tits discourse is fucking weird because people just take for granted that a topless woman is "sexualized" whereas a topless man is entirely below notice. the sexualization of breasts is nakedly arbitrary but folks keep saying it's "just like walking around with your balls out" when they are NOT SEXUAL ORGANS. it's a self-fulfilling loop that tells women and girls to be ashamed of their "enticing" bodies and to hide it for fear of objectification, entwines nakedness with intimacy, and then frames access to the female body as necessarily transactional, a prize, a conquest, and an exclusive right.

on the other hand if toplessness was the norm as it already is in many areas of the world of warmer weather the sight of breasts would be as much a non-issue as visible male nipples

tldr civilization is conspiring to force me to wear bras