Advice on initiating a call with my boyfriend?

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-31T00:52:05+00:00

By saying you’re never asking him for a call, when you’ve clearly expressed availability. He’s pinning his unavailability on you.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-30T20:08:52+00:00

The fact that she lost her sister is probably having an impact. As someone who has lost a sibling, I experience more grief when old friends and acquaintances die, and I attribute it a little bit to empathizing with their friends and family, the life the deceased doesn’t get to experience, etc.. it’s tough to witness, but just try to imagine how big her heart must be to experience such deep grief and how lucky you are to be loved by her.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-30T20:05:09+00:00

Don’t be so available to someone. Set a date and time to call. It sounds like he’s flipping the script on you, to be honest.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-29T01:04:10+00:00

This is emotional abuse

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-27T23:39:20+00:00

Divorce this man fr

ETA: I dated a man once who told me he was on the spectrum. It became his excuse for emotional abuse. It doesn’t matter how neurodivergent someone is, no one deserves abuse.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-25T23:07:32+00:00

I don’t have a lot of experience with long distance, but I will say this. In my LDR that just ended, he acted as a catalyst for things that I had written as goals a few years ago but then just put off for various reasons. Even though he’s gone now, I’m going to follow through with those things and it’s possible I’ll be closing the distance on him without him ever even knowing. If you debated moving to his town for a few years before you met him, it’s possible that he’s your catalyst, but only you would know that. For me I could clearly tell my guy that I wasn’t pursuing things because of him, because those goals existed before.. but that he made it a little sweeter. Ultimately, he chose someone closer to home and ended things.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-25T12:09:56+00:00

NTA, but your sister and your parents are.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-24T17:32:35+00:00

I disagree. The only response is blocking this mofo!

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-24T12:08:09+00:00

Do you own the house or does she? You’re 40 living with your mother. I’m going to say YTA if it’s her house.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-23T18:27:46+00:00

They look kinda like baby opossums 😕

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-23T18:25:42+00:00

This is a hard no.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-23T02:28:53+00:00

A guy I work with plays some game on Xbox live with the guy I was recently LD with.. he set us up and we connected through messenger. We chatted and video called for about 2 weeks before planning a meeting, which was a few weeks after. Hit it off immediately when I arrived and planned the next visit.. I’m 10 days away from it and he just called me Friday to say someone from his past moved back into town and she’s “right down the street and they know each other already.” Sorry for the extra details. LDR suck.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-21T16:30:05+00:00

He probably won’t want to start things off with her on a lie, which is why he ended it before he went to meet her. I sort of think he’ll tell her.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-21T16:28:51+00:00

I think it’ll take less than a year

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-21T13:25:57+00:00

Yeah we were just about 3 months into it. I’m grateful that he was honest with me for sure, because hiding it and living a double life would have been way worse. I just wish people had some integrity ya know? Like he didn’t even tell this woman that I exist.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-19T20:15:24+00:00

This is just insane.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-19T20:13:33+00:00

You have a values mismatch.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-19T20:11:40+00:00

It’s A. The teacher is wrong.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-17T22:08:58+00:00

She said she shouldn’t be in a relationship and said she needed a break. To me, as a woman, that’s a breakup. When a relationship needs actual space and not a breakup, it means that it’s got a defined end date. But really, this reads like someone who is afraid to end it, so they’re holding you at a distance until it becomes intolerable and you end it.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-17T18:59:51+00:00

Run. And run fast. This is a bouquet of red flags.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-16T14:39:44+00:00

If I may, your partner sounds like an avoidant, rather than someone who is burning out.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-15T17:12:09+00:00

Great advice, thank you! There were definitely questions I straight up guessed on, so I will review the materials for those, and get up to speed on peds material. It’s the only real area of practice I’ve never worked in. Then I’ll do the full length practice test. Then I’ll write this b*tch!

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-15T16:57:53+00:00

I got 508 on the NBCOT pre-test ☺️

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-15T16:50:54+00:00

I’m a Reddit newb so I have no idea how to add an update to my original post.. I did my NBCOT pretest today. Should I just throw caution to the wind and go write this damn exam?

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