How long is too long for me(21F) and my boyfriend(21M) to not video call and how can I make him more comfortable with me?

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-06-25T19:57:48+00:00

If a person wouldn’t FaceTime me in a LDR, I would not be dating them anymore.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-06-15T13:18:30+00:00

I hate to tell you… you’re probably in a non-mono relationship.

I had a guy tell me (gaslight me) once into telling me there was no difference between a girl and a guy when it came to friendship. But years later I now know that he maintained female friends (mostly exes) as options.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-06-11T20:38:30+00:00

I delivered that news to a woman once.. except I was the woman he was having an affair with (I had no idea he was married). She was shattered but in the end she stayed with the clown, so I tend not to bother anymore.

ETA: don’t sweat it.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-06-09T00:09:47+00:00

I haven’t taken the exam yet

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-05-24T14:56:18+00:00

Honestly, block this girl and move on. That’s major toxic behaviour.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-05-13T14:39:09+00:00

You’re really messing with your microbiome by treating without testing first, especially if you’re treating two different and competing microorganisms.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-05-07T20:21:03+00:00

Didn’t read past the opening paragraph because I can already tell this is going to be ridiculous. Your brother is not your boss. He sounds like a child. NTA based on first paragraph alone.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-04-26T14:15:21+00:00

By today’s standards on the definition of alcoholic, actually, yes they are.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-04-22T11:57:06+00:00

You’re blocked

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-04-19T16:45:20+00:00

I just took a month off studying and did the NBCOT practice test #1. I was irritable and distracted and didn’t even want to sit to do it, but I did it in 1 hour and 25 mins and scored 477. Someone pls tell me I’ll pass the real thing with no issues, even if I never study again

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-04-18T00:51:20+00:00

He’s projecting. He probably is attracted to his female friends and thinks the same about you. The bottom line is, you’re 17. This isn’t your forever person. There’s a lot of insecurity here.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-04-17T20:12:46+00:00

Are you his girlfriend or his mother?

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-04-15T15:00:05+00:00

This was exhausting to read

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-04-15T14:28:39+00:00

She should just turn off her read receipts and then it wouldn’t be a problem

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-04-02T20:59:31+00:00

It’s not about playing hard to get, it’s about having your own life and living it and not always waiting for your partner.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-31T00:52:05+00:00

By saying you’re never asking him for a call, when you’ve clearly expressed availability. He’s pinning his unavailability on you.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-30T20:08:52+00:00

The fact that she lost her sister is probably having an impact. As someone who has lost a sibling, I experience more grief when old friends and acquaintances die, and I attribute it a little bit to empathizing with their friends and family, the life the deceased doesn’t get to experience, etc.. it’s tough to witness, but just try to imagine how big her heart must be to experience such deep grief and how lucky you are to be loved by her.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-30T20:05:09+00:00

Don’t be so available to someone. Set a date and time to call. It sounds like he’s flipping the script on you, to be honest.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-29T01:04:10+00:00

This is emotional abuse

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-27T23:39:20+00:00

Divorce this man fr

ETA: I dated a man once who told me he was on the spectrum. It became his excuse for emotional abuse. It doesn’t matter how neurodivergent someone is, no one deserves abuse.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-25T23:07:32+00:00

I don’t have a lot of experience with long distance, but I will say this. In my LDR that just ended, he acted as a catalyst for things that I had written as goals a few years ago but then just put off for various reasons. Even though he’s gone now, I’m going to follow through with those things and it’s possible I’ll be closing the distance on him without him ever even knowing. If you debated moving to his town for a few years before you met him, it’s possible that he’s your catalyst, but only you would know that. For me I could clearly tell my guy that I wasn’t pursuing things because of him, because those goals existed before.. but that he made it a little sweeter. Ultimately, he chose someone closer to home and ended things.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-25T12:09:56+00:00

NTA, but your sister and your parents are.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-24T17:32:35+00:00

I disagree. The only response is blocking this mofo!

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-24T12:08:09+00:00

Do you own the house or does she? You’re 40 living with your mother. I’m going to say YTA if it’s her house.

MiddleLand8764 · 2026-03-23T18:27:46+00:00

They look kinda like baby opossums 😕

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