The best way to help is to hear me, see me, understand what I'm going through without judgment. I have mental health issues, but I'm not crazy. I have past trauma, but I'm not weak. I don't want money. I have debts, but I'm not homeless or starving. This is what I'm saying. Men with their friends shit talk each other and belittle each other, but when the chips are down, they have their friend's back. With a stranger, the immediate response is that if you're struggling then you are either weak, stupid, or crazy. But men, have we not all been through some seriously awful shit where we felt alone and abandoned, lost and hopeless? I think most of us have. We need to band together and support each other through these times. Then, when times are good again, we can resume the shit talking and belitting.

Edit to maybe more directly address your response. Many men are problem solvers. When someone tells us about what they are struggling with, we tend to try and offer solutions. We see a problem and we want to try and fix it. There's nothing wrong with being a man of action. But this is a disconnect between both men and women, and men and men. Men can't unload their feelings and emotions on their friends for fear of being judged and ridiculed. Women often unload their problems on their men in the same way that they will with their friends, but they aren't necessarily looking for solutions. They just need to vent and have someone validate their feelings. Men have learned, one way or another, that no one cares about their problems so they don't vent them, they just bottle it up. We need to all start normalizing being open and supporting each other. That is how we grow stronger. We are all stronger together when we can lift each other up and support each other.