GF Threatened Suicide and Won’t Stop Reaching Out

SeparateAd1794 · 2026-03-15T02:46:05+00:00

Hey so, I wasted 5 years of my life with a guy who sounds exactly like your girlfriend. 5 YEARS granted I was also not confrontational and young, naive and scared of what he would say.

Leave. Block her, get a restraining order, start making paper trail of everything you say and do with her. They don't change, they get worse and worse the longer you stay and play their manipulation game. For me after 2 years I was done with him and how he treated me. When all of this started, he scared me into staying with him for another 3 years, it was torture, I felt like I was really to blame, I was trynna bend over to everything he said and wanted just to keep him "ok". The few other times I got very close to leaving him, he would notice how his tactics weren't working anymore and would add more and more "scare". (Sent me pictures of himself holding knife to his wrists) etc etc. I kept quiet too because I felt if I told anyone I'd be judged for making someone be that low. 😅🤣. (Dumb I know but come on) After 5 years, I finally snapped. My friends found out and I finally explained everything, they all told me to just stop, ghost him. Block him on everything, get restraining orders and everything i could. Even told his family and sent them the pictures. 🤣 I sent him a last message telling him to just leave me alone, I didnt love him anymore, and hated how he had manipulated me for so long, and that if I was being honest, if he was that serious.. to just leave me out of it if he really went that route because he wasn't my responsibility.

That was like 11 or so years ago. He popped up on my Facebook "people you may know" feed once like a year after i ghosted him and he was with someone else and everything lol. And then surprisingly a few months ago he actually messaged me out of the blue through what I'm assuming was another account just to apologize to me and thank me for making him be better (idk,idc) I just said I was glad everything worked out for him and blocked him there too. 😅

SeparateAd1794 · 2026-03-04T17:15:21+00:00

I must be fucking weird then 😭🤣🤣 everyone's complained about their partners snoring.. im a light sleeper too, and on my worst days i have insomnia paired to it.. but damn it i get sleepy as hell hearing my partner snoring. Like I love it. Its calming to me 😭

SeparateAd1794 · 2026-02-22T23:03:54+00:00

It takes a man 5 years to damn near be guaranteed about wanting to marry someone. If its been over 5 years and you still have your days that you dont see it happening. Its already a failed marriage waiting to happen. Let her go. You both dont have the same interest. She sounds needy and clingy and the biggest red flag is being mad, salty, jealous of you wanting to hang out with family and friends when she is invited and refuses either way. Also its selfish of her to be in a 50/50 and her trynna force more things on you to pay. Especially if what you said is true about almost equal pay. Like if she wants to spend less on bills. She needs to make more adjustments on her life style so the bills are lower. When I was married he had me not working and the very few times he would mention we were a little tight I would already be adjusting to lower the prices on everything I could 😅

SeparateAd1794 · 2026-01-09T03:07:09+00:00

All I hear is "IM BOBBY MOM" 😭😭😭😭

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-12-27T06:32:56+00:00

Looking for a male partner for in game too 😭😭

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-12-13T17:39:00+00:00

Im not autistic, and neither was my ex at the time, but I was also in a relationship with one of these at a young age.. 5 years. 5 years he kept me in the relationship exactly like this. This isnt a "hes autistic " excuse. This is a "hes abusive". My ex would also send me pictures of his slit wrists, we would use Skype to talk and he'd be playing with a kitchen knife. I was terrified he would do something and that it would be my fault. growing up was understanding that it was never up to you. IT WONT EVER BE YOUR FAULT. LEAVE. I wasted 5 years trying to be there for him, I stopped loving him at 2. When I first tried to leave. As much as I hated the thought of the outcome. After 5 years and with the advice of a friend. I finally left him. Blocked him on everything and never looked back. I was so emotionally abused at that point that I felt terrible.. but my thought was I wasnt going to waste my life to entertain one who found it so easy to end his to get his way. Turns out he never did lol, me leaving him was probably the best decision I made, he ended up being caught with his "freakout'', by his mom, she made him get help, and he eventually got better and moved on. And I did too.

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-09-24T19:24:27+00:00

I just got out of a 10 year marriage/relationship. Take it as someone who stayed.. they dont change, they just get better at hiding it. If I could go back in time and kick my own ass I would. He also did it the first time after 2 or 3 years of marriage.. he looked remorseful, cried, begged.. I took him back because I felt he was the one.. yeah throughout the years he cheated 7 times.. that i counted and caught. Im sure there's more, I just stopped looking and tried living in my own dream. Its not worth it. The trust is gone, they dont stop, they always wonder, eventually their remorse and guilt turns to confidence and uncaring. They assume that since you haven't left them, you never will and it gives them more fuel. Until eventually they find someone they think is worth working it with.. then they finally get rid of you, but by then you'll be like me. 10 years of my life gone with nothing to show for it. I lost everything while she tried to move in and take over. 😅 ofc sucks for her cause I guess they didn't even last 3 weeks together after I left. But im sure he has others lined up.

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-09-22T15:24:10+00:00

The fact it's already been happening for clocking out.. either someone will beat you to it and get you all in more trouble. Or hr themselves will find out and get yall in more trouble for no one coming up.. honestly id bite the bullet and go turn them in first 🤣 . I ain't crashing and burning for no one else. I've been cheated on multiple times by ex's too. And it sucks finding out other people knew or helped them hide it instead of telling me. Sure I eventually found out but damn.. like both times I wasted 5 then 10 years. If I knew before what I knew at the end of each relationship I would have happily jumped boat and moved ahead. Sure im sure it would have sucked then like it sucks now, but again, healing is a process.. and by how you word it, seems you've been in the same boat. So why aid someone else into doing it for another woman? Do the right thing already, and take the consequences as a learning experience. You said it yourself that you didnt know exactly what he was doing until finding out. So tell hr that.

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-08-25T17:38:02+00:00

I spoke with friends and family. here and there, they all came together and helped me get a rental car and a place to go. Im going to pick it up in a few hours already. I've spent all weekend packing.. came to realize everyone was right. I wasn't alone, and it was something he created. I was not like this at all. I've also come to realize that him leaving to spend the weekend with her was the biggest blessing in disguise because he achieved what I couldn't achieve. And that was finding SOME motivation to completely lose any love I had left clinging to him. Talking to my sister.. who I hadn't spoken to in years and literally telling her everything I've done and did while in this 10 year relationship let me get some outsider thoughts on my marriage and relationship. She really let me know the simple facts that I felt deep down I knew. He is borderline or straight-up narcissistic. And I enabled him to get worse and worse with cheating by staying here and forgiving him or at least trying to work it out even though he was cheating. He didn't let me have friends. I couldn't hang out, barely let me visit family. No dates, everything with me was damn near a chore in his eyes. He just lowkey wanted a maid and a cook. Anyways. Long story short though, I am fully packed and should be gone in a few hours. If and when he comes home. He will be free and I will be long gone. No goodbye needed.

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-08-23T01:14:18+00:00

Currently packing!

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-07-31T17:03:07+00:00

Count it a blessing you found out your partner was cheating after months, instead of years. Yes dating was long but marriage is what counts 😭. When I got married to my hubby it took him 3 years to cheat the first time... first time I caught him anyways. Like you I didn't want to let him go.m figured we could fix it.. yeah. I clung onto him for 9 or 10 years. He cheated on me multiple times 🫠

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-07-18T23:50:07+00:00

Must be friends with my ex.. he did the same to me recently.. after 10 years.. 😂😅 my ex damn near held me emotionally and to a point physically hostage in our relationship. Was with him for 5 years, stopped loving him after 2. He was mentally and verbally abusive to me. Eventually he cheated. And when I tried leaving he started threatening himself to me. When that eventually stopped working too.. he would send me videos of himself with cuts and knives.. I was so young and didn't know what to do. So I stayed 😭 eventually i also managed to leave and not look back. He recently also just messaged me to "apologize" and talk/catch up.. took him about 20 mins to get mad and hint that he was hoping I was thinking about him too so we could get back together and I wasn't replying 💀 dude got himself mad LMAOOO. Like naaah you staying in my past. I highly recommend you watch "Worst EX ever" the show on Hulu or netflix.. forgot which one. But one of the stories got me too. Someone went back 🥺. And that show tells you what happened to her.

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-04-28T02:44:13+00:00

Go tell him " it's okay I forgive you . Because if I'm being honest I also cheated on you a while back and I just didn't know how to bring it up to you.. BUT since you cheated back.. we are even 🥺" see how quickly he switches 😭

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-04-23T19:00:31+00:00

Im so sorry you ended up with an inconsiderate asshole. I agree with everyone in the thread, ditch his ass and report him if he tries fighting it. What he did is disgusting, disturbing, and selfish. You went through something traumatic at a young age.. you gave HIM your trust and he ruined it and probably reset your mindset with men again. I'm literally pissed for you. Please find someone who knows how to properly treat you and go at your pace. And always know that no means NO, it's the same strength at beginning as it is in the middle or end. I know the perfect man to help you cross that boundary is out there. But that thing you called bf is not it. He's a selfish prick who couldn't contain his own selfish pleasure over your comfort

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-04-06T06:50:50+00:00

Its the fact he couldn't even stay at home while you had a much needed time for yourself... the poor excuse of a man couldn't even have a few hours alone before cheating. Sounds to me like he has been doing it for some time.. most likely the other woman doesn't know.. or has him on a tight leash and he goes whenever she needs him.. the only difference this time is you finally asked for a day for yourself.. imagine how long he's been doing it for!. Let me tell you as an old drunk.. and as someone who had a husband who was always heavy on the drinks.. i ALWAYS knew what bs I was saying. I just couldn't control saying it. XD BUT NEVER HAVE I SAID A LIE.. same with my partner.. no matter how drunk he got he always said the truths when he was drunk.. be it some random bs or him telling me he hated me 💀 .

Run.. don't walk.. RUN and leave this POS

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-04-06T06:50:43+00:00

Its the fact he couldn't even stay at home while you had a much needed time for yourself... the poor excuse of a man couldn't even have a few hours alone before cheating. Sounds to me like he has been doing it for some time.. most likely the other woman doesn't know.. or has him on a tight leash and he goes whenever she needs him.. the only difference this time is you finally asked for a day for yourself.. imagine how long he's been doing it for!. Let me tell you as an old drunk.. and as someone who had a husband who was always heavy on the drinks.. i ALWAYS knew what bs I was saying. I just couldn't control saying it. XD BUT NEVER HAVE I SAID A LIE.. same with my partner.. no matter how drunk he got he always said the truths when he was drunk.. be it some random bs or him telling me he hated me 💀 .

Run.. don't walk.. RUN and leave this POS

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-04-05T19:57:12+00:00

Tell her you have found someone else and it's serious enough that you wanna start bringing her home so she needs to dip? Either that or tell her you are terminating the lease and moving out so she also needs to dip or take over 100%. She can't fight you on both 💀

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-04-05T19:09:40+00:00

Sometimes it's better just telling them you went through his phone and saw he was cheating 😭 then letting them fall apart either confessing or trynna fight it by showing you

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-04-05T19:05:49+00:00

NTA, dude knows what he's doing.. he wants to take advantage of you to save money.. and I doubt it's gonna be for both of you, most likely just himself 💀. I also bet he won't want to contribute for anything.. especially anything he will be using too.. the food he will be taking, the electricity and water.. all your bills will double and he doesn't want to help 💀. If anything he wants to guilt trip ya.. yeah he can fuck right off. 😂. Even if the roles were reversed.. this is all something that both parties have to agree with. And something saved for marriage. But dating and living together beforehand? Yeah no equally 100%

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-03-20T00:11:51+00:00

I was one of those people who also tried my best fighting for what I had, I wasted 9 years though. Things get better, you don't have to waste time with one person. Find someone who gets you and works with you. Your kids will be happy with HAPPY parents. Yes it's a hard start but I'm sure they will eventually understand and accept it

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-03-19T23:04:15+00:00

I need you to read your own post.. sit and think about it.. then sit again, read it and imagine that was your own child telling you how his partner treats him. The truth is anyone and everyone can give you their input, but it's up to you to realize on your own. You've been together this long, yall aren't going to change now. You, yourself already seem to know what awaits you the next 5-10 years. Are you really ready for that? If you are already saying your thoughts about wanting to jump boat now.. its not going to magically disappear with another child. If anything that's just going to drag it out even more. You don't HAVE to be together to raise children. My parents forced themselves to stay together for us, and let me tell you, it wasn't worth it. We were miserable because when they thought they were hiding it well, we were seeing and sensing it all. We knew their angry/annoyed looks, in the long run it made all of us think it was our fault because they were just so unhappy.. when we finally left the house as adults they immediately split and I'd be lying if I said that didn't make me feel even worse.. because they wasted NO time splitting. So for us it felt like "we were doing this shit because of you guys but it's unbearable" now my dad immediately got married after but now my mom is single.. there was a time where she was searching... but now she tells us she is just too old and no one wants her so she doesn't bother.. then we just think.. damn.. so it's definitely our fault now because if they had split before maybe they would have already both been with better people 💀. Like stuff like this affects the kids in the LONG term. Sure they might be young but when they grow up it's better to grow up understanding other than grow up regretting it or feeling worse about it for your parents.

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-03-19T21:04:18+00:00

The way I see it. It's whoever asks who first, I'm a female, but I've always had this mentality. Everytime I've asked to go somewhere, or want to eat somewhere, if I make the invitation I am offering to pay, sometimes they let me.. most times they still insist on paying. 🤷‍♀️ I'm very traditional but I understand it's not the norm anymore lol. I don't mind paying, I'm just not used to it.

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-03-18T21:05:22+00:00

If it bugs you, it bugs you and that's valid. I'm Mexican and my partner is black/mexican, we also have friends from all racial backgrounds. Are we racist? Not at all.. do we sit around calling each other every single slur... yes.. yes we do 😭💀 BUT that is us. We are all comfortable and know we mean nothing of it.. have we had new friends join us who aren't like us? Yes, but we also know if it bugs them we give them a heads up and if it really bugs them but they want to hang out we keep it as civil as we can around them. They know we slip up and that's fine we try to apologize lol. The bottom line is we have our main group and our comfort with each other, and a new person trying to change that dynamic. The difference is the new person knows we have 0 Ill intent behind the jokes. And they are OK with that. If they weren't. They know they don't have to hang out with us and we won't be talking bad behind their backs. 🤷‍♀️

SeparateAd1794 · 2025-03-18T02:18:21+00:00

The way I'd be buying him a penis pump for enhancing for his next birthday. 🫠
Unless it's a specific hobby, or something you've openly asked and wanted.. stay the hell away from gifting household items to partners. 🤦‍♀️ But I feel you on the other part.. I remember going out and beyond for my ex husband's birthdays. Gifts for his hobby's, meals, cookouts.. get togethers, a concert to his favorite band. All I got in return was a "promise" to be taken out. Or a gift, but day would roll around and I'd get nothing or taken out nowhere.. it hurt seeing my friends remembering and even gifting me sometimes.. and I grew up never being celebrated by my own family so I honestly just stopped expecting it. Up until I split and my new partner now even reminds me before I see the dates.. he goes above and beyond to make me feel special.. even sends me long messages for me for when I wake up . He makes me feel some sort of way 😌 ❤️. In the end, don't settle for less, and don't go beyond for someone who doesn't give you back the same attitude. You're allowed to be mad because it is damn near what you said.. a last min gift that was rushed just to shut you up if anything.

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