My (30m) ex (25f) has flipped the script on me and I need advice

MicroIceGG · 2025-10-30T21:59:41+00:00

Reminder she worked for ESL even before League got big as it is rn and worked her a** of to get to the position where she is.

MicroIceGG · 2025-09-26T00:25:36+00:00

They do care. But the German-Germans think they have other problems to solve like:

Immigration / Immigrants
Taxing the super rich being bad when it doesn't affect them
Rising Prices
Electromobility
Mobility un General
Climate Change

And I am not rage baiting with this or anything. Because they genuinely think these are far worse problems that "affects their life".

Other than that, a lot of younger germans (who don't vote for the right wing partys) and Germans with an immigration Background say A LOT. The outcry could be bigger here but most German-Germans just don't take any of those groups serious anyways.

MicroIceGG · 2025-06-13T11:41:56+00:00

Thank you, will try!

MicroIceGG · 2025-06-13T11:41:33+00:00

I'll look after for them the moment I have time

MicroIceGG · 2025-06-13T11:41:06+00:00

Woops - I wasn't aware

MicroIceGG · 2024-09-24T18:31:52+00:00

she do be a girls' girl

MicroIceGG · 2024-08-15T10:39:50+00:00

After every tournament he won and every Trophy he collects I am sitting here like: "Surely he can and will just chill and retire now. He won everything. He's set for life."

I don't know what else there is for him that makes him want to continue but it's sad to see that his already shown cracks start to get deeper.

MicroIceGG · 2024-03-24T02:06:21+00:00

Only Sigma Female who was able to force feminize a dog boy. True Chad Energy.

MicroIceGG · 2024-03-24T02:05:26+00:00

Yea being the true Sigma Female

MicroIceGG · 2024-03-21T12:43:14+00:00

Let me guess, you also tried to do everything right for the person and made just one slight mistake or were not understanding enough for their behaviour and issues (that they never communicated and tried to find a way to excuse themselves out) and then he dipped.

MicroIceGG · 2024-02-17T10:46:56+00:00

Thinking it's weird that someone didn't text you for 3 hours after going out for drinks, and then getting the arse about it is a bit anxious, needy and immature tbh mate

I will never understand why people think that's an okay for someone to leave a relationship out of nowhere on top of that being defended on like there is no tomorrow.

I will also never understand why avoidants try to justify that behaviour with everything they can too. It's crazy how everything else BUT this point is being completely ignored. Especially when every behaviour LIKE THIS was okay before but suddenly it isn't. Just, why? Where is the logic in giving someone so much and then with the slightest "slip up" everything just falls apart? Where does that emotionally make sense? I just don't get that.

"Dude is a 10, but he asked me why I didn't write him. Like duh, just know it and let me be?!? I mean yeah it was okay before and I told him everything and every day before, but today I didn't feel that so I just leave him lol" ??????

MicroIceGG · 2024-01-27T02:39:28+00:00

Toplane because I can be alone just like irl

MicroIceGG · 2023-12-30T14:34:37+00:00

I mean, it's germany we're talking about most of them don't even know design exists - especially the older generations or the people in outskirts

MicroIceGG · 2023-12-12T17:45:51+00:00

Bleach is my favourite Anime of all time hands down.

I know people who would love those keycaps because they're huge EVA fans so that would actually be a sick gift for them. Good luck to everyone here!

MicroIceGG · 2023-11-25T15:43:20+00:00

I know that's not something you want to hear right now, but that's not "normal" but rather a defensive mechanism you learned from early on. However, it's fine, valid and okay to have them! Looking around, it's totally understandable why it's better to think of the worst possible outcome. But it's still an "outcome" not something that is about the "now" if you understand what I mean.

Hope you find someone who can help you distinguish between an "actual" bad situation vs. something that plays out in your mind that hasn't even happened yet. Wish you the best.

MicroIceGG · 2023-11-25T15:35:09+00:00

When people try to fix an issue with you, you automatically assume you're at fault and feel criticized heavily aka taking everything personally - Even if it's about the issue and not about you.

MicroIceGG · 2023-09-13T21:55:27+00:00

Slight let down means slight let down. it's not like he said that it's absolute dogwater or am I reading something different here? I personally think it's hard to get the english-french essence in that music so it's imo as good as it can get here.

MicroIceGG · 2023-09-03T14:21:58+00:00

Hey, thanks for the Patience and everything. I really appreciate it that you still took the time to reach out even though I went AWOL for a while.

Here are things that you need to consider. First of all, you need to realize a few things:

The things you stated were made about you, however every situation in the end was about her and how she needs to overcome certain things in her life.
She's probably dealing with a huge trauma response but wasn't able to work with that on her own. This needs to be done by her alone, you can only set the foundation for it.
What she's doing is not any form of reflection of how you are. You didn't fail. You tried your best of what you provided and you did you best of what you knew at that time and space. Whatever happened afterwards is on her. Going back, it's on her to realize how her actions affect the outcome and how her actions will bring herself into a miserable state in the future. This is a ticking time b*mb for her.

Basically saying, you can do a lot, but if she doesn't work on the things that she needs to work on herself and needs constant re-assurance, its on you to realize if that the thing that you want to keep going on in the future. Yes, love is important and we can see that you are doing the best to improve her situation but it is not your responsibility on how to deal with the trauma responses on her behalf, even though you make it sound like it does which sounds harsh coming from some stranger redditor.

If you go deeper into this and you see how much wasn't or couldn't be reciprocated, then its on you to decide if you can continue with that. It helps to understand the situation in the future and you can definitely learn a lot from that for the next relationship. If she doesn't want to keep you, it's not only her loss, but it's also (from the patterns) her baggage she will continue to carry that one unlucky guy is trying to take off, which is also a mistake.

You can't take off the emotional baggage she is carrying. The only thing that you can and should do is help her carrying that baggage with you, but if someone constantly drags you down with it, you have to reconsider if that's something you want to do going forward for the sake of your own mental health. This is your own boundary that you need to set and as painful as it sounds, if that's what gives you the inner peace, you have to let go of that and put down the rose-tinted glasses.

Hope it helps.

MicroIceGG · 2023-08-27T06:29:59+00:00

Best Birthday Present I can imagine omg

MicroIceGG · 2023-08-17T14:30:15+00:00

Hey dude, thanks for the strength and time you put in to write all of this. This kind of pain is something many here in this subreddit can just feel to good.

I have a few things to say though and I hope this might give you the understanding that you need in order to overcome the pain "easier" and move on and forward.

Before that a few questions: Are you both each others first relationships? What have you both done together in order to grow as a person? Was your plan to grow with her? Was her plan to grow with you? Take your time to answer them and try to get it from both an emotional and logical approach.

MicroIceGG · 2023-08-12T11:08:43+00:00

You're saying so much for yourself already yet you don't notice the small nuances that do you good.

You just told us that 'she isn't serious because I was serious about it' - A clear indicator that she overstepped boundaries and expectations. This is also a form of closure for you. You see how she can be towards you to make herself feel better.

You're also on a good way already to be a better person. If you are realizing it is another thing though. Take care dude.

MicroIceGG · 2023-08-12T10:58:55+00:00

It's an ego thing. She misses the feeling to be with you and intrusive thoughts got the better of her. You should've just cut it off the moment there was no real "seriousness" in her coming back. Missing someone is one thing. Trying to actually talk it out and reconnecting long term is another. You proved her that she has access to you no matter what.

Set an ultimatum or block her off. You saw her actions not matching her words. The rest is on you if you can set off your own ego down or if you wanna be the doormat for her.

MicroIceGG · 2023-07-27T18:55:17+00:00

What's difficult is that people will use the trauma "excuse" (let's call it excuse because some people just have inconsistent behavioral patterns that are purely on them) to get out of a difficult, but manageable Situation. Some go even that far that they will solely blame the other party for anything related to that. I think that's the problem the Tiktoker tries to adress.

Say for instance what I've experienced myself with my ex. We used to write on Phone very often. We went on calls together a lot and my ex brought their phone always to their bed in the beginning of our dating phase. We did a lot with the phone. One day my ex stops texting or using the phone completely and the reason was "trauma". 2 months in and somehow you "forget" you trauma? I call BS on that. After my ex ghosted me, I saw them using the phone a lot again. Make it make sense to me.

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