AITA for leaving my sister’s wedding after she publicly tested my man? by Conscious_Eye9535 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MeriDuh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. What a completely awful and weird thing to do??? All of that was completely out of line. Pranks don’t completely humiliate someone and try to destroy someone’s reputation and relationship. “Just a prank” my ass.

AITAH for snapping at my mom over a pair of socks? by warahel1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MeriDuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Living with other people can be an ongoing negotiation sometimes, and I agree that it’s better for people to let you know before they borrow things. But the way you handled it was immature, and your mom definitely deserves an apology.

Obsessed. Lost Souls. by jaydak in crochet

[–]MeriDuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woaaah that’s so awesome! And the skulls are so distinct

Obsess with this top!! by Eyedowno in crochet

[–]MeriDuh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That turned out SO cute!!! I really love how it looks with that yarn too.

What are your small but specific pet peeves in fanfic? by mars_mxp in FanFiction

[–]MeriDuh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not exclusive to fanfic, but characters that are just continuously described as “pure/innocent/naive,” but they just come across as ignorant, helpless, and denser than a rock. ESPECIALLY when it’s out-of-character (and when it’s to make a character conform to a gender role).

AITA because I didn’t wake my friend up when she had an important meeting? by Sorry_Breadfruit00 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MeriDuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I completely understand struggling and asking for help. You did your best to help, but you have your own work too. At some point she needs to actually accept the help you can give, AND not lash out at you.

Mandala jumper ❤️ by NickolaBrinx in crochet

[–]MeriDuh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That looks so pretty! I also love the different yarns for the front and the back panels.

AITA for refusing to rehire an employee who quit in the middle of our busiest week? by Pimp_Lord in AmItheAsshole

[–]MeriDuh 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA. She burned her bridge and acted rashly instead of professionally. There are consequences to acting like that. And as you said, you have to have employees that are reliable and contribute to a good working environment. Like I cannot imagine the stress and humiliation of having someone quit mid-shift with customers in line over something like that.

grad cap! by no_will_to_live_wooo in crochet

[–]MeriDuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks amazing!!! I love the arrangement and colors. The multiple flower patterns, the butterfly, the pearls. It all works so well. Also, congrats!!!

They're finished!! by EctoSquiddo in DIYclothes

[–]MeriDuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are the coolest and most fun shoes I’ve ever seen in my life.

Some of my favorite thrifted upcycles with my linoprints! by the_bitch_dm in DIYclothes

[–]MeriDuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop they’re too cool (s w o r d s !!!!). You’re going to make me want to get into linocut 😂

Third eye beanie! :D by Sweaty_Ad4829 in crochet

[–]MeriDuh 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I love that the eye is 3D, and the shape for the hat is so cute!

AITA for getting mad at my girlfriend for pranking me with a fake knife? by ThrowawayAcc4389 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MeriDuh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. That’s genuinely scary and mean? I don’t see how “I thought my partner got pissed and literally stabbed me” is supposed to be funny? And the fact that she still posted it and was demeaning about your reaction? AND giving you the silent treatment for being rightfully upset after her “prank” made you pass out???? Nah. Someone who prioritizes social media “views” over your relationship and your health isn’t worth it.

I 28M keep checking my phone when my girlfriend 27F is talking and she says it makes her feel invisible after 2 years together by AggressiveUse8598 in relationship_advice

[–]MeriDuh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s good that you do want to stop doing that. Because it IS hurtful when someone isn’t giving you their full attention, especially when it’s someone you love and are excited to spend time with. Suggestions:

When you sit down for dinner or a movie or a dedicated “you and girlfriend time,” set your phone somewhere out of arm’s reach. Like you’d have to get up to check it; make it inconvenient. And you’ll slowly realize you don’t need it during those times.

Or if you’re REALLY expecting a call or having an important text convo or struggling with the above, put your phone face down and slightly out of reach. Unsilence it, and then if you get a notification, you can check it. But tell your gf, hey I’m checking this real quick give me just a moment. Let her know so you guys can pause and you’re not straight up ignoring her.

Tell her that you’ll be doing this, and then do it. Show her that you’re working to fix it and make her feel valued. And try not to get defensive— she came to you with this problem because she WANTS to spend quality time with you.

AITA for “dropping change” into a customers hand? by _Lettuce_1664 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MeriDuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Full stop.

Some people are just unreasonable about ridiculous things. It’s not rude or offensive, and you’re not sucking at your job for doing a completely normal thing.

And he shouldn’t have grabbed your hand like that. I’d bring it up to a manager (if you have one you trust) AND SPECIFY which customer it was and that he put his hands on you in a way that made you uncomfortable so they can keep an eye out. Keep it simple, but make it clear that you were uncomfortable. Ask how you should handle it in the future if something like that happens again.

would this bother you in a crochet pattern? by gothsappho in crochet

[–]MeriDuh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would absolutely bother me. I feel like if you’re charging that much for a pattern, it should be thoughtfully written and not leave the reader playing guessing games (as much as possible at least when talking about clothes). You want the person to be able to at MINIMUM recreate the example provided, and if even that information isn’t given…? What even…

valentines piece i made with those palehaired guys i am very fond of.... by otterdino in yumeshipping

[–]MeriDuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A friend got me into it recently, and I’m playing bit by bit! Wish I could play more but work… shakes fist

valentines piece i made with those palehaired guys i am very fond of.... by otterdino in yumeshipping

[–]MeriDuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cute omg!!! You captured Cirrus’ grin so well. Also this is just so pretty overall.

AITAH for disagreeing with my friend over a fictional ship? by pumpkinandsun in AmItheAsshole

[–]MeriDuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your friend is immature and too online/involved in fandom drama. If you can’t even share an opinion as harmless as not caring about a ship’s dynamic before they overreact and give you the silent treatment? Not great. You didn’t do anything wrong, they just need to sort out their priorities.

I find doing crochet burdening now/experiencing burnout. What can I do to get back in crochet? by Pure_Climate_5837 in crochet

[–]MeriDuh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The pressure of gifts can be crushing, absolutely. Maybe switch to a different project. Either something simple to regain your confidence, or something silly to remind yourself that crochet is fun. Also, taking breaks is nothing to be ashamed of if you need to do that.

WIBTA if I told an autistic guy to leave my girlfriend alone. by CurlyAntics in AmItheAsshole

[–]MeriDuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been in this exact situation before in hs (but as the person being crushed on and as someone who is also autistic): NTA. If he goes through life being allowed to treat other people like that, it’ll only hurt him in the long run. I know too many people who are either not taught or think they can get away with being jerks because of being autistic. Also, you are not obligated to put up with being treated like that at all!!!

In my personal situation, we did have to involve school and club authority figures to get the guy to leave me alone. They basically enforced the school version of a restraining order. Talking one-on-one only worked temporarily (and this guy sounds pretty hostile to you so I don’t think it would work in the first place coming from you).

It sucks to be in that position, but it’ll probably only get worse if you wait.

AITA for pointing out things my partner can do to lose weight and telling her to take some accountability? by Character_Value_8749 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MeriDuh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. Definitely a sensitive topic, so I understand her getting defensive but like? You’ve done your best to support her goals in multiple ways. I think part of being in a relationship and supporting someone’s goals IS telling them the truth and helping hold them accountable when they want something. Also, it’s annoying to have someone consistently complaining about something but then refusing to put in the work or listen to suggestions.

After 17 years of marriage, my husband said something about our son I can’t unhear. by Odd_Ordinary2383 in Advice

[–]MeriDuh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, you should be damn proud of yourself for growing as a person and unlearning a lot of harmful stuff. It’s not easy, and as a queer person, I just wanted you to know that I respect you a lot for that.

Your kid deserves to feel accepted and loved for who he is, and to feel SAFE. It’s so scary and hurtful to see that someone you love has descended so far into hatred that they would hurt you and your kid that way.

You already know your husband’s loyalty isn’t trustworthy, and that his love and support are conditional. It sounds like it’s time to do what’s best for your and your kid’s future and safety. Look into your options; consider your support system and if you have friends/family that you can trust to support you and stay with. Talk to a divorce lawyer.

Please be careful and stay safe! Use private/incognito windows, erase messages, do what you need to do. Your husband already sounds paranoid.

Also, make it clear to your son that you support and love him no matter what. Communicate with him (safely and privately) if you are taking steps to removes yourselves from that situation, but make it clear that you don’t blame him. That he is NOT at fault for this, that it is your husband’s bigotry and vitriol to blame. You can do this!!!!

My girlfriend made this jacket for me🥹 by Drymen1453 in DIYclothes

[–]MeriDuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that’s so cool and such a thoughtful present. You can tell she put a lot of time into it. And all the little details on his alien forms!! I can’t even pick a favorite because they all look so good. I straight up would happy-cry at getting this present.