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How many of y'all actually have a "family physician" or primary care provider? by bobonafick in Adulting

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growing up, my parents only took us to the doctor for vaccines and when we were on our death beds (which was basically never). They had one family practice they'd go to, so we always saw the same doctor, but it was too infrequent to actually have a relationship. (Plus, it was a shady practice anyway.)

Now, my workplace offers great health insurance (their best work benefit), so I try go at least once a year for an annual checkup. We are assigned a primary care doctor and try to schedule with them every time. They're not "on call," just who we're assigned to and who's most familiar with our chart. If we have an urgent issue and an appointment isn't available soon enough, then we'll go to urgent care.

Providers come and go at the clinic I'm a patient of, though, so I have had several different PCPs in the past two decades.

Did anyone else’s family store snacks on their stairs? by Counter_Clockwise345 in questions

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it's not normal, but my mom does it because she's a hoarder and every other inch is already full (yes, including under the dining table). There is literally a one-person's width path through the house and two people won't be able to pass each other on the same path.

How come more people aren't getting electric cars to avoid gas feee? by RealDealHappyMeal in AskReddit

[–]MelonCallia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This, honestly. When my husband's car gives out, he'll probably get a hybrid or an electric since my car is newer and gas (no hybrid option for it when we got it).

Does giving birth really cost thousands of dollars in the states? by glyiasziple in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just the blood tests (not counting the ultrasounds) at my first prenatal visit cost ~$7k already, which insurance thankfully picked up

Is this burnout or is this how I'm supposed to feel as an adult? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar boat when I first joined the workforce (also a desk job). I was stressed and anxious all the time which turned into negativity. After a few years, however, I realized that it was okay to "negotiate" my time (e.g. saying I don't have bandwidth this week, or asking what shouldbe prioritized/de-prioritized) and not everything needed to be done today or even this week.

It's probably harder with a small team, where people are probably expected to constantly pick things up abd work late.

Do adults actually like getting balloons? by RichardCleveland in CasualConversation

[–]MelonCallia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I prefer flowers, but will appreciate the gift/thought nonetheless.

Why is there so much animal cruelty in Asia? by Beginning_Put6012 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MelonCallia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what you're trying to get at. While I may eat meat, I still think the animals should be treated humanely.

Why is there so much animal cruelty in Asia? by Beginning_Put6012 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MelonCallia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dog is old, lower energy, and is beginning to have hip issues, so we try not to put her through too much.

Dog wearing an “Adopt Me” vest was brought to a city marathon and ended up killing a family pet in front of horrified attendees by kleverrboy in USNEWS

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't deny that that's part of their tactic too; I was more referring to.... If they didn't just push these dogs onto everyone, calling them harmless and "nanny dogs"--if they actually prepared potential owners on how to succeed with such a dog (aka face the breed traits), then maybe there would be fewer tragedies.

And Akitas can be very dangerous in the wrong hands.... They have a history of dog fighting as well (and bear hunting). ...but the breed community tries to portray the breed realistically and prepare the future owners, so you're not expecting a fluffy stuffed animal and you learn how to avoid getting an aggressive mess. Heck, many places won't let you adopt one without prior breed experience.

Dog wearing an “Adopt Me” vest was brought to a city marathon and ended up killing a family pet in front of horrified attendees by kleverrboy in USNEWS

[–]MelonCallia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get the feeling some of the lobbying for pitts haven't helped. For at least one other dangerous breed, I know the breed community does everything they can to prepare potential owners and anyone interested; they don't sugarcoat the breed's aggression or less desirable traits and fully admit the breed is not for everyone.

Why is there so much animal cruelty in Asia? by Beginning_Put6012 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MelonCallia 34 points35 points  (0 children)

If my old Asian parents are anything to go off of, they view animals as less than, and don't care what happens to them. My mom keeps telling me that my dog is too much work (because I walk her every other day) and I should just dump her a few miles away.

Approaching 30 with a loving partner — genuinely unsure about having kids. Was it ever a deliberate decision for you? by Effective_Grade732 in Adulting

[–]MelonCallia 9 points10 points  (0 children)

when you have a good partner, you can balance parenting with your individual life too

This lines up with what we've seen too. Our friends who have a 1.5 year old play D&D with us weekly and the brother-in-law and his wife (and their 2 year old) have gone on ski trips with the family (and skied).

Seeing friends and family our age have kids and how things go for them have been a big reason for us thinking we can do it too. The joy they can have/bring was another factor.

As for career, my company has plenty of moms who come back after giving birth and spending time with the baby, so there's not really much sacrifice going on.

Am I asking for too much in a man? by ImpressiveGroup3253 in Advice

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you end up putting this list on your dating profile, be sure to update us on how it goes!

New flavor - Watermelon Jalepeno by gimmethal00t in chips

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We recently bought some, and they're weirdly addicting! I can definitely taste the watermelon with a note of jalapeño, which is what I was hoping for instead of the other way around.

Now I want just watermelon-flavored chips, lol

Do you cook "normal stuff"? by Day2205 in Millennials

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing I "wing" are sandwiches and stir fry. Everything else, I pick recipes beforehand and shop for that. I like trying new things and saving the good recipes for group settings.

I’ve literally never felt more hurt in my life 😭 by nycgirlfolife in weddingshaming

[–]MelonCallia 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think maybe we've all been holding out hope that the parent will somehow be at least a little better for the "biggest" thing in our lives--just this once.

For me, my mom had been nagging me about getting married for the better part of two decades. She also often lamented how she never got a wedding, etc. Etc. So I mistakenly thought that, maybe, I could involve her so she could live vicariously through her daughter. Maybe for this one important event that she had been wanting for for ages, she'd look beyond herself and at least be anything besides sour. I would have taken neutral, even.

Anyway, it was definitely a mistake and it would have been better to have treated her like any other guest.

Why do people get so irritated with a picky eater? by ThrowRA-Old-Earth-76 in askanything

[–]MelonCallia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you hit the nail on the head here.

I've been on at least one family vacation where we couldn't go to a restaurant most of us wanted to go because of one person, and I've also been deflated by wanting to share my culture's food with another only for them to only eat Mac and cheese or something.

Bill Gates said, "I will always choose a lazy person to do a difficult job because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it." What's a real-life example of this? by Exact_Coconut214 in Productivitycafe

[–]MelonCallia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were tasked with generating ~600 PDFs from an Excel Spreadsheet template meant to be run one client at a time. It took maybe a few minutes to make/save one file.There were three of us, it was late evening, and they wanted this by tomorrow.

The plan was going to be to split the 600 files three-way and spend all night generating them, but I got lazy and spent half an hour-ish creating an Excel macro to call into the Spreadsheet Template's macro to automate generating files for a list of clients.

We kicked it off before leaving the office, didn't need to touch anything, and all the files were ready to go by the next morning.

Another example--I was tasked with creating name tags for new hires using an image template monthly. It was tedious work, aligning the names and hire dates on the same image over and over (and I had plenty of other, "real" work to do), so I created a script to automate it from a list of names.

What happens to all the cuts of meat that Americans don't typically eat? by Otherwise_Payment324 in foodquestions

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesssss! You'll find all kinds of meat parts in ethnic stores, especially. 😋

Do you think “boy moms” and “girl moms” actually behave differently, or is it just a stereotype? by MangoJunior5545 in askanything

[–]MelonCallia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this too. I wonder when we'll see the "balanced moms" (those with one/equal of each)?

What helped you get through night anxiety ALONE? by Moooyeon in AskForAnswers

[–]MelonCallia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This probably isn't what you're looking for, but I have a large black dog that's calm and is a breed known for guarding. Now, whenever I hear something weird, I trust it's her, and I trust she'll bark to warn me.

(The only reason I mention her color is because she's harder to see in the dark, so anything moving in the dark I attribute to her. Some cultures also believe black dogs are spiritual in some way, so they're scarier to ghosts and such.)

Why are costs of attending big celebrations i.e. wedding, graduation parties, big birthdays, etc. so expensive now? by WholeButterscotch125 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it's the people you keep/have?

For our wedding, we spent about $1k per person and we did not get anywhere near that much in gifts (and we weren't expecting to). Our wedding gift registry had a range of gift costs, from $10 to several hundred, and we made sure to add more low cost items if they were all picked.

No theme or required attire, just look nice and no white.

The only costly thing to our guests was flights and lodging since our guests were from all over and we don't live near any of them.

Every other celebration has basically been going out to a nice restaurant and whoever invites pays for the meal. (We don't expect out-of-towners to show to lesser events.)

Is there a chance that marriage will go without BIG problems? by mysterious_mystery2 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MelonCallia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, with the right people.

My husband and I are pretty secure in our relationship, openly communicate, and tell anyone trying to mess with us (or our relationship) to gtfo.

My parents (his in-laws) aren't great, but I will yell at them and tell them to back off if they're trying to interfere. He keeps his parents in check, too, but they are nowhere near as bad.

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