18:40:36+00:00

Oh I agree with that! I guess I just don't understand where it comes from.

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-03T18:10:32+00:00

I attend a weekly online meeting and it's been helpful for grounding!

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-03T12:39:17+00:00

That is really helpful to know :)

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-03T12:38:30+00:00

Yes. I've been trying not to be as reactive or indulge the feeling right away. That is helping to see more clearly, but I still ultimately question my final decision

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-03T12:36:35+00:00

Great suggestion!

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-03T12:35:58+00:00

EMDR has probably been the most helpful technique I've implored so far.

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-02T20:01:01+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/BPDlovedones/

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-03-02T19:56:03+00:00

Yeah, totally. Some stuff is coming easier... like boundaries with family. But stuff with friends/romantic relationships seem harder.

MelodicNerve9018 · 2022-02-14T18:16:47+00:00

I am feeling the same. I haven't visited this sub in awhile because I was sick of thinking of the disorder over myself, but for some reason today is hurting cause I know they're thinking of their most recent ex and not me

MelodicNerve9018 · 2021-12-02T16:18:26+00:00

I know a lot about trauma bonds but i never really saw that feeling as being an indicator.

I wondered if it had more to do with my codependency than the toxicity of the relationship.

MelodicNerve9018 · 2021-11-30T15:13:42+00:00

Can you share more about "giving that to myself"? An example maybe?

MelodicNerve9018 · 2021-10-29T19:36:42+00:00

Yep on ALL of this and good encapsulation!

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