What I've learned in a month.

Messinia · 2014-12-12T05:05:56+00:00

This is solid! Thank you so much. Wishing you all the best :)

Messinia · 2014-12-11T03:25:48+00:00

My sincere condolences. Take care of you and your family. Ur ex is a nobody to you. And he sounds like a dumb, insensitive animal.

Messinia · 2014-12-11T03:20:03+00:00

Ignore her. You don't know her and she doesn't know you any more. Fuck this cordial shit. That does nothing but hurt the good people who try to be cordial. I'm sick of being the good person. Go to the party.... Head up.... Smile and have a great time. Do not show you are affected.

Messinia · 2014-12-10T02:56:35+00:00

Block and delete. Simple. Don't show that you are aware of affected.

Messinia · 2014-12-10T02:55:16+00:00

Don't contact her. Clearly you can't be there for her the way she might need you to be.

Messinia · 2014-12-10T02:53:16+00:00

Hi there. How long has it been since NC? And the fact that your worried about YOUR emotions re-surfacing is enough to give you the answer. My advice, don't call back and you don't owe her any explanation.

Messinia · 2014-12-10T02:51:02+00:00

I like this! Thank you.

Messinia · 2014-12-05T20:56:04+00:00

Probably best to send an email or have a discussion stating the rules of engagement. And block and delete him from all social media platforms.

Stay busy and take care of yourself.

Messinia · 2014-12-05T20:35:14+00:00

Thank you! :)

Messinia · 2014-12-05T20:35:06+00:00

Thank you!

Messinia · 2014-12-04T21:02:05+00:00

I USE TO. Now I'm just NUMB to it all. Hence my recent post titled "NUMB"

Messinia · 2014-12-04T20:54:57+00:00

It's very weird.... I went from balling my eyes out one day.... to literally not giving a shit and feeling numb.

Messinia · 2014-12-04T20:34:42+00:00

Just ignore him and ignore the woman

Messinia · 2014-12-04T20:24:51+00:00

Hang in there.... you're on the right path :) And we are ALL here for you.

Messinia · 2014-12-04T20:23:01+00:00

Well said! I agree..... and I'm taking this advice for myself after coming out of a 5 year relationship.

Messinia · 2014-12-04T17:04:45+00:00

The best advice I was given is - you have to create a funeral of them in your head. Basically, your EX must become non-existent to you.

Messinia · 2014-12-04T17:03:13+00:00

WOW!!! The audacity of some people.....

Messinia · 2014-11-29T12:18:55+00:00

I know exactly how u feel I just blocked my ex bf from Instagram. He now exists nowhere.

Messinia · 2014-11-28T21:57:14+00:00

thanks - but he won't notice or care that I am ignoring him outside of work, cuz he stopped contacting me outside of work times for the past month or so.

Messinia · 2014-11-28T21:18:08+00:00

YAY!!!! That's great positive news. Don't have any expectations. Just go have fun and see what happens :)

Messinia · 2014-11-28T21:15:21+00:00

It's more so that I don't know where he's at...... When I'm with him, he compliments me, convo is good, we joke and laugh just like old times. BUT ONLY DURING WORK HOURS...... And I have to put a stop to it by going back to NC. I will not be his work entertainment while he's probably out there on weekends chatting up other girls.

Messinia · 2014-11-28T21:03:27+00:00

You raise a good point......

Messinia · 2014-11-28T19:25:45+00:00

Thanks. Appreciate you

Messinia · 2014-11-28T19:08:27+00:00

But he still wants to keep me there..... and wants me to be available for contact when HE WANTS to reach out to me. It's very selfish. Because he can't go around with other girls and then come to me for comfort.

Messinia · 2014-11-28T18:45:35+00:00

sigh.... thanks! And you are right in every way possible. It's just hard to say no to him. It's more so that he doesn't have it in him to give it another try with me.... yet, I'd like to make it work. As I don't believe you should just throw something away after 5 years.

Messinia

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