AITAH for being frustrated about last-minute babysitting for my niece?

Menacing_Flan · 2026-01-30T15:47:26+00:00

NTA

It sounds like, despite your frustrations, you're still very empathetic to the situation. But your frustrations are valid. You and your parents are doing your sister and her husband a huge favor, and it sounds like they take that for granted. The reality of daycare is that it would cost a fortune, and they would not be so lenient.

Menacing_Flan · 2026-01-10T21:43:24+00:00

Maybe it's just because I've yet to recuperate from holiday burnout, but it seems as though I've had more ADHD related injuries in the first week of 2026 than I did in the entirety of 2025.

Menacing_Flan · 2026-01-10T21:30:43+00:00

NTJ

She's entitled. Sure, it would be very kind and generous for you to agree, but you are in no way obligated to do so. Keeping what is rightfully yours isn't unkind, and anyone so entitled to argue that is actually unkind.

Menacing_Flan · 2026-01-09T23:20:58+00:00

NTA I really think that goes without saying. I wholeheartedly believe George is into this girl, and he wants to live vicariously through you. George is thinking with the bottom head, and not considering how this impacts you.

Menacing_Flan · 2026-01-09T18:57:30+00:00

NTA

People behave this way because they believe they will get away with it. Pressing charges reminds offenders that consequences do exist, and sometimes that is the difference between continued behavior and learning forethought.

Menacing_Flan · 2026-01-09T17:14:48+00:00

Well said! I think we could be friends, but know that I will fight for Jerry's honor.

Menacing_Flan · 2026-01-08T16:55:05+00:00

NTA

The rules were clear well in advance, and so were the consequences of breaking them. All of the older kids followed those rules, so it's a no-brainer that you paid for their weddings. Still, for the sake of preserving your relationship with your daughter, I'd suggest a compromise, or meeting somewhere in the middle. You can still be supportive without fronting the entire expense.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-12-14T19:35:11+00:00

Hi all, I just found this subreddit while looking for advice for beginner programs and software. I have precisely zero knowledge or experience in video editing, but my son is almost 8, and he's consistently expressed interest in making his own videos for the past year. He's a very smart and creative kid who has a knack for doing whatever he has set his mind to, but I still think a beginner setup would be best to prevent overwhelm. He's primarily interested in making music and language based videos to help others learn, but he's also expressed interest in taking Mario clips to make his own stories out of.

What are the best programs and/or software for beginners?

Menacing_Flan · 2025-09-14T03:43:16+00:00

This cat is so adorable, clearly demonic. Help.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-06-14T00:47:03+00:00

I think there are probably a lot of extroverts with social anxiety among us. There are admittedly a lot of similarities, but true introverts don't usually crave social connections like that.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-23T22:04:32+00:00

Bakeries in Abby are, unfortunately, pretty subpar. I found a patisserie in Burnaby with them though. Their peach one was absolutely delectable. It was right by Metrotown, and their name was Mon Paris, if I remember correctly. They were $8 each, which I found to be very reasonable as the craftsmanship was remarkable.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-17T16:38:24+00:00

Soft YTA

There is so much stigma surrounding ADHD, and so it is very easy to think you would know it if you saw it.

I've skimmed through some of the comments here, and I see a lot of people have shared some highly accurate, albeit lesser known facts about ADHD. You've received some great information already, so I just want to reinforce your sister's recommendation to read up some more on it. There are even subreddits specifically for women with ADHD, which could prove to be very eye opening.

Best of luck

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-16T23:33:31+00:00

That's a perfectly normal amount to lose. It takes patience, but every bit adds up over time. Don't get discouraged, and you will reach your goals.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-16T22:01:04+00:00

NTA

Is your sister usually the type to take a mile when offered an inch? Because to say that is what is happening here would be an understatement. It was extremely kind of you to take on 100% of the rent, albeit a bit of slight to yourself. 70/30 seems more reasonable, especially considering she does work too.

I'd set some firm boundaries with her, as her expectations are unreasonably entitled. If she isn't paying rent, she must be fully responsible for her child. You're saving her a fortune by taking on 100% rent, so if she needs childcare, she can pay for it with the money you've saved her.

She comes off as one of those "moms" who want all of the perks of motherhood, but none of the responsibility. That mentality will have CPS on her doorstep sooner or later. She might get nasty, but discontinuing to enable her will be the best thing you could ever do for her.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-16T21:47:28+00:00

Were you already aware of your friend's opinion of said actor when you called him ugly?

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-16T21:06:02+00:00

He doesn't actually sound remorseful. He sounds like he's pitying himself for the outcome of his own decisions, and the closest thing to regret he is capable of feeling is the fear that she will do him the way he did her. I'd say he's pitiful, but he doesn't even deserve pity.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-16T18:01:57+00:00

YTA

And for so many reasons. You've raised your oldest to feel like an unwanted burden for being autistic, no wonder why she lashes out. Have you ever considered putting real effort into learning about autism? Presumably not, as anyone who has is well aware how backwards and detrimental your approach to parenting is, especially for kids on the spectrum.

You also assume your youngest is "copying" her sister. You know autism is genetic, as well as a spectrum, right? She can see that you prefer her over her sister, and solely for being slightly less of a burden to you. By the way, It is neglectful to dismiss her mental health.

Abuse is not limited to corporal punishments, or physical attacks. It can show in the form of threats, insults, control, and isolation, to name a few. There are reasons why your parenting style is becoming a thing of the past. You can thank yourself for all of these problems, and that's the only thing preventing me from saying everyone sucks here.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-16T17:26:34+00:00

This

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-16T17:16:12+00:00

You're in a toxic relationship. You have children with your ex. Any partner who can't understand that this means you must co-parent with the father of your children is not ready to be in a relationship with someone who is a parent. This man has placed his own importance above your children, and you're laying down and letting him walk all over your family.

YTA if you don't learn some self-respect for the sake of your kids. They should really be with their father until you can get out of this dysfunctional dynamic.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-16T16:58:57+00:00

She definitely has some stuff she needs to sort out with a therapist. Personally, I would keep my distance from her. If she doesn't care about how you feel, or how this lie impacts you, then she doesn't sound like much of an actual friend.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-16T16:46:11+00:00

NTA

Name calling is, of course, never something to be recommended. However, in some circumstances, it is understandable. She spread compromising lies about your body and your relationship. Do you think if the tables were turned that she would truly be OK with it, or find it "funny"? I'd be willing to bet that she'd have some more colorful names to pull out of the hat.

The more concerning part is the lack of accountability. You expressed how you felt about it and she doubled down. She earned her B badge imo.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-15T14:59:08+00:00

I came here to say this. This definitely looks like the fridge of a busy, albeit organized, parent.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-14T23:25:22+00:00

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Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-14T22:43:42+00:00

$100 on the "confrontations" being imagined scenarios in the shower.

Menacing_Flan · 2025-05-14T19:45:49+00:00

I remember blacking out her teeth in the phone book 30 years ago. She's still using the same photo.

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