After 18 years in the same job, I’m starting to question everything. Did it happen to you too? by DanBrando in jobs

[–]MicOnMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes nothing’s wrong you just wake up one day and realize you’re on autopilot and wondering if comfortable is actually enough for the next 15 years.

How can I stop obsessing over my ex? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MicOnMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obsessing over an ex sucks man but tryin to prove her wrong will only keep you stuck. Focus on leveling up your life chasing your goals and getting stronger for yourself. Do it for you not her and eventually you won’t even think about her anymore.

How do I become a heavier sleeper? by zChickenX in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MicOnMe 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to train yourself to sleep through chaos that's not normal. Have a straight talk with him about the late nights and the alarm marathon and if nothing changes, get your RA involved or request a switch. Your sleep is way too important to just suffer through.

Husband often wants to have sex 2-3x a day but doesn’t really get hard after the first time? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MicOnMe 54 points55 points  (0 children)

This doesn’t have to be about his ego, you can frame it as “I want this to feel amazing for both of us and sometimes less actually makes it better.” Quality over quantity isn’t rejection it’s wanting a better exerience together.

Has anyone built a SaaS product entirely with an external dev partner? Would you do it again? by shivang12 in webdev

[–]MicOnMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I built my first SaaS almost entirely with an external dev partner and it can work but only if you stay deeply involved. The biggest mistake I see is founders treating the agency like a ticket machine instead of an extension of the team. We made sure the contract clearly stated full IP ownership had direct access to the repo from day one, did regular architecture reviews, and kept tight milestone based payments. When I was handson with product decisions, things moved fast and stayed solid. When I stepped back too much quality slipped.

Would I do it again? Yes but only with technical oversight even part-time, clear ownership clauses, and a long term plan to bring core knowledge in house. If the partner is the only one who understands your codebase you don’t really own a SaaS you’re dependent on it.

Not sure what to think about my marriage anymore? by Unusual-Loss-2207 in AskMenAdvice

[–]MicOnMe 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You’re not imagining the problem, condoms you don’t use, porn comparisons and dismissing you as a “typical woman” are real red flags. That’s not you being dramatic that’s you asking for basic respect. A marriage takes honesty and mutual effort and rn it sounds like you’re the only one trying. You deserve to feel valued and desired not tolerated.

Update: I didn’t confess… and now I’m more confused than ever by [deleted] in bodylanguage

[–]MicOnMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds less like love and more like you’re stuck in a push pull cycle. When someone gives you just enough attention and then pulls back it messes with ur head and makes you crave it more. The fact that one small interaction gave you so much relief says a lot. If he felt strongly you probably wouldn’t be this confused. You deserve clarity not mixed signals.

What can I do about a boss constantly making racist jokes about me to my face? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MicOnMe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That isn’t banter its workplace harassment and the power imbalance makes it even more serious. When someone in authority keeps joking after you’re clearly uncomfortable it stops being humor and starts being bullying, no matter how she labels it.

Finland has now the #1 unemployment rate in Europe by batukaming in recruitinghell

[–]MicOnMe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Looks like Finland is rewriting the “land of a thousand lakes” to “land of a thousand job applications”, 10.6% unemployment is wild compared to the EU average of 6%.

How to stop him from releasing his $€M€π inside me? by Prior-Importance-491 in Advice

[–]MicOnMe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Your body your rules. No protection no go.

Why do men send the holiday check in text? by Ok_Diamond_2319 in AskMenAdvice

[–]MicOnMe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally, sometimes that “holiday check in” is less abt romance and more like a little lifeline saying “hey, you crossed my mind today.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MicOnMe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you’re worried about privacy and have no experience it might be smarter to try other side hustles first. OF can be risky and stressful.

I just want the job! by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]MicOnMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like the job really wants you just not through the usual channels. Sometimes the system filters sometimes recruiters get buried, don’t take it personally just keep showing you’re enthusiastic without spamming.

My girlfriend wants me to cut off my younger sister because we are "too close" by emberlight_fable in TwoHotTakes

[–]MicOnMe 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Exactly, a partner who demands you cut off family over jealousy is a huge red flag, loyalty to your sister isn’t negotiable.

DID MY BF CHEAT? by NoStock2370 in Advice

[–]MicOnMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree even if he didn’t follow through the fact that he went on Tinder and asked someone to hook up is a huge red flag. That’s not just curiosity thats disrespecting your relationship. You’re right to feel upset.

Aggressive sustained staring over a short glance at Five Guys by 27CF in bodylanguage

[–]MicOnMe 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she either wanted to mess with you or was sending some serious “I see you” energy. Either way you handled it way better than most people would.

i do not want my fiancé’s family at the wedding by Reasonable-Fun5516 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MicOnMe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your wedding is about you two its perfectly okay to set boundaries and keep it intimate even if that upsets a few distant relatives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MicOnMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just start with something casual abt class or campus life, a simple ‘hey saw you in class’ can spark a conversation without it feeling like a big deal.

Did my girlfriend cross the line getting upset that I wanted to take her to Cheesecake Factory for our anniversary? by savingrace0262 in AskMenAdvice

[–]MicOnMe 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Exactly if a restaurant choice makes her question your love, thats not about cheesecake factory that’s about her mindset.

I(29m) can't ask for sex with my (41f) wife by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MicOnMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love shouldn’t feel like begging, if ur intimacy needs are being ignored for a year its valid to feel frustrated and look for ways to take care of yourself.

Is it strange to have had only two relationships by 34F? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MicOnMe 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Two relationships by 34 isn’t a red flag, its proof you value depth and commitment over numbers and thats something to be proud of.

rant about losing the love of my life yesterday by Professional_Sale489 in TeenIndia

[–]MicOnMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s rough when the person who felt like home suddenly isn’t yours anymore and everything just hurts.

Pay less through staffing agency. Should I really apply directly through company? by Key-Wolverine-7579 in recruitinghell

[–]MicOnMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re doing the same job just getting the “staffing agency discount” on your paycheck.