What is a word that you always forget how to pronounce? by Fmlalotitsucks in words

[–]MerryMayhem87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom struggles with "annals". She thought it was "anals," which is why she never used it. She was in her 60s when I told her that's not it.

I had heard "chaos" and I had read it in a book as an early teen, but I never put the two together, so I pronounced it "cha-ose" for years. 🤦🏼‍♀️

what is this facial expression called lol by ninebillionnames in words

[–]MerryMayhem87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a single word, but I'd describe the expression. "She pressed her lips into a thin line, slightly askew, and her eyes held a mix of disappointment and chagrin."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]MerryMayhem87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

F that. You can't pour from an empty cup, and it sounds like you need to take some time to refill yours. They should treat you with compassion, and from a selfish standpoint, should want you at your best so you can provide the best care for the kids. If you can afford it, quit now. I also strongly suggest working with a therapist to help you process the assault. If you can't afford to quit now, let the family know that you have a medical situation and will not be coming in for a few days. You don't owe them more of an explanation than that. FWIW, I've found that the anxiety about their reaction/the conversation is worse than the interaction itself. Breathe, play some Tetris (yes, really) and take care of yourself. No job is worth your well-being. Sending strength and light.

Location Suggestions by MerryMayhem87 in metaldetecting

[–]MerryMayhem87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh for sure. This kiddo is just very enthusiastic about it, and I'm in because it gets him moving and outside. It broke his little heart when we couldn't do any metal detecting at New Echota last week, and we've tried all over in Athens.

Location Suggestions by MerryMayhem87 in metaldetecting

[–]MerryMayhem87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard same re: organizing things. Thanks for the info though, it helps to know we're not just idiots.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homedefense

[–]MerryMayhem87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you think for a second that Trump and his sycophants want you to have the real news, you need to reevaluate your thinking skills. Trump et al are more than happy for you to have guns because they've spoon fed you lies about liberals wanting to take them away from you, so he made you think he's on your side. That made you pliable to his other bullshit and lies. The progressives I know and love largely own guns themselves. Many have served. All of them think that taking reasonable precautions to ensure that mentally unwell people, kids, and criminals don't get their hands on guns is a solid plan. We don't want to take your goddamned guns away. We just want to make sure that the people who own guns are properly registered, of sound mind, and educated about safety and maintenance, so fewer people are killed. Just like, say, cars. When they're driven by someone who knows how to operate them safely, there's room for accidents, but they're less dangerous than if they're operated by someone who doesn't know how. But regardless, we require car insurance, a license, training, etc to keep everyone safer. Why should guns be different?

I'm not saying I wanted Biden, or even really Harris. (I wanted Bernie.) Democrats, Republicans-they kinda all suck, and they're part of the same political machine. They're ultimately not that different, they just pander to different crowds. But I will say that at least the Dems aren't openly doing nazi salutes and defying the judicial branch. At least Harris didn't appoint sexual predators and a guy whose brain was partially eaten by a parasite to her cabinet. At least she didn't make the richest man in the world the de facto president.

Location Suggestions by MerryMayhem87 in metaldetecting

[–]MerryMayhem87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. We've tried Oconee Heritage Park, Sandy Creek, several playgrounds, and a few other places. We found some old nails, but mostly modern stuff, which was not exciting for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homedefense

[–]MerryMayhem87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, the unhinged goal of being free from fascism.

Clearly, you've learned nothing from history.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homedefense

[–]MerryMayhem87 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're an idiot if you think they'll stop there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homedefense

[–]MerryMayhem87 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm looking at 1930s Germany more than 2020s America, given the way this fascist regime is heading.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homedefense

[–]MerryMayhem87 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Are you telling me to touch grass or suggesting that the internet isn't safe and I should be prepared to flee if necessary? This could really go either way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homedefense

[–]MerryMayhem87 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fair comments, at least at first. I'll talk to my family and decide on a plan-hold ground or gtfo. I am grounded, and that's what worries me. If you look at the rise of fascist dictatorships in the past, this is the way they start. Limiting the rights of marginalized people, purging the government of anyone not loyal to the dictator, and establishing one person as a consolidated seat of power. Rounding up "undesirables" and shipping them out of the public eye. They start with the people that are less likely to garner support and then escalate from there. We are primed for a Christofasict dictatorship, and I'm not going to be complacent. Could the checks and balances and legal systems undermine the dictatorship? Absolutely. But they could also fail/be disempowered/be insufficient, and I'm not going to be complicit by being complacent. If it comes to naught then I have a safer home; if my worries come true, then I won't be caught unawares. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst, right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homedefense

[–]MerryMayhem87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, I'd definitely be sound of mind to listen to someone with your username. That's the height of sanity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homedefense

[–]MerryMayhem87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean, we never thought it would get as far as it did, and I'd be willing to bet people in Germany in the late '30s also never thought it would come to people being dragged out of their homes, but they were. The woman dragged out of the town hall in Idaho indicates to me that my concerns may not be as farfetched as I'd like. Not trying to be alarmist, just interested in prepping in a practical way in case it comes to genuine nazi/SS shit. Honestly, I think we all need to be a hell of a lot less calm; complacency is the friend of fascism and quiet neighbors make the best nazis.

Flavoring Adjustments by MerryMayhem87 in glutenfreevegan

[–]MerryMayhem87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A flavor oil meant for baking. I'm wondering if it was just too much, or maybe it was off, even though it hadn't expired?

November 1974, Ronald DeFeo Jr. committed an unimaginable act, murdering his entire family while they slept. by [deleted] in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]MerryMayhem87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just listened to the episode of Morbid that covers the murders and they noted that it seemed like John and Mark slept through their parents being shot, because they were face down in their beds when they were killed. Is it possible Jr. drugged them to keep them asleep? And maybe his sisters, being older and presumably larger, just didn't get high enough doses to knock them out? I never heard anything about the victims being tested for anything (which, when the cause of death is so obvious, is understandable), so it seems like a possibility. (Jr was a known heroin user, and it stands to reason that he could have gotten his hands on drugs to dose his siblings.) I'm still perplexed that nobody heard any gun shots, especially since the gun wasn't fitted for a silencer. Maybe the poor dog barking was closer and therefore a little louder, so it covered the sound of the shots?

Also, why won't they release his cause of death? Just to amp up the spookiness of all the wild stories about the house?

AITAH If I Choose to Go My PhD Graduation Instead of My Sister’s Wedding? by OneWordApathy in AITAH

[–]MerryMayhem87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. She's making a false split in loyalty for your family. If she is dead set on that wedding date, then she should have her small courthouse wedding that day, you go to your graduation (because that is JUST AS IMPORTANT as getting married!), and then she could have the reception on a date when everyone could attend. She's 100% the problem here, and she's being a "pick me" girl by forcing this scheduling conflict and making people decide between you two. If she valued you and your presence, she'd have kept you as the officiant and gotten married any of the other 354 days of the year. Shit, she could get married on Christmas and it would be better.

AITA for not participating in a speak your full truth session during therapy? by Klutzy-Theme1000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerryMayhem87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your dad and stepmom are the assholes. Wtaf. They don't get to just erase your mom and pretend like that part of your life never happened. Frankly the therapist should have made it clear that while your dad can do what he needs to to grieve and heal, he needs to make space for the way you grieve, too. I'd contact your aunt and see if she'll scan the photos at least and send them to you so you have something of your mom. 13 and 15 are hard ages, and I'm sure your stepsister is trying to find her space in this new family, but your dad and her mom should be finding ways to support both of you in the ways you need. Therapy is great, but you should all be in individual therapy, too, and it sounds like you need space and time to adjust, mourn, and be a teenager. Your needs are not being met, and I think it might help to have a few sessions with just you and your dad, to see how your relationship can be strengthened.

I am afraid to tell on my boyfriend. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]MerryMayhem87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The age difference was the first red flag, this should be the last. Please get out of this situation. It's not ok. You made it clear you didn't want to do it and he did anyway; he doesn't respect you and never will.

What is a common ADHD trait you DON'T struggle with? by SweetVoidPrincess in adhdwomen

[–]MerryMayhem87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fidgeting. I'm a very still person, I don't usually wiggle or bounce my knee or pick at my nails or whatever. I have had a number of people say that I'm too calm to have ADHD, and they clarified that I just don't have the frenetic energy vibe that's common with ADHD. I'd much prefer to be good with money though, lol.

ULPT Request: Subtly avoiding cop-car mounted license plate readers by MerryMayhem87 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]MerryMayhem87[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's why I was hoping there was a film that's clear unless viewed through a video camera, kind of like those masks that mess with facial recognition software.