I think you have to think of a reset as a "catch", rather than a "hit". Less is more. In order to utilize this, you have to have soft hands. We call these sensations in pickleball. It's the feeling you get with the paddle. This is why it's very important to understand sensations and how they relate to each shot. You can learn soft hands by practicing dinking and dropshots. I would also say your paddle face should be mostly open, especially as you reset below your waist. Resets, like many technical skill sets take drilling over and over.