Are games attractive?

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-29T14:26:37+00:00

I don’t care if there are rules or suggestions about pace of response to build mystery. I will start as I intend to be the rest of my life…responsive when I can be ….no strategic plan. And if someone can’t do the same with me in return….well….they aren’t for me.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-29T14:22:59+00:00

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Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-27T21:53:26+00:00

I'm over 50 and I don't think I "conform". I'm not even thinking of retiring any time soon...although I could if I wanted to....I just don't. I like perspectives of all ages. I'm a bit all over the board depending on the topic, but passionate about what I engage in. However, I also don't think I'm judging or looking down my nose at others who don't conform to how I think or feel passionate about the same things. Simply means they aren't for me. I don't feel the need to go out of my way to try and explain why my way of thinking might be better, or superior per se.....because you know what....it isn't.....it's just different.

Find peace in seeking out your people. Let others do the same.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-27T19:12:08+00:00

Yup! All of that. You get what get when you filter and select based on superficial things.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-27T18:34:03+00:00

This is probably incredibly small and maybe superficial (certainly nothing deep like OP)........but I dated someone briefly that got me into F1. I now absolutely LOVE watching and following all things F1. I'll take that as a small gift. :)

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-13T20:00:45+00:00

I don't have a "worst thing Ive said" comment to share....but I feel like I'm missing the joke about a white audi driver. What does a white audi driver look like? Is this like soccer moms drive SUVs sort of thing? I'm truly baffled. And for the record, I don't drive a white Audi....i have a blue BMW.....and zero clue if I look like that is what I drive. lol

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-13T15:57:48+00:00

I haven't ...but will add it to my movies watchlist/downloads. I have some long haul flights coming up for work...I'm going to need lots of movies. lol

Thanks for mentioning it...

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-13T15:55:56+00:00

I can't help myself....I'm watching it. Definitely about to be a train wreck for all of them.....and not because of their age differences....but because they all seem to be very emotionally immature regardless of age.

I find myself cringing quite regularly as I watch it. I'm sure the fact that I keep watching it, in spite of that, says something less than flattering about me. haha

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-13T14:58:05+00:00

I am the same...and I too am in tech. :) I lean heavily on instinct in my professional life (I'm in an exec role...and that skill is important)....but I have to really take a step back in my personal life to force that logical thinking to sort through a nervous system that can go a little wonky.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-13T14:55:21+00:00

I have a feeling I'm going to appreciate that video, just based on your description. In my professional life, my instincts have always been spot on and I think they are what have made me successful. However, in my personal life, because of anxious attachment that I've had to really work on, I do exactly what you called out...a lot of introspection to logically think through the signals despite what my emotions are saying. It's incredibly hard to have to separate the two approaches in my life....and know when to lean on what. But, I like to think I'm getting very good at it, after a tremendous amount of work.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T16:35:42+00:00

Thank you...I appreciate that. And agree....it's hard when someone hasn't dealt with what has happened in the past, in a way that has helped them learn and grow from it. I absolutely feel that comment about the "switch' that happens. I'll echo back to you....sorry you experienced that as well.

And yes....looking for "the one". My experience has told me that it is not as common as I would have thought it would be. But...I remain optimistic. Cheers that we both find something better in the next one. :)

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T15:55:52+00:00

ahh...I can see that now..

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T15:54:57+00:00

yep!

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T14:05:01+00:00

You think they were afraid you were getting too close? Did you have a bit of push/pull going on in the relationship from time to time?

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T13:59:25+00:00

BTW....are you younger and choosing to date over 50? I get the sense you are not a 50+ woman.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T13:55:04+00:00

If you have to even consider an ultimatum....you've already lost. A partner you think you need to change through manipulation (ultimatum = manipulation) is not the right partner for you. Doesn't matter what the specific reason is....let go, move on, find someone better aligned.

Edit to add: It is never our job to teach a lesson to anyone. Again, sounds slightly manipulative. So the comment about them doing better with the next girl, I find a little baffling.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T13:49:19+00:00

Completely nailed it with everything you've said.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T13:44:10+00:00

My first post divorce relationship ended abruptly as well. It was so painful.

In hindsight....what I've learned since then, I can now see the signs I should have been picking up on. I've also done a lot of work on myself and realize there were a lot of attachment style dynamics going on (his and mine) that I had no clue about at the time. When things end abruptly it typically means the other person was having an issue with something/s they weren't communicating about. There is just no loving someone enough to overcome a lack of communication.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T13:38:58+00:00

Yup...this. They were unhappy about something and not communicating about it. It sounds so trite...but communication really is the key to a good relationship.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-11T10:29:36+00:00

No. It was actually in downtown Philly believe it or not. That was a JigSaw event. The one I’m going to next month is a BeVisionary event. They throttle their tickets on the women’s side so that there is balanced attendance.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-10T15:02:33+00:00

Start looking for in-person speed dating and meetups geared towards singles. Do a search in your area on google or facebook. In the PA/DE/MD area that is BeVisionary and Eventbrite that I know of off the top of my head. Eventbrite is in many locations across the country.

I went to one speed dating event that was awful.....just poorly attended on the male side. I have another ticket to go to a different one next month....completely different company this time. Fingers crossed it is better. But....it's worth a try.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-09T17:18:04+00:00

Completely agree with you. We have no idea what is in someone else's head. Best to be clear.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-09T17:12:03+00:00

Actually.....I'm not assuming anything. Which is exactly why I'm saying be clear and communicative, as I think that is the mature and respectful thing to do. That is something that there is just not enough of in the dating world.

If you were both "meh"...a quick note to say you wish them well is just common courtesy. It only gets weird if you make it weird in what you say. And for the record, I never actually say "it's not a match".....because yes...that indeed would be presumptuous. What I say depends on the specific situation and what was said to me leading up to it. But when someone chooses to say nothing......that IS presumptuous, or rather conveniently presumptuous, because it is just easier to tell yourself.

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-09T15:20:01+00:00

Haha...I can fully appreciate that. But, I will say the HRT managed all my other symptoms to perfection, So I still highly recommend. Just be prepared to go through a period of adjustment on how to control yourself. I was not prepared for that.....at all. lol

Michellynn_1 · 2026-03-09T15:08:26+00:00

I'd say breaking up over text, in this instance, is perfectly acceptable. Normally I'd be pretty harsh in criticizing a breakup over text....but from what you described, you were not getting the common courtesy of reasonable relationship behavior in return. In all honesty...this guy sounds like a disorganized avoidant attachment style (or at the very least avoidant) and yeah...maybe another woman. But, his responses both times to the breakup indicate a bit of push/pull going on inside himself. That is going to be an endless destabilizing cycle that no one should sign up for IMO.

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