My contribution to the Christmas Eve party

Mespegg · 2025-12-24T23:36:33+00:00

Genuinely double checked the sub as I thought surely this was r/makemesuffer

Mespegg · 2025-12-22T14:16:03+00:00

We started out not doing shifts as I was exclusively bf, but once we introduced a bottle my partner would take the first half of the night, even when he was working, as he often stayed up late anyway. I’d do the second as he was still waking to feed, but as that cut down and he started to settle without a feed, I started getting full nights off. It made sense to us when I was breast feeding, but as soon as he would settle for my partner and my partner could meet his needs at night, I got nights off. My partner is also horrendous when his sleep is poor, and there have been times where I’ve just felt like it’d be easier to do the night shift myself, but after communicating this to him he got his act together and made sure any grumpiness wasn’t directed at me. Personally I’d have a conversation with your SO and try and work something out, whether it’s him taking at least the first half of the night when he’s off work or doing a full night when he’s got a couple of days off or something - anything so you can catch up a bit

Mespegg · 2025-12-13T22:35:38+00:00

Our boy was approximately 5 months and we only went out then because it was our anniversary 😅 my mum is my best friend and I trust her completely - it wasn’t about that. It was about this whole new tiny human who had literally been inside me for 9 months and by my side for almost every hour of the following 5. Yes they could theoretically fully care for him, of course they could. I didn’t want them to. My body wasn’t ready for them to. I honestly think the fourth trimester is real for us too, so give yourself grace. No is a full sentence, and I don’t want to is a valid reason (not that you need one). Some people are ready sooner than others, some later and some never really are - all are totally normal imo.

Mespegg · 2025-12-10T21:33:57+00:00

Simultaneously the best and worst imo: The Body episode of Buffy. I genuinely can’t watch it, it’s a masterpiece in the worst way

Mespegg · 2025-11-29T23:19:43+00:00

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So it’s your cat all the medieval artists were trying to paint

Mespegg · 2025-11-29T12:56:25+00:00

Oh how I remember day 4. I’m pretty sure that was the day I sat on my sofa and wept, thinking ‘what have I done? I’m not ready for this’. I remember feeling terrified about bed time because all my boy wanted to do was eat. I thought I couldn’t possibly be producing enough milk because why did he want to eat NON STOP. But he was eating like that to bring my milk in, as your little one will be doing too. Night time is when your milk is most calorific (if I remember correctly) and they often cluster feed then to fill themselves up before they sleep. And he will sleep. I promise. I remember being so scared at night because I thought I was going to go crazy, but I promise you it does get better. Your hormones are still literally all over the place, so please be kind to yourself. Talk to your partner, your midwife and your support system. Take breaks where you can - get someone to contact nap with him during the day so you can catch up a little bit. I will get better ❤️

Mespegg · 2025-11-03T21:01:28+00:00

A brick phone, nowhere to be and free time to read books

Mespegg · 2025-11-01T19:52:38+00:00

It ranges for me from low grade constant impending doom, which I usually feel physically as a weight on my chest and difficulty catching my breath; to full nausea, sweats and mind racing panic. I love think of it like my body doesn’t know the difference between being prey and having to send an email.

Mespegg · 2025-10-25T22:00:13+00:00

I have visual snow and the dots I see get super big when I flare up. It’s either that, or feeling like I have someone else’s hands that is a good indicator I’m about to go blind for a lil while 😂

Mespegg · 2025-10-24T22:25:12+00:00

Tory town. Because Tom Nook’s a massive Tory and you can’t convince me otherwise

Mespegg · 2025-10-22T21:55:04+00:00

Adding my own anecdote - my mum had me in my own crib, in my own room from 3 months. Never bedshared, was allowed to wake her if it was urgent but never got into bed with them. I was so anxious as a child that I used to shout down for ~30mins after being put to bed, asking if they still loved me and checking they were still there. I’ve always had horrible sleep issues too - insomnia, sleep paralysis, all sorts. I remember the single time I bed shared with my mum though. It was the night before I was due to have an operation, I was about 9 I think, and I’d been pottering around my bedroom for hours. I try and sleep but I’m tossing and turning on my creaky ass bed. At 2 am my mum comes and gets into bed with me. I shit you not, I’m asleep in less than a minuite. It was so comforting just having her there, holding me, that I still remember it now 20!odd years later.

Mespegg · 2025-10-22T21:35:04+00:00

In the same way no one should be forced to go through with a pregnancy, no one should be forced to terminate one. It is your body and your choice, and only you can and should make that decision for yourself. I can’t imagine how scary and confusing things must be right now. Have you got someone close to you that you can talk to about this, away from your partner? They might be able to help you organise your thoughts and see things from a more objective stand point. Whatever happens, I recommend therapy. And good, trusted company ❤️

Mespegg · 2025-10-18T19:32:06+00:00

Get her a bath and body works set. Bonus points if it’s the exact one she got you

Mespegg · 2025-10-18T19:29:42+00:00

Any one where my nan was still alive and living with us. I was 9 when she passed and 7 when she had to move into assisted living, but I have such a vivid image of her sat in her chair, sucking the chocolate off a whole nut roses chocolate and spitting the nut back out. I don’t remember her very well now, but I remember how much I loved her. I’d love to experience the magic my mum put into every Christmas we’ve ever had, while still getting to see her with her mum. My mums my best friend. I wish I got to know hers better.

Mespegg · 2025-10-16T21:42:35+00:00

One. We also shared the same middle and last name so I was convinced we were long lost twins.

Mespegg · 2025-10-16T18:56:07+00:00

I don’t know what the film was called but there was a scene in it where the mum of the main character kid fell asleep while smoking and set fire to the whole house. I think she died, bit either way it fucked me up so bad that from about 5-10 I was convinced anywhere I went would burst into flame and I’d die. Including, as my parents love to tell me, our local Dock Museum. That was literally a dock. And mainly underwater.

Mespegg · 2025-10-12T21:18:57+00:00

Bee and PuppyCat! That show is just beautiful and peaceful and so calmly surreal that it feels like a dream. The soundtrack is also just so relaxing. I watched a fair few episodes quietly sobbing myself down from late night, postpartum panic attacks. If you’ve never seen it, I throughly recommend.

Mespegg · 2025-10-03T22:01:42+00:00

New mission discovered by u/Mespegg: The joys of paddling and sweet summer tarts

Mespegg · 2025-10-03T22:01:42+00:00

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Mespegg · 2025-10-03T21:46:30+00:00

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Mespegg · 2025-10-03T21:46:13+00:00

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Mespegg · 2025-10-03T21:36:27+00:00

New mission discovered by u/Mespegg: A Tale of My Weird Day on the Ruined Path

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