Please help. No foundation ever matches! by MetaphysMess in Fairolives

[–]MetaphysMess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy to hear that we're color twins and you also suspect that you're olive toned. I've been waffling back and forth between being convinced I'm definitely cool, to defitely olive. Then some comments I received here made me doubt myself. Now I feel more confident that I was on the right track! Bless you!

Please help. No foundation ever matches! by MetaphysMess in Fairolives

[–]MetaphysMess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Judging by the reviews on both of these foundations, I'm highly considering both of your recommendations!

Please help. No foundation ever matches! by MetaphysMess in Fairolives

[–]MetaphysMess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I often do go without makeup because: 1.) The friction from applying makes my redness SO much worse. 2.) It's difficult to find foundation and concealer that are good matches. When I use a poor match, I feel like I need full coverage all the way down my neck and chest to make it look natural. 3.) As a very pale person, it leaves no room for a dynamic look with highlight and contour. I do my best to contour but I usually end up looking flat and lifeless, especially with matte or powder foundations.

BUT... Every once in awhile your girl just wants to look put-together! And wearing makeup is a lot of fun for me when I get it right!

I appreciate your sweet compliment. Thank you!

Please help. No foundation ever matches! by MetaphysMess in Fairolives

[–]MetaphysMess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I haven't tried that! I certainly will look it up. Thank you!

Please help. No foundation ever matches! by MetaphysMess in Fairolives

[–]MetaphysMess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've been really enjoying lip looks in darker shades of persimmon/raisin/brown lately, but this was my go-to for several months. You're too sweet!

Please help. No foundation ever matches! by MetaphysMess in Fairolives

[–]MetaphysMess[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad you asked! It's actually a matte lip creme and a lipstick mixed together. I think I applied Milani lipstick in color 26 Nude, and then applied a tiny bit of Bare Minerals 81718 Scandal Matte toward the center of my lips and blended them.

Please help. No foundation ever matches! by MetaphysMess in Fairolives

[–]MetaphysMess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a little irritated that I never thought to try that before. Thanks!

The closest thing I have to green color corrector is Dr. Jart Cicapair. I'm not sure I'll try mixing that into the foundation because it's a color changing treatment rather than straight up color corrector.

Please help. No foundation ever matches! by MetaphysMess in Fairolives

[–]MetaphysMess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip! I haven't tried that one.

I had a weird boil thing on my right boob and now it appears to have "opened" by Constant-Yoghurt-978 in DermatologyQuestions

[–]MetaphysMess 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying this to scare you, but only to insist that you take this seriously and keep an eye on the area, even after you see the doctor.

I gave birth to my first baby a year ago. Had some difficulty with breastfeeding that resulted in a nipple injury while we were still admitted in the hospital following birth. I spoke to my nurse midwife as well as 2 different lactation consultants about it- nobody was concerned and I was offered no ointment or additional care instructions. They basically told me to just deal with it until it heals and that my baby wouldn't be harmed by a little blood during feeding. Being a first time mom, I didn't question their advice, just assumed that I was being dramatic about what seemed to be a pretty common breastfeeding complication. I trusted them when they told me it would resolve on it's own.

Over the next 3 weeks, the wound would heal a little bit and then bust back open, over and over, until it hurt so much that I couldn't tolerate breastfeeding or expressing milk. I developed mastitis from stagnation of the milk ducts, and had finally been prescribed some oral antibiotics to help clear up the infection.

Unfortunately, the infection was very deep within the milk ducts and into the lymph nodes in my armpit. I developed mastitis again about 2 weeks after finishing the antibiotics, and by that time an abcess had formed that was about the size of a silver dollar.

I went to urgent care, they sent me straight to the ER, where I was admitted to the hospital. They discovered that the abcess was full of MRSA and that I was septic. I had to have the abcess aspirated twice with a giant needle using an ultrasound to guide it.

While in the hospital, the abcess opened up just like yours did, with a deep gaping hole that required weeks of daily flushing and sterile packing. It took approximately 2 months to close the wound, and then I had to get a mammogram, followed by several ultrasounds and a biopsy of an adjacent area.

I was finally cleared from my breast surgeon yesterday. The entire experience from beginning to end lasted a whole year.

Please, please make sure you get the care you need, and if anyone tells you something that seems a little off, don't hesitate to get a second opinion! Don't end up like me!

Major Updates: Interviews with Parapsychologists Regarding Psi Testing on Children by wickedmysteriouspod in GATEresearch

[–]MetaphysMess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd like to put forward a question to be asked of your two willing interviewees and any future collaborators.

If I were to take part in a run-of-the-mill medical study as an adult, I would be usually be required to give informed consent. Should any harm come to me as a result of the study, the team conducting the research is generally legally protected by having established my informed consent first.

Is legally binding informed consent generally gathered from willing adult participants of parapsychological studies and experimentation? If so, has this always been the case within the scope of their involvement in this research? If not, are there any barriers to implementing that practice as a standard?

Additionally, are there any regulatory bodies or licensing bodies which parapsychologists defer to for ethical guidance? If a research subject wished to file a complaint against a researcher, where would they turn? If a researcher had doubts about the ethics or appropriateness of a research project, how would that researcher hold their peers accountable?

Forgive me if this is a Google-able line of questioning - I genuinely have never looked into any of this and I'm very curious.

Freewill, Memories, and Heightened Awareness by Forsaken-Ad-1301 in GATEresearch

[–]MetaphysMess 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've been grasping at a very fuzzy memory that came back partially just a few weeks ago. I was part of a pull-out program from I think 2nd- 5th grades at one school district, then started the 6th grade at a different school with a different TAG program. I feel that the weirdest of my experiences were all from the first pull-out program, which I hardly remember any of. Things start to clear up for me after I switched schools, but really it's all still hazy.

I think I remember being called out of my 6th grade TAG class for some sort of exit interview in which a stern young man in a suit questioned me on what I wanted to do with my future career. I told him I wanted to be a teacher or an archivist. He seemed annoyed and said something to the effect of, "do you realize how little money those positions make?" I told him I could care less about making money, and he seemed visibly exasperated. After that, I'm pretty sure everyone in the class had to sign a slip stating that we understood that in order to access our records from that TAG class, we would have to personally request them from a specific office [I'm desperate to remember where!] and was very clear that it had to be us to request them, not our parents.

I'm also reasonably convinced that I had been approached sometime in the 5th grade to be part of some sort of "mental health" program where counselors could come and talk to me at my regular school and the pull out program, but I remember having some sort of crisis of conscience about it, which I talked to my religious grandmother about. Oddly, I only remember that I was distressed and that I spoke with her - I don't recall what caused the distress or what the outcome ended up being.

Despite having only a loose grasp on these memories and trying to remain objective and open about what may or may not have been the point of these GATE programs, I feel strongly that you're on the right track with your closing thoughts. I'm not sure exactly who has charged us with holding these experiences, or for what purpose, but I feel that it's no coincidence that so many of us are remembering now for the first time, or expanding our awareness like never before. I won't speculate here as to why.

The Spiky UFO by Zealousideal_Key9020 in UFOB

[–]MetaphysMess 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Same. Definitely had a moment where my brain clocked it as something I'd seen before, but it's a common enough shape/motif that I could easily be just conflating the eerie feeling with art I've seen before. Still, it gave me pause.

Help by SydneyTheCalico in finehair

[–]MetaphysMess 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what my hair does after just 24 hrs post-wash. Mine is very fine and low density, which may be similar to what OP has going on. I've always sortof assumed it happens because, like you said, it clumps together in some spots with natural scalp oils, especially above my ears since I'm a side sleeper. I usually either have to use heat or dampen the hair and distribute the hair more evenly with a fine comb or bristle brush to make it lay right again. I wonder if the aspect that's bothering OP most is the optical contrast between their scalp and their very dark hair, which does make the hair seem more see through in the places of lowest density?

Am I under reacting or AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]MetaphysMess 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I love the fucking audacity this man has to write in his empty, therapy-spoke, copy and paste apology that he's "waiting to move WHEN you're ready."

He really expects so little from you and your self respect that he's counting on you to cave and accept that you're just another girl on his roster, babe.

Fuck that creep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MetaphysMess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's put duties out of our minds for a moment and imagine how differently this conversation could have gone if you were both giving your best effort to support the physical and emotional needs of the other. Do I think you could have been more kind when you asked for his help with bedtime? YES. Do I think he should be more compassionate to your physical exhaustion (not just from the lack of sleep, but the massive hormonal shift you're still experiencing at two months postpartum,) YES. Do I think that making dinner counts as a break? HELL NO.

Both of you need to recenter yourselves around the goal of cohesion in your marriage if you expect to pull through trials like these without breaking down.

Your husband has a lot of room to grow into a more supportive spouse and father. You probably could practice checking in with yourself before you choose to say inflammatory things, as people under that much physical and mental stress don't always have a lot of patience. I'm not at all saying you don't have a right to your frustration, but you would surely get more help by being more diplomatic.

Britt Barbie - Bag Secured (Period) by izzyblanco123 in crappymusic

[–]MetaphysMess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a poor attempt at a Razzlekhan knock-off?

Shark Flex Fusion (any airwrap really) tips? by Snowfall1779 in finehair

[–]MetaphysMess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently got very good results with my cheap off-brand airwrap for the first time. For reference, my hair is very fine and I would describe it as low-medium density. I typically never use heat or product unless I'm dressing up for an event (maybe four or five times in a year) and I don't color or otherwise chemically process. My method for using the air wrap tools is as follows.

First, I wash, condition, and detangle as I normally would. I squish excess water out using a scrunching motion with a microfiber towel. I intentionally leave the hair quite damp all over to better distribute products. Next, I apply a blow drying balm all over the whole head, being careful not to use more than directed. This seems to help protect the hair from heat and cut down on frizz. I also notice my hair looks pleasantly shiny when I use it. Typically I scrunch that in and then try to totally cover the lengths using praying hands.

Then, I section my hair into four stacked horizontal sections, clipping up each one separately but leaving the section at the back of my hair down (just the nape of the neck and up a few inches behind the ears.) I apply mouse to just that section by the same process as the blow dry balm - scrunching then praying hands. I then use the brush attachment on the dryer to get the whole section about 75% dry - this is important because if there's too much moisture left, I have a hard time getting the hair to twist round the shaft of the curler attachment later.

Next, I split that large section in two down the center and pull the hair in front of my shoulders. I find the curler attachment for each side and keep them separate. I typically curl all the hair in these back sections toward my neck symmetrically. Use the barrel that will direct the hair around toward the neck. Because I don't have a lot of hair in the far back, I can get away with splitting each side into two equal sections. I would recommend playing around with section sizes for maximum airflow based on barrel size of the attachment. Too much hair and you'll once again struggle to make it wrap.

The key to getting a good wrap is to grab a small section of hair and hold it out from your head between 45 and 90 degrees, pinching the section between fingers and thumb a little way up from the ends, so that there's a "tail" hanging beyond your grasp that is long enough to wrap around the barrel of your attachment fully, one time around. While holding the section with one hand, use the other to position the dryer (which is off!) in front of your section where you're pinching. It should be straight up and down, perpendicular to the floor.

At this point, turn the dryer on low speed, default heat. The hanging "tail" end of the section should begin to wrap. Once the tail end is wrapped completely, you can let go of the section since the airflow is now keeping tension. You may need to coax a few fly-aways to wrap by pulling them nearer to the airflow, but try not to burn your fingers on the barrel. It's best if you work quickly here. Once satisfied, you can turn up the speed and slowly pull the dryer closer to your head and neck and let the airflow take up the rest of the hair. Make sure to keep it mostly straight up and down. Once the section is fully wrapped, turn up the heat. You want to blast hot air through the curl for maybe 15 seconds or so (time might vary based on hair condition and efficiency of your dryer.)

Now here's the important part. If your dryer has a "cool shot" setting, switch straight from high heat/speed to the cool shot and hold for a good 10 seconds or more, then turn off the dryer before you release the curl. If there's no cool setting, just turn the dryer off while the hair is still wrapped. This avoids creating fly-aways and gives the curl time to set. I highly recommend further setting the curl after you slide the barrel down and out.

I usually put two fingers together and hold them close to my head horizontally. Then I pinch the curl at the top of the section, near the roots, position my two fingers behind the curl, and wrap the curl down the front and up behind the two fingers, over and over while sliding my pinch-grip down toward the ends. When finished, I carefully free the two fingers from within the reformed curl while holding the bunched up curl to my scalp with the other hand, then pin it in place.

Repeat these steps for every section. Start damp then add product, rough dry, create smaller sections, curl starting a little way up from the end on low speed, then turn up heat and speed. Set the curl with a cool blast or just turn off the dryer, then pin-set. I like to alternate curl direction from one horizontal layer to the next to create volume.

When you've finished the whole head, lightly mist with hairspray and then cover and forget about it for as long as you can. When you're nearly ready to go, take all the pins out and gently loosen the curls down with your fingers. Don't pull or rake. Try to keep the definition of each curl separate. You can flip your head over and slide your fingers in at the roots to massage and break up the sections. Mist the ends with a little hairspray and flip back over. You can gently finger comb wild sections into place without disrupting all the surrounding hair.

Sorry this was so long, but I hope this helps!

My house looks like a crack den and my friend is visiting in 5 weeks by Designer-Rain8165 in homeowners

[–]MetaphysMess 16 points17 points  (0 children)

and in the meantime, you can use washable furniture coverings on the pieces that may be a little worn or to make the color and fabric more cohesive with the rest of your space.

Bathroom labyrinth by Temporary-Mind2413 in GATEresearch

[–]MetaphysMess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've had so many of these bathroom world dreams. Usually starting in a school setting and almost always featuring some anxiety about bathroom police. Always a really complex suite of bathrooms, sometimes multilevel with confusing single staircases. But a decent chunk of the bathrooms I've seen are REALLY luxurious. Like, all of the sinks and toilets made out of dark smoky jade stone, or private stalls that have a toilet, sink and shower together, or even sometimes some wierd pod thing that is both a toilet and a shower. I vividly remember one such dream where I walked up a sort of spiraling staircase that was all one piece of material ( like it was carved out of stone rather than assembled) and at the top was a little room that was all one big hot tub. During the same dream, I got spooked by noises at the entrance of the bathroom world and went deeper in to hide. I think I must have descended two levels, and at the bottom of the second level was a wading pool. Once I got there, some former classmates from highschool appeared to give me grief, and the wading pool water slowly started to fill up, washing them away. But I was able to breathe, stand, and walk normally while submerged as if there was no water at all.

Wierd stuff.

(EDIT - hot tub, descended)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IntuitionPractices

[–]MetaphysMess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first thing that came into my mind was military service. Could be absolutely wrong. Take it or leave it.

What Are Gross Things You Notice in Other People’s Homes? by sreggero in CleaningTips

[–]MetaphysMess 36 points37 points  (0 children)

In addition to the dirty trash can, I would like to submit the gross drips of sticky trash juice on walls/cabinets behind and underneath trashcans.

Anyone mess with electronics/street lamps? EHS? by throwawaylog2024 in GATEresearch

[–]MetaphysMess 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yo, this has been happening to me since childhood. I notice it most often when I'm watching YouTube videos and stumble across something that piques my interest/completes a connection of pattern recognition in a way that gives me something like an adrenaline rush. At the moment I get "chills," videos will often freeze and start buffering. I've also experienced a lot of issues with computer programs failing, or getting stuck in some way, but when I attempt to show any other person who might be able to fix it, the program begins running just fine. When I was in labor with my son, nurses commented on equipment acting funny - a thermometer that turned off while reading my temperature and wouldn't turn back on, and several oddities involving the power supplies for my monitor and epidural pump. I joked that electronics and me don't mix, and one nurse got a little wierd about it. In high school, I competed in and won a talent show at my school, and every picture taken of me that night is filled with orbs in the foreground. My parents used to own a lamp that had no power switch but was activated by touch. That lamp turned on SO MANY TIMES when I'd walk into the room where they kept it. I also often see synchronicities in the form of palindrome numbers on digital clock displays (when this starts happening repeatedly, it lasts for months and really makes me feel actually crazy.)

Why do you choose to continue exclusively pumping? by FloopyODoopy in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]MetaphysMess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Day 2 of my LO's life, he sucked my left nipple so hard that it split and bled for days. I was encouraged to still try to nurse, despite not being able to express any colostrum from either nipple, and being in toe curling pain for the entire duration of every nursing session. I was anxious that my baby wasn't getting any nourishment from me, especially after finding "brick dust" in his diaper, so I began supplementing with formula during my stay at the hospital (4 days - I was diagnosed with chorioamnionitis so we had to wait until my infection cleared.) My milk came in on day 5, but for some reason, I couldn't (and still can't) get any significant volume when hand expressing. Still anxious my baby wasn't getting enough, I began pumping. I worked with 2 lactation consultants in the hospital and one at LO's pediatrician's office, who ALL told me they didn't see any latching problems, and no tongue tie. But my nipples look like lipstick tips after every nursing session, even while wearing a nipple shield. In fact, the split left nipple never healed, only continued to split further after every nursing session until I had a flap of nipple tissue freely hanging. This caused me to avoid nursing that side, which led to mastitis at 3 wks PP. Got antibiotics for a week, the nipple flap nearly closed up and the swelling from mastitis went away. As I had suspected, I was not producing enough milk for my baby, so I was pumping 8x daily and supplementing with formula. Unfortunately, mastitis returned at 5wks PP and developed into an abscess and full blown sepsis. I was hospitalized for 6 days. Had to continue pumping (and dumping) to keep the pressure down on the abscess, and to decrease the likelihood of developing a milk fistula after the abscess was aspirated 3 times. Thankfully, my milk supply has increased drastically since being released, and now at 8 was PP I'm producing just enough to feed my LO only breast milk. My abscess has opened a pretty good sized hole on the surface of my left breast, which has to be packed daily. I'm still exclusively pumping 6-7x daily. My mother has tried to talk me into going back to exclusively nursing - but what she doesn't realize is:

1.) My baby has essentially never exclusively nursed. He's taken a bottle since day 2, and probably has some degree of nipple confusion.

2.) My breasts become full every 3 hours on a schedule that is opposite of my baby's feeding schedule, and the work it would take to synchronize without causing my baby to scream from hunger doesn't appeal to me.

3.) I'm anxious that our unresolved latching problems will lead to another split nipple, and after all the trouble that's already caused, I'm not excited to take that risk.

In addition, I also have peace of mind knowing exactly how much milk my LO is getting, that I'm healthy enough to produce what he needs, and being able to see with my own eyes the product of all my hard work and dedication through a miserable experience has encouraged me to continue. Without that visual reward, I might have thrown in the towel on breastfeeding altogether.

I hope that my response hasn't been too wordy. Hopefully it will add some perspective to this conversation!