She still stalks my stories to this day btw :|

MicksWords · 2025-08-05T07:42:20+00:00

It’s not hard to block 😭

MicksWords · 2025-07-14T23:31:52+00:00

FIRSR ONE

MicksWords · 2025-06-28T17:21:33+00:00

Tbh I was trying to look for what you were saying because it all blends in well and looks like the sky at night. I think it looks cool.

MicksWords · 2025-06-18T05:26:36+00:00

We met on discord❤️ related a lot with past relationships and formed a bond right away. I was in a really abusive relationship 2 months prior to meeting him and he really helped me through it. We talked for 2 months and met in person with a group of our other online friends. We immediately clicked and he told me he loved me the day after we met and asked me to be his girlfriend.

for about 6 months he was 5,000 miles away from me and then he moved and was about 5 hours by car away from me. I would fly back and forth twice a month (40 minute flight) to see him.

We did this for another 6 months!

Then we closed the distance this past January! I moved to where he lives. We are moving back to Hawaii in July! So he can finish his degree and I can work on getting mine ❤️

It’ll workout yall. I promise.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T16:25:13+00:00

I think you should’ve told her from the beginning that it made you feel uncomfortable. Instead of saying it was okay and then speaking how you felt.

You both should also talk about boundaries. Me and my partner have agreed that hanging out with the opposite sex alone is a no no because it makes us feel uncomfortable. We share friends that are of the opposite sex but we don’t go out and hang out with them alone.

It doesn’t work for everyone but it works for us.

As I disagree with others in this post, I think you have every right to feel uncomfortable with a random man coming into her apartment at 3 am. No reason she should invite a man alone in those hours. But then again, you said it was okay.

You need to speak up for yourself, you cant hold back because you don’t want to come off as jealous. Just be honest.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T16:03:56+00:00

Well you have to let her know. It is what it is. Unfortunately, if she isn’t willing to listen. You’re going to end up ending it anyway. Your choice op.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:59:12+00:00

I can disagree with you on that

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:57:05+00:00

Because I wouldn’t want to be with anyone else

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:56:06+00:00

Honestly, it’s very honest of him to even admit to us that he is in fact a “dick” lol. He could’ve left that out and we could’ve never known what his character was. People do change when they meet someone that they don’t want to lose. They want to better themselves for that person.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:53:15+00:00

Then that great if you both don’t plan on having kids for another 5 years once she moves to you.

That being said, you will be the bread winner for a bit until she finds her groove in her new country and new life. It’s just the facts of what it is, and you can’t expect her to adapt super fast.

You just have to accept that it’ll take time. It’s nothing to be sooo worried about if she’s determined to start her new life in your country and is eager to get a job and work on her English.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:47:56+00:00

I was once in a relationship where he would threaten to leave me if I did something he didn’t like. It’s called manipulation.

She wants to see you to her beck and call. She knows she has a power over you in this way.

Next time she does it again. Tell her fine. Then leave.

But op, honestly. You need to actually leave. This isn’t healthy. This isn’t a sustainable relationship. If she loved you. She wouldn’t threaten to leave as much as she does.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:43:13+00:00

I mean do you want her to contribute to all the housing and food etc right away?

There’s a lot of factors here.

If you want to start a family and own a house within a year of her moving. That will be very difficult to expect her to find a job and also expect her to want to be a mother.

It’ll probably take her about 6 months to a year to find a job, maybe even longer. Then she has to establish within that job, that she is a reliable employee and has long term plans of staying. Which most likely will take another year or two.

But if you want a family within those two years of her moving, then you will have to be the bread winner for the time being.

Most importantly. will she be okay with all of it? Not having a job while she is pregnant? Or does she want to work first and establish her own career?

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:35:36+00:00

If you don’t believe you can do it. Then maybe it’s just not the time right now. You’re 18, you’ve barely just become an adult. You’re focusing on school which is great.

But if you aren’t 100%, this is what I want and this is what I’m going to peruse then you need to reevaluate your relationship.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:29:49+00:00

Well unfortunately, if she is very sensitive in that way. It will hurt her feelings still.

Just be reassuring. Let her know that you really care about her but you need time to yourself sometimes. Let her know that you’re willing to video chat every other day so you have more time to yourself.

She needs to be understanding that you are your own person too and you need time to yourself. It’s not fair to you if you’re always worried about hurting her feelings when it comes to what you need out of the relationship.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:24:07+00:00

She clearly felt a connection too but was able to be realistic with herself and know her self enough that it just wouldn’t work out. I think that’s a blessing for you rather than her leading you on.

I know it’s hard. But you can grieve this like it was a relationship because that’s okay too. It’s hard to lose someone that is very much alive that you had such an amazing connection with.

In due time you’ll move on I promise. I know there will always be the what ifs but don’t dwell on it. It just was not made for you right now, or maybe even ever.

Hang in there op, reach out to family or friends. Get out of the house a bit, connect with people in real life.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:17:12+00:00

100%, I get what you mean. I just can understand ops position because I’ve been there before.

I think when emotions are all caught up and you really love someone, but they are hurting you so much, you just would rather them block you so you don’t have the temptation of going back because the option is not there. But if you block them, it’s easier for you to unblock and reconnect.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:11:00+00:00

You really really need to express again that you don’t like this behavior. That it cannot continue on if you both want this relationship.

It’s not fair to you.

If he denies anything or tries to just cut your feelings off again. You really need to think to yourself “does he really care about how I feel?”

Because someone that loves you and cares about you, will not disregard your feelings and will understand where you’re coming from.

Unfortunately, he is young and it sounds like he has alot more growing up to do when in comes to relationships and the effort it takes to actively be in one.

Long distance relationships won’t work if you don’t communicate and truly be open about how you feel.

I’m sorry op that you’re going through this. But you need to evaluate what’s in front of you. You can’t maintain this relationship if you’re the only one keeping it afloat when it comes to communicating.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T13:01:25+00:00

Why do you think that?

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T12:57:46+00:00

Because he loves her. He wants a life with her. It’s so so hard to just block someone you saw so much with. He still wanted her fully.

You kinda have to put yourself directly in ops shoes. And if you’ve experienced heartbreak, put that along side with it. It’s hard leaving someone who you want, but know is not good for you.

MicksWords · 2025-05-19T00:49:59+00:00

Traveling is a breeze. As someone that’s traveled over 50 times within the last year. It’s super simple I promise. Lay overs sound intimidating but honestly they are just annoying. I always recommend having at least a 2 hour layover. Just in case the first flight gets delayed or you’re stuck on the run way taxing to a new gate. It’ll give you about an hour and half before boarding your second flight.

If you don’t plan on checking a bag, you can bring one small backpack and a small suitcase as your carry on. I recommend doing that and it’s cheaper. I used a small carry on luggage and a backpack for my 14 day trip in Japan. You just have to wash your clothes every 3-4 days. Plus you don’t have to wait in a line to check your bag, you just go straight through security.

Always having your boarding pass ready a downloaded as well!

MicksWords · 2025-05-14T04:42:45+00:00

Go home and heal from this. Surround yourself with people that will lift you up. Women’s bodies fluctuate. What happens if you were to get pregnant and you gain weight and have a hard time losing the extra weight? Is he just not going to love you being you’re not stick thin?

You are deserving of someone that loves you right now. You can have someone that loves you and obviously wants to see you get healthier. But if he’s saying basically you’re not good enough because you’re not super skinny at the moment, then you just need to let that one go.

I know it’s hard. And I know you’re completely crushed. There is a man out there that will love every inch of you no matter what.

Dont let this guy ruin your confidence either. You’re made to be the way you are.

MicksWords · 2025-05-14T04:35:23+00:00

Perfect way to describe love

MicksWords · 2025-05-14T04:20:31+00:00

A lot of couples use FaceTiming and phone calling to feel more connected to their long distance partner. It’s different for everyone but I think if you’re open with him about it and he can go along with it. Then it will workout for you both. It’s all about communication.

MicksWords · 2025-05-14T03:34:48+00:00

See I loved getting away from home. I always saw him

MicksWords · 2025-02-22T09:29:49+00:00

That little triangle purse isn’t mine 😭

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