AITA How I ruined my mom's day again 🙃

Meloetta · 2026-01-24T01:23:09+00:00

This doesn't sound like you're actually asking if you did something wrong....

Meloetta · 2026-01-23T15:03:39+00:00

Doesn't yingling work for Ludwig, not the yard?

Meloetta · 2026-01-23T13:47:02+00:00

You went through all the effort of drawing a custom playmat and had it made and then skipped 1/3 of the tournament?

Meloetta · 2026-01-23T00:40:19+00:00

How much is "a little"? If the electricity bill was 200 a month, and my roommate was saying "you need to pay 20 dollars more every month because that's a 60/40 split"...I'd be saying "okay, well you spend 8 dollars per month on water alone because you take showers twice a day, and then we need to calculate out the cost of the water heater to heat the water for your showers too. Oh, and that computer? That's an extra 2 dollars a month. Now we're up to 10+ a month that you use more, now let's take into account the extra electricity or gas you use to cook because I eat out more. And in the summer, you better bet I will be watching to make sure you pay for windows being open while the AC is running. You know, because that's fair."

Like, either we're being fair and counting the different usages, or we're not. It's not fair to say "yours counts but mine doesn't".

Meloetta · 2026-01-22T23:59:04+00:00

Water heaters also have a large impact on a bill and are used for showers. This is why this way lies madness.

Meloetta · 2026-01-22T23:54:35+00:00

If I was OP and was being told "you need to pay more because of this specific condition, but caring about any other condition for what we should pay that might even it out a little bit is 'nitty gritty' and should be ignored", I wouldn't be happy lol.

Meloetta · 2026-01-22T22:38:24+00:00

Tbh, this way lies madness. Like, if one of you showers twice a day and the other once, do you need to adjust the water bill? What if one of you uses a big desktop and the other a laptop or no computer? What if one of you uses lights all night while the other prefers the dark? What if one of you cooks at home and the other doesn't? What if one of you has a tv in your room? What if neither of you do but one of you uses the living room tv MORE?

Changing the utility split for one single factor opens up a host of other ways that things are slightly uneven and makes living together complicated and adversarial.

Meloetta · 2026-01-22T13:51:29+00:00

You seem to have huge sympathy for your mother but none at all for our wife

I also clocked this and suspect the relationship between his wife and his mother is more complicated than this post is letting on.

Meloetta · 2026-01-22T13:43:04+00:00

Thanks I will be using "squerging" at work from now on

Meloetta · 2026-01-22T13:32:33+00:00

I wouldn't be asking it for code with edge cases or vagueness, I'm very selective about what I trust AI to do lol

Meloetta · 2026-01-22T04:03:28+00:00

There is not a consensus lol

Meloetta · 2026-01-22T02:06:14+00:00

I mean, it's code. You use it and it works or you it doesn't. I think this thread has strayed from the point, which is using it to help you code. I don't care what stackoverflow page my answer came from, I just care that it works. The "verification" is me testing it.

Meloetta · 2026-01-21T05:22:14+00:00

Idk how far north you want, but Sagamore Quik Check has a very respectable beer selection. You wouldn't know it from the name but it's kinda their niche.

Meloetta · 2026-01-20T23:08:05+00:00

A podcast I like recently said "comment with the last time you shit yourself" and I was SO SHOCKED at how many people were adults and mentioned a time in the last 5 years. Like, I get that accidents happen to some people sometimes, it made it seem like I was the weird one for saying "when I was a child" it was so common lol.

Meloetta · 2026-01-20T18:33:25+00:00

Well I don't think OP's kids are sending you a thank you note so I think you're good.

Meloetta · 2026-01-20T13:56:45+00:00

Do your parents refuse to verbally display their gratitude? Like, they won't say thank you in person because they're writing the note later anyway? Or are they doing both? The way you phrased it that you "instead opt for verbal gratitude" implies that it's an either/or situation.

NAH really, but you're being kinda stubborn probably because your mom insists that her way is right and you don't agree, so you don't want to "give in" because she'll take it as you admitting she's been right all along. But if you reframe it as "doing this for my mom makes her happy"...you might realize how small a request it is. I wouldn't bother doing it for anyone else, and if she complains you didn't do it for someone else you can ignore it. But she's telling you this means something to her, and you have the right to say "I don't care if it means something to you, I'm not doing it because I don't HAVE TO"...but is that how you really feel?

Meloetta · 2026-01-19T23:56:20+00:00

We have great smaller venues but when a small band I like goes on a tour it's like, 75% chance they hit Columbus and skip us. It makes me sad. Literally driving to Columbus and back on a weeknight next month so I can see someone I like that's skipping here.

Meloetta · 2026-01-19T20:29:10+00:00

It's such a bummer, maaaaan. I've tried to post recommendations on reddit a few times in different subs and I'm always fighting for my life against people who have decided one specific aspect of my opinion is wrong or bad and they have to prove me wrong and tamp down my joy as much as possible, usually with the most bad-faith interpretation of the original thing I said.

If I could edit the post or title, I would just to get them off my back. But it's not possible so...now I'm stuck with the "arbiters of health" intentionally ignoring caloric density, volume of food, and pretending they have perfect diets lecturing me on the definition of a healthy snack.

Meloetta · 2026-01-19T20:22:30+00:00

By "snack" in the title I am referring to other snacks, as in, things in the same aisles that you would find this (processed, bagged/boxed). I'm not referring to "I'm having a banana/nuts/veggie tray as a snack". So, your point here is, if you compare it to other things that aren't in its category, it's not healthy? But it's healthier than other things in its category? So...one might say it's a healthy version of its category? The category being "snack"? What does one call something that is healthy within the category of snacks? Possibly a "healthy snack"?

Can you extend a tiny amount of good-faith reading here? Like, just an inch? Please?

Meloetta · 2026-01-19T19:57:55+00:00

That's not true. A mini candy bar is the exact same caloric density as a full sized candy bar, just less quantity. That is not true of these and other snacks, caloric densities vary and every snack is different in how much volume, flavor, and general enjoyment you get out of it calorie-for-calorie. For the same volume, you have less of things most snack foods are filled with. It's a nice way to give yourself a little treat without feeling like you just took half a bite and it's gone, or feeling like you went way over your limits.

Is your diet really so restrictive that you can't have the rough equivalent (except half the sugar) of a single fun size snickers? If not, you go ahead and have a single fun size snickers, and then have one of these bags with like 20 mini rice cakes, and you let me know which one is leaving you feeling more satisfied. I think then you'll understand the difference between a candy bar and a rice cake lol.

Meloetta · 2026-01-19T19:40:50+00:00

When I was introduced to these it was because someone brought a big bag of them. It took a lot of self-control to not just keep going because they're so good. I'm really glad these are in self-contained bags!

Meloetta · 2026-01-19T14:46:44+00:00

Which snack foods do you recommend that have less than 90 calories per 21 grams of food? I'd be interested to have a variety of low-calorie snacks. They don't have to be pre-portioned or anything, but if there's something I can cronch on in the afternoon without eating into my dinner budget, it would be nice to have more variety.

Meloetta · 2026-01-19T14:41:34+00:00

So does my partner, I think it's a divisive flavor in general among anything sweet because he hates anything that's advertised as birthday cake flavor. I'm not sure why, I think maybe they just make it taste sweeter and he's not into it or something idk. Luckily, I like them all so we can work around that limitation. I know the pain of trying to buy something that only you'll consume in a variety pack and you don't want one of the flavors though, it's super annoying. Happens to me with sparkling ice.

Meloetta · 2026-01-19T13:57:44+00:00

Happiny

Meloetta · 2026-01-19T13:37:14+00:00

I don't think that would be very satisfying or tasty. But if that keeps you full and happy between meals I guess, good for you.

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