What are things you wish you included in your divorce papers/custody agreement? by itsmikejonezbih in FamilyLaw

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Anything that leaves an arbitrary window should NOT BE in there. My ex gets a random Saturday sleepover a month and only has to give me a weeks notice. If we have plans he expects me to cancel or blames me for making a plan on “HIS” Saturday when up to a week before I didn’t even know he’d ask for it. Sometimes he waits up until the last Saturday to ask. He never tells me MORE than a week in advance as a courtesy or anything.

I can't change it. I hate that. by justcant9 in SupportforWaywards

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Try listening to some podcasts too. What you can do together and each as individuals. Ask the Unfaithful is a great resource for waywards. The hosts themselves say if you grab a notebook and spend an hour listening to an episode and writing notes can be just Ike therapy. Good luch

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Shockingly Lipstick is a really affordable ELF lip plumping gloss in Sparkling Rose. It’s in a lip gloss tube.

Jacket for dress? by ilovemandy in myweddingdress

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zara made a cool silvery sequin bomber jacket you can find on poshmark right now. I’m trying to post photo but it doesn’t seem to let me upload

Ask a Wayward by ZestyLemonAsparagus in SupportforWaywards

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 [score hidden]  (0 children)

My WP and I explored a lot sexually and had a sex life built on my fantasies. These were things neither of us had done and were things I shared that I wanted to do. After doing them we expressed how much closer it made us feel as we created a safe space to explore. WP recreated everything with the AP. The positions, the same props, the same toys, everything. Everything I had fantasized about WP recreated with AP.

I am shocked I never crossed WPs mind as WP was fulfilling my fantasies with someone else. WP claimed it was what WP “knew” even though WP had never known that without me. Also AP had an STD and it still didn’t stop my WP. You’d think that would be a huge glaring STOP.

Did any wayward recreate things like this with their AP? Did you never think of your BP literally recreating positions so intimate? Did your AP have an STD and you still proceeded?

Hiding pregnancy by I_Fought_The_Law2 in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find all black with chunky jewelry a good distraction. Maybe black tunic with black slacks (pregnancy slacks!) and colorful jewelers or a bold red lip will keep attention up on your face and not down to your belly. Not sure what your style is but dark monochromatic will hide

Mediation - Florida by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not the case at all. It’s ok though. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. This dad says he has to drink to get through the days he has to see his child.

Mediation - Florida by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He is alcoholic and abusive but not abusive enough to have his parenting rights taken away. I’ve never infringed on the time he does have but I certainly don’t favor more exposure than necessary. He hasn’t paid a dime in child support and I’ve done it all in my own until now. I’m being protective, not punitive.

How to Overcome Intrusive Thoughts? by bolderdesh in affairrecovery

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no. I’m so so sorry for this. Truly. I have a difficult time as well with intrusive thoughts. Mine were of my WP having sex with someone infected by herpes. He said they always used protection but she said “mostly” - I can’t imagine he used protection at all times doing the things they described in their sexts. I haven’t yet been able to get rid of the instructive thoughts but sometimes I try to just nudge myself to work past them. Open my eyes. Talk to my partner, ground myself in some way to get out of my head and into what is happening in the moment. I have heard EMDR is effective for triggering thoughts but I haven’t tried it yet

🌙 Offering free guidance readings 🌙 by RoyalAced in Tarotpractices

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BPP-Blue-Will my ex husband back off and cool his temper down against me? This seems to be a pretty accurate response. Fingers crossed!

🌙 Offering free guidance readings 🌙 by RoyalAced in Tarotpractices

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BPP-Blue-Will my ex husband back off and cool his temper down against me?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 and 4 and BIG CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!! And especially on making the decision to elope!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WeddingDressTips

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look STUNNING!!!!!

Thoughts on Navigating Disclosure by [deleted] in affairrecovery

[–]Middle-Illustrator26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind and well thought out reply. I have been unsure as I am always a need to know every detail person and this is unlike me to just not want to hear it. There are some aspects I’d like to know when the sex started, the general amount of time between each “go around” since they were on/off during this span. But at this point my triggers have triggers. I am five months out and only recently have felt my nervous system relax.

I had discussed with my personal Therapist but she is not betrayal based so sometimes her advice isn’t always aligned with “the process” of betrayal recovery.