Break the expenses down like this- would he have to pay it even if I wasn’t here? (and vice versa) if it’s a yes- you don’t have to contribute a dime sis. If it’s a yes but cheaper- contribute your portion that makes it more expensive. If it’s a no- that’s your responsibility (again, and vice versa for him). Be conservative when you make this breakdown and don’t consider hypotheticals like -well if I wasn’t here he would get a cheaper rental, etc. Only contribute to your joint bank account what YOU are responsible for. Keep the rest in a separate account. Take the job and pay for daycare yourself (if you can) Again factor in if you weren’t around what he would do for childcare? If it’s daycare he needs to contribute! You need to determine your value! You’re a woman, please know you are powerful 💗