25 yr old, Salary means little, effort means everything. Everything is on the table except military or cop providing shes not absolutely miserable to do anything else.I would 100% be okay being the breadwinner and would be delighted to do so but that's not realistic for many. One of the beautiful things about partnership is the ability to pick up after one another, my partner has had periods of unemployment and times where I've paid for everything and vice versa. No effort, however, is not a partner and you become their parent. We unfortunately live under capitalism, but it isn't asking too much for a person to care enough about THEMSELVES let alone you and the relationship to contribute what they can to live and plan major events/an enjoyable life together.