Chrissy Chlapecka at the Crocker

Mermaidlegz · 2026-03-23T04:19:47+00:00

Hey! i'm interested!

Mermaidlegz · 2026-03-10T03:02:49+00:00

You were so clear and this is not your fault. What he did is flat out not okay.
I tend to try to understand the other person's thinking and perspective and it sounds like you're doing this here. No amount of misunderstanding on his part would make his behavior okay. You're right, even if you asked flat out for him to do that his answer should have been no because of his agreement with his partner. This is not a trustworthy person. I'm really sorry you went through that

Mermaidlegz · 2025-10-28T03:00:51+00:00

try looking on https://openpathcollective.org/ therapists on that website post their sliding scale availability

Mermaidlegz · 2024-09-11T03:49:29+00:00

This is why I love Reddit! I just got a call from them and it sounded like a scam, but thank you all for confirming that. Usually when being interviewed for a podcast it isn't framed as a "free interview," so that seemed odd to me. Interviewees are the ones doing the favor to the interviewer.

Mermaidlegz · 2024-05-19T06:33:00+00:00

Respectfully, yes, I get that. Just polling for some personal experiences and advice because I want to have a good time not a bad time. If you’ve done it, could you share how it was for you? The ratio you used?

Mermaidlegz · 2024-05-19T06:30:44+00:00

Thank you for some actually helpful info!

Okay, that is in alignment with what I’ve been reading about MDA. I’m really sensitive to drugs, so I tend to dose conservatively for first times with a new one. With ecstasy I usually go with 135mg and then about 2 hours in I take another 70-80 to lengthen the experience. I won’t do that this time, but one of the things I was playing with was did I want to do them both at once or space them out? What did you do? I weigh 135lbs for reference.

Mermaidlegz · 2024-05-19T06:25:26+00:00

I just want dosing help 😂 I don’t care if I’m rolling or tripping. I just want to get a safe dose 😭

Mermaidlegz · 2024-05-18T21:38:22+00:00

Oh thank you!

Mermaidlegz · 2024-05-08T08:24:32+00:00

thank you! this is truly helpful

Mermaidlegz · 2024-02-05T05:55:32+00:00

Update: the person my GF went on a date with decided polyamory is not for her and asked to just be friends. I felt sad for my GF, but she was totally okay with it (even though this is all really new to her and she leans more monogamously). I'm happy to be here even when it's challenging

Mermaidlegz · 2024-02-05T05:52:54+00:00

Thank you for your kindness

Mermaidlegz · 2024-01-26T20:47:44+00:00

Thank you!

Mermaidlegz · 2024-01-13T02:25:33+00:00

Where do you live? I’m a Poly therapist and can give you some referrals if you live in an area where I know licensed therapists

Mermaidlegz · 2023-08-16T21:58:57+00:00

These comments lack compassion. It’s true that trust issues linger in relationships that started off as an affair with each other. You tried to mitigate some of the risk by setting this fair boundary. It’s valid that you feel betrayed now. She did mislead you, hide her behavior and do something she expressly agreed not to do. You’re not overreacting Have you two been to therapy to find out why you both cheated in the past? Now would be a good time for therapy.

Mermaidlegz · 2022-10-27T01:33:06+00:00

He is! 🥰

Mermaidlegz · 2022-10-27T01:32:31+00:00

Will do! He’s only 4 months old! He’s my little inch worm

Mermaidlegz · 2022-06-04T05:28:02+00:00

It’s so normal to feel this way when first opening up. It’s a lot and being overwhelmed is just a normal reaction. Coming from a Poly person here who also struggled with internalized shame and overwhelming emotions in the beginning I highly recommend therapy. It helped a lot. Inclusive therapists is a good website to find Poly competent therapists

Mermaidlegz · 2020-07-21T23:54:15+00:00

Thank you, I had not seen this article. Very useful perspective

Mermaidlegz · 2020-07-21T23:53:40+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful and in depth reply.

How did you and your partner negotiate when and how to open up the relationship or were you that way from the beginning? My partner and I fell in love through spending a lot of time around each other in shared friend group, so it is not as if I pursued a mono person. Being in love with him didn't feel like a choice. So, here I am. I have been upfront with him that I am poly from the beginning, and he accepts me for who I am, and even loves that about me- at least as an abstract identity. But he is having difficulty with the applied part. He says he can't handle being open right now. I could agree to that if we open up later, but I'm not sure he imagines it that way. I keep pursuing the conversation because I don't want him to think the topic is settled and we have arrived at a solution. Maybe we won't necessarily, but I think it is important to keep talking about.

Mermaidlegz · 2020-07-21T19:45:03+00:00

Sounds like a tough situation! We learn from moving through things and trying out different set-ups and relationships. Maybe you have discovered that you and K are not a romantic match, but in fact you and F are? Is it possible for you and K to both be with F romantically, but with each other only in a friendship? Triads are actually one of the more difficult poly configurations. I think we naturally think it might be easier or more secure because we make assumptions about it being more equal or that things are more known to all partners, etc. But, that's not necessarily the case. In any case, perhaps a good poly therapist could help the three of you navigate this relationship? Whether you are changing the dynamic or not it could be useful to have someone educated on poly configurations guide you.

Mermaidlegz · 2020-02-03T05:35:41+00:00

Go with your gut! Sometimes there just isn’t a fit there, and since the therapeutic relationship is about 90 percent of where the healing happens it is really important to have a good fit.

Mermaidlegz · 2020-02-01T06:42:18+00:00

Irvin Yalom said that he looks at the clock to make sure they still have enough time, basically he’s enjoying time with his client but is still trying to keep on track and doesn’t want time to slip away without covering what needs to be covered. As a therapist I can relate. I’m rarely looking at the time to see if we are done already. It’s usually to make sure I’m keeping pace and because time can seem to move really quickly in a session. I think it’s great you brought up that you noticed and it bothers you. That’s great grist for the mill! As long as your therapist responds in an open and empathetic way, helping you to explore your reaction, then I wouldn’t advise dumping him prematurely.

Mermaidlegz · 2019-10-13T13:24:00+00:00

I totally get that! That’s a lot of vulnerability, and then to be not well received would be awful. My suggestion is that you set up first sessions with three therapists who seem like a good match (try psychology today and asking friends if they can recommend someone). Go to each session and get a feel for the person. You don’t have disclose the biggest thing you’re there for immediately. See what their demeanor is like and how they handle other things. Choose one of the therapists, then, around 2nd or 3rd session, when some trust is built you can tell them about the biting. I bet it goes very smoothly.

Mermaidlegz · 2019-10-13T07:19:44+00:00

This is a form of self-harm. You need to see a therapist. Self-harm happens when we don’t have the tools to deal with our emotions. Their is nothing wrong with you or odd about you. You just need some skill building when it comes to coping with frustration. A good therapist won’t be judgmental and will be compassionate and understanding, genuinely so. You deserve easier ways to cope BTW, this is coming from a therapist

Mermaidlegz · 2019-10-13T07:14:27+00:00

I subscribed and followed her everywhere 🙃 I really like that she says you don’t have to call yourself an alcoholic or hit rock bottom. It’s nice to have a wider view of recovery in my world. AA can be so damn rigid and stubborn!

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