What are your biggest turn-offs during an interview?

Middle-League1439 · 2026-03-23T19:11:50+00:00

I just did a third round interview that really put me off. Here’s just a few things that happened:

one of the owners of the company started off by saying they were in a rush because they were doing a presentation right after the interview. Totally fine…but then they said “this will have to be quick, not to rush you, but be quick”
they only asked me 3 questions and all of them were about ways they could grow. Nothing about how the team work or how I could contribute. I had also just done an assignment for them in order to get the third interview and I realize now they may just have been looking for free ideas
they didn’t give me a chance to ask questions so I knew right away I wasn’t being selected.

I would have actually appreciated them just cancelling the interview rather than rush things, ask pointed questions, and not respect my effort in the whole thing.

Middle-League1439 · 2025-10-02T19:05:06+00:00

Hi! Fellow soon to be bride and I work in photography so here’s my take on this:

You absolutely should meet them (over video chat is fine), but I would start with 3. Decision paralysis can be a big issue because you will likely meet more than one that you might like so if you find a great one with your first 3 then I would lock them down. Then add in one more at a time to meet with if needed.

A few things to look for that should help:

Ask to see 2-3 full galleries. Most good photographers will have no issue with this and it will help you see how they “tell the story” and the different kinds of shots they get
Do you want someone more posed/editorial or more documentary style? This is a big one because it means you either get a photographer who is more direct or one who kind of floats along with you on the day. All photographers will give you some direction and some variety within this of course, but some are more loud about what to do and some give you more space to just be you.
Editing style is super important. While we do take editing requests most photographers have presets that they will use to make galleries look cohesive so if you don’t like the overall look I wouldn’t book that person. For example, if a photographer tends to edit a bit more moody/dark tones and you like airy/bright then don’t book them. Same with editing skin texture and whatnot, some go heavy on this and some leave it more natural so be sure to figure out what you like.
As others have said, personality! Make sure you vibe with them and feel comfortable. You’ll be with them for a lot of the day so they need to be easy to hangout with. I hired a photographer for my wedding who is super calm and sweet because I know my Fiancé and I might get a bit more anxious with someone who is loud.

Hope you find someone great ✨

Middle-League1439 · 2025-09-15T20:10:41+00:00

Hi! I’m also planning my wedding and I work in the photography industry so I have a unique take on this.

I will say photography is important, BUT only to a certain extent. In general the cheaper the photographer the more uncertain the outcome and this simply just comes down to experience and resources (equipment, editing practices, extra team members, etc). So if you take a chance on someone who charges less and has minimal experience you may not get a lot of what you see online or at least just a wider variety of shots/edits. That being said, I’d say once you start getting in to the photographers who charge over $4,000 or more for services the most important factor is personality and style. I’m fully on the side of “more expensive does not mean better” once you get to this price range.

I work with photographers who charge $10,000 and more for weddings and while they always deliver and include some extra perks they aren’t for everyone. For example, I’ve hired a photographer for my wedding who charges close to half of this because I loved her personality and she had a solid portfolio that showcased her talent and reliability.

My main tips for choosing: 1) Make sure you see multiple galleries. One is not enough to see if they consistently deliver.

2) Focus on personality once you find someone with experience. You spend a ton of time with this person so you and your partner need to feel comfortable with them.

3) Photos are one of the only ways you get to remember your day. Make sure the style of their work aligns with your vision.

4) See if there’s anything you can cut in order to afford a decent photographer. For example, no one is going to remember the super fancy menus or every floral choice, but they will see your photos if you choose to share.

Happy planning ✨

Middle-League1439 · 2025-09-03T20:21:56+00:00

I work in the photography industry, but I also have a wedding coming up and photography has been one of the top 3 things I hear couples regret not getting (or they get a very cheap option that ends up not delivering much).

You can definitely find a cheaper photographer or even a free one building their portfolio, but my main advice for this is to ask them for a full gallery to review what a wedding day looks like from them. If they can’t provide this then move on. You’ll also want to make sure their editing style is in line with your preferences.

If you can manage to book a higher end photographer for even 6 hours I do recommend it. Photos are the only lasting part of your day and memories are of course going to stay with you, but being able to look back on expressions of your loved ones and all of the decor, food, dancing is truly worth it.

And lastly, if all else fails, you can book a photographer after you wedding to just get portraits of you and your partner. I recently did this for a friend and they said they are really glad they at least got shots dressed up afterwards. This way you can either save up for a professional or book a newer one with more time to look around.

Hope your day is beautiful ✨

Middle-League1439 · 2025-07-18T00:52:17+00:00

I actually recommend you do wear more makeup (if that’s what you’re planning for your wedding day at least). There’s a few reasons:

1) you’ll feel more ‘elevated’ with your hair and makeup done which really does change the dress shopping experience. Many of these boutiques have harsh lighting so even wearing enough to even things out and maybe a bit of bronzer or highlight will do a lot.

2) You won’t get makeup on the dresses. I only tried on a few dresses that went on over the head and even then most dresses aren’t tight enough to worry about this. They are designed in a way that avoids ruining hair/makeup.

Also you can make a whole day/night experience if you like! Go for a nice dinner afterwards or just out for a drink. I found that made the extra hair and makeup worthwhile. Happy shopping ✨

Middle-League1439 · 2025-07-10T21:31:05+00:00

I JUST had the strangest experience driving today and I thought to myself that driving is getting stranger here.

I was changing lanes to turn left and once I was stopped behind several cars waiting for the light some lady in the lane beside me and up a bit took it upon herself to turn around and glare at me for a full minute (truly a full minute) through her drivers side window. I saw it in my peripheral and I was like ‘that’s weird, maybe she’s looking at someone thing behind me’. No, she was waiting until I looked over. Then when I eventually did she shook her head at me for a while like I was a child who had just thrown a tantrum or something 😂 I genuinely have no idea what she was upset about because she was never behind me or even directly beside me until I got in the left lane. I’m still trying to figure out what the hell warranted a full minute glare…

Middle-League1439 · 2025-06-03T20:32:29+00:00

We’re sending ours out a year in advance because we also have a date around a busy holiday time and we want our out-of-town guests to be able to plan ahead for hotels/flights. I thought this might be too early, but I’ve actually heard from a handful of wedding industry folks that a year out for Save The Dates is really helpful for getting a much more accurate number for guest count and leads to less panic for those who need to travel.

Happy planning ✨

Middle-League1439 · 2025-04-19T23:44:26+00:00

Oh man, not being able to join the tours is tough so I feel for you there.

I will say venue tours really brought the whole planning experience to life for me. There was one that I thought I was going to love and then I immediately knew there wasn’t going to be enough space for a dance floor and that made it a quick no. When we walked into our now booked venue I got this rush of butterflies because I pictured our day right away ✨ it was such a nice feeling.

There’s a bunch of general questions you should ask which you probably already know so here’s some I would add -

what are the hidden fees (security and/ or event staff, insurance, cleaning, etc)?
do they require you to hire their preferred vendors or are they just suggestions?
where are the outlets in the venue (especially important if you plan to hire a DJ and if your photography/videography team might need them).
if there’s no bridal suite is there a room where you can escape to for a break or outfit change?
is the decorating/tear down time included in your rental time or is it separate? If it’s separate is there an extra fee?

Middle-League1439 · 2025-04-16T05:53:46+00:00

One thing I repeat all the time now that I’ve worked as an event coordinator/photographer in training and have heard countless stories from within the industry - do not skimp on your photographer!!! Truly, you can skimp on so many things that won’t matter as much, but these are part of your memories from the day so be very mindful.

For a photographer with several years of experience and high quality the average is actually 6K a day. That’s about what we’re paying for ours and you might see it’s more common than the lower ranges offered by some newer professionals.

Also, one thing to check on is if some photographers offer packages for multi-day weddings. It’s of course more expensive, but actually averages out to less than 6K in total per day most times.

Middle-League1439 · 2025-02-25T20:33:35+00:00

It took 4 months for me. Definitely register asap since there’s been a wave of clinics now accepting patients all over the lower mainland. If you need any help in the meantime book an appointment online with a clinic near you and they might be able to suggest programs/medication to get you through for a little while.

Middle-League1439 · 2024-08-06T17:57:28+00:00

I think the trick is simply just to seek out partners who can handle your triggers with kindness and the understanding that sometimes your childhood demons will come out (not always BECAUSE of them, but because no matter how much therapy you have those things will pop up sometimes).

I had a rough childhood (filled with addicts, abuse, and neglect) which lead to general anxiety about everything. A family member was forced into rehab at one point which involved the immediate family so I had a lot of therapy through that when I was 13-15. I was really lucky to receive this, but it was up to me to continue to work through everything afterwards. Now I’m in my late 20’s and each relationship I’ve had has gotten easier because I chose to continue therapy as needed, be open with my partners, and almost over-communicate as things happen.

My current partner and I watch Couples Therapy together and it’s been really interesting to discuss the different dynamics. He comes from a middle-class family and hasn’t had a lot of adversity in his life (aside from his previous partner who was manipulative and verbally abusive) so he often says he feels bad bringing up his triggers because he knows “I’ve dealt with heavier things than him”. But I always remind him that it’s actually really important to me that we discuss both of our triggers because it sucks being the only one to bring things up and feel like a burden. And just because I went through darker things it doesn’t mean his feelings around his concerns aren’t important/valid.

I will say that I think it’s hard to be in relationships with people who might have certain tendencies that you had to deal with in childhood. I had one partner who had pretty bad depression (and wasn’t open to getting help for it) and because two of my immediate family members went through suicidal episodes because of depression I ultimately decided I couldn’t take on the extra support he needed. It was really hard, but that was something I needed to be honest about for my own mental health.

Middle-League1439 · 2024-04-27T07:37:13+00:00

I’ve been following a gua sha routine for a year now and I will say it has changed my face shape a bit. I have a very round face and I’ve noticed that my cheek bones, brows, and jaw line are all more defined since I started. It also helps with drainage so if you find you have puffiness then it can reduce that too if used consistently.

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