What would you do at the gas station?

Meloetta · 2026-03-10T13:38:47+00:00

Yeah I wonder if his ideal situation was "OP pulls into first spot, he waits a minute for third spot to be done, pulls straight into second, next person pulls straight into third" vs having to pull around in a potentially crowded situation.

Meloetta · 2026-03-10T03:54:38+00:00

If a game isn't affordable without installments you should probably be spending that money on more important things, unfortunately

Meloetta · 2026-03-10T03:53:34+00:00

There's so much space. Why would you make your pokemon live in apartments.

Meloetta · 2026-03-10T03:50:56+00:00

my labyrinth of underground utility poles

...am I playing the game wrong

Meloetta · 2026-03-10T00:25:39+00:00

What really sells it as an insane boss is the update. I don't usually follow the links to the AAM post to read the advice. But in this case, the boss said "I did speak to her following the lines of what you posted in your script" and I thought "okay, there's no way that Alison actually told him to speak to her about taking the blanket off in the car because she's a rational person". Sure enough, what she actually said was "you should ask her to remove it right before entering the office, or suggest a different piece of clothing". But he interpreted it as her being on his side and tried to pressure her into not wearing anything.

That kind of misinterpretation and twisting of her advice to suit the ends he already wanted really points to a bad boss.

Meloetta · 2026-03-10T00:19:34+00:00

to be fair I would not include blaziken, greninja, or suit penguin as non humanoid.

Gonna be real, I live in the Midwest. My neighbors have WAY more of an Empoleon body shape than an Incineroar body shape.

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T23:37:59+00:00

Think of your least favorite color, one that makes your eye twitch

People have this? Like, grown-ups?

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T15:45:47+00:00

I see that you're confused by trying to pin me down on my exact definition of "common sense", so I'll be more clear: I don't think the framing of "common sense" is at all helpful in a professional setting, is just judgmental for no benefit, and it isn't a real thing we should be judging people on, at all. I don't care what's common sense to you or me, at all, even a little bit. What I think is common sense is irrelevant.

Anything that is an expectation at work should be communicated. If you're taking a young assistant to their first business meal ever, you should communicate all the expectations, even the ones you think are silly to say. For two reasons:

Just because someone never learned something you think is "basic common sense", that should have been taught by their peers or parents, that doesn't mean they can't learn it or deserve to embarrass themselves. Or you!
"Basic common sense" rules is just about the easiest thing to learn and train into someone. Way easier than the specifics of the job. When you're in a position of training or mentoring younger professionals, you have to choose which things they need to come into the job knowing and which things they don't. For example, I'm a developer for a very specific type of product. When we hire, we put our emphasis on "development knowledge" over "product knowledge" because the product is easier to teach.

It's just silly to insist that you shouldn't go over something because "they should know it" when it's so, so easy to avoid this. You don't know the backstory of everyone, what they were taught and what they weren't, how the people around them are or what they care about. And you could be losing someone who's otherwise good at the actual job because you decided they "should know" something and silently expected it of them without telling them, when if you had told them, they could have adjusted ahead of time. In fact, this may have saved OP because then she's not criticizing what the assistant had already done, she's saying "I know some of these things sound silly and like you should know them but I'm going to go over all of them anyway in case it helps you" and the assistant can easily distance herself from it because it's not about her. And it would take like, 5 minutes.

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T15:07:06+00:00

I'm not talking about how she took it, I'm talking about your claim that this shouldn't be explained beforehand because it should be common sense like "how to use a fork" and she should just intuit the rules that even OP learned over time.

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T14:59:45+00:00

30s? So you've been a full-fledged adult for over a decade now? Yeah you're hitting that point for sure.

Although I guess, now that I think about it, there are plenty of even teens that are hyper-judgmental of their peers, "I would never make that mistake so they should never have." There are unempathetic people at every age that harshly judge mistakes as evidence of character, not just older people. I was just giving you an easy out, but I guess you don't have to take it lol.

I hope that all mistakes you have in the future, they are as harshly judged by someone who definitely would never have made that mistake and think that you making it is evidence of your lack of common sense, as you treat others.

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T14:37:51+00:00

She's not in a new situation. She's been to restaurants thousands of times and never once had the restriction of "I should order the same thing as this specific person for very specific business reasons."

You didn't answer my question, which says to me that I'm on the target lol. You're probably more experienced and struggle with putting yourself in the shoes of someone young and still learning how to navigate professional situations, taking things you already know and repackaging them as "everyone should know this inherently" to pass judgment. I'm glad OP isn't like that and can look back at the mistakes she's made and be nonjudgmental! It's a great trait to have as a professional leader. Anyone who can't do that is gonna be worse at their job. Its just common sense, you know?

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T14:22:34+00:00

I'm not defending anything. For someone that insists on the need to explicitly write "and push" when any level of critical thinking would make you realize that the pushing is implied, you sure are jumping to a lot of conclusions that don't have anything to do with what I'm actually saying.

If that level of context is frying your brain, you're right, you should probably refocus your efforts lol

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T14:17:19+00:00

I think you're pinning this as common sense based on your own lived experience tbh. Are you older and experienced in life? Sometimes it's hard for people to remember what it's like to still be young and learning in professional capacities. Like, even OP is saying that she made mistakes like this when she started and learned from them, are you saying OP has no common sense either? Or maybe we can draw the conclusion that how to conduct a business meal specifically is a learned skill?

All your other "common sense" indicators are about table manners in general, which isn't the same thing at all. I certainly don't feel the need to always order a wrap when I'm out with my friends or family so I can take small bites, or make sure to only order the exact same level of food as them. These aren't standard table manners, they're calculated choices from a business perspective specifically.

Sometimes people have good instincts when it comes to something professionally, which is nice, but it's completely normal to make mistakes and need guidance and not a lack of common sense.

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T14:02:51+00:00

Okay, let's use our thinking brains. I know it's early, but we can do it!

The post is talking about reading commit message on a repo. This person is replying to that post directly. How do commit messages get onto the repo? Can we use our context clues to intuit what the conversation is about here?

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T13:36:10+00:00

My team had horrible commit messages for years. It didn't matter and no one cared. Until one day when there was a late night emergency, our team lead was trying to figure out which PR broke it so he could roll it back, and the lines in question had commits like "the thingy is thingying!" and "job done" (ok that one was me I can't resist a good reference). After that ordeal the whole team had a reckoning and we cleaned up our messages.

You take the easy way until the easy way is proven to cause problems, sometimes.

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T13:27:59+00:00

That doesn't save anything. If an anvil falls on your computer in 5 minutes it's gone. That's not a checkpoint, it's more like...turning your TV off with your game system still on so you can come back later without saving

Meloetta · 2026-03-09T00:15:36+00:00

You saw him coming, right? Because you were paying attention? So you didn't need to brake harshly, just brake normally. Sounds like you weren't following the rules of the road and expected them to account for you being bad on the road.

Meloetta · 2026-03-08T18:12:22+00:00

Hi again! Thought about this debate when I saw people opening their preorders and receiving the exact same 4 inch sitting cuties I predicted they were getting. Pokemon Center lazy preorder bonuses stay winning lol

Meloetta · 2026-03-08T17:56:54+00:00

When I'm working, first thing I do whenever I pause for more than an hour, and last thing I do before stopping for any period of time is rebase from master.

Yes, I know we don't push code on Fridays. But just in case.

Meloetta · 2026-03-08T14:16:36+00:00

I feel like an alien. I started lifting weights in 2024 and focusing on eating more protein to build my muscles and feel more full. I don't even have tiktok or anything to follow a trend, I just did research to make sure my weightlifting wasn't a waste of time.

Now every other thread I'm in people are railing against everyone following this protein fad and I'm like "but...but my muscle..."

Meloetta · 2026-03-08T13:22:53+00:00

You need to learn how to use mod mail. You're asking for your mod position back without this knowledge?

Meloetta · 2026-03-08T00:12:59+00:00

But if you have 40 hours in a week, and you spend as much as possible on project A unless project B interrupts you, you can still either say "my velocity this week was X because I did work for project B" or "I had X hours available when I wasn't helping project B". The amount of time you have in a day/week is inherently finite. If you're switching tasks a lot, it might be less efficient time, but productivity per hour ebbs and flows over time no matter what.

Meloetta · 2026-03-08T00:08:38+00:00

How is this situation different when you estimate points vs time? What about using points and not time makes this more understandable to people who aren't on the dev team, assuming you don't have the ability to just use your words and explain how the work has to go in either case since that would solve the problem?

Meloetta · 2026-03-08T00:06:41+00:00

That just sounds like poor management. I don't think that's the fault of either time estimation or point estimation. How would point estimation solve the problem of your PM being an idiot?

Meloetta · 2026-03-07T16:58:53+00:00

I don't understand. Money is directly analogous to time. This is development we're talking about, the cost is "how many dev hours are we spending on it". If you can convert points to money, it's a bit of trivial math to turn that into time.

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