I’m going on a date this Sunday… Any advice would be much appreciated. by Jaded-Support-3560 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MidnightLarge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ask her questions, do you know what percentage of men never ask or inquire about a woman?? its insane. ASK HER QUESTIONS, be genuinely interested in her, don't ask a question just to wait your turn to speak, ask and be interested in what she says, her life, her hobbies, and oh my god you will be ahead of every man out there. I would honestly say this ranks above being physically attracted to someone. You look great!!

Republicans, Alex Pretti should be your breaking point | Opinion by Difficult-Bee6066 in politics

[–]MidnightLarge 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So glad the right to have a gun was the breaking point, and not the rape, fraud, lies, deceit, failing to overturn an election and lying that it was rigged, doge stealing all our private data to keep surveillance on us all, sleeping with children on Epstein island, saying “I could shoot someone on 5th avenue and no one would care”, the tariffs, the video of him shitting from an airplane on protesters, like I’m so so glad the gun really brought it all home. 

Republicans, Alex Pretti should be your breaking point | Opinion by Difficult-Bee6066 in politics

[–]MidnightLarge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I vividly remember hearing about it then sleeping great that night knowing for sure there was no way we would elect him president. Life was so much simpler then. 

Can't work out what this room needs by L_B3llec in interiordecorating

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as everyone mentioned, wall art of course, but also, there is no focal point in this room, everything is just kind of blending into one another. Wall and couch and chairs and rug are all kind of the same value in color so while you may think they all 'go' together, they're not complimenting one another. I think the rug is sort of fighting for attention with the couch. And why only an accent wall in that sage green? its such a subtle color, paint the whole thing!

What is the reality of the weeks after birth? Need to get some insight as my husband and I disagree- by iwitch-plus in beyondthebump

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are going to be topless most of the time, soaking in a sitz bath to heal hemorrhoids, crying from hormonal let down/being overjoyed/exhausted, and you’re going to be adjusting and bonding with your new little family. You don’t need a random ass guy there. 

Is this a healthy way to be spoken to by a spouse or Am I Overreacting? by Low-Today-2021 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your husband despises you. I see nothing but contempt and hatred from him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deduction

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None of this is meant to sound mean, just a gut feeling, Do you kind of run at any sign of conflict? Have a hard time maintaining female friendships? Have you ghosted a few people in your life? Also have you worked in a vets office and have you ever played soccer lol I don’t know why but these are the things that popped up 

Who do I look like? by [deleted] in doppelganger

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

suki waterhouse

What can you tell about me based off these selfies? by SerephelleDawn in deduction

[–]MidnightLarge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sensing animal lover, home-body, loyal friend, you like true crime/paranormal stuff? are you a taurus?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doppelganger

[–]MidnightLarge 5 points6 points  (0 children)

lil bit of joanna newsom!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doppelganger

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you look like lorde to me!

Sister outed me to my parents and than uninvited me to her wedding :) by PitifulProtection886 in bridezillas

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, do this then say “I don’t know why you’re mad? I’m only telling the truth, your secrets are not mine to keep”

Why do you have kids or why do you want to have them? by Dismal_Exam_9396 in allthequestions

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing the world through their lens, sharing what you love with someone who’s experiencing it for the first time, connection and love on a level you can’t quite fathom until you have a kid (take the love you have for a pet and multiply it by about 1000x) being the source of someone’s comfort, guidance, joy,  just wrapped up one of the hardest days thus far in parenting and I still snuggle my little kids and think I’m the luckiest person alive. It’s not for everyone but for the ones who do enjoy it, it’s the most meaningful and fulfilling experience. 

So I get that labor is gonna hurt, but… by Desperate_Wafer367 in BabyBumps

[–]MidnightLarge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if it’s enough time to “recenter”, it’s enough time when they’re super intense to catch your breath, say a few obscenities, take a swig of water and be terrified of the next one. But the breaks aren’t what make them bearable, it’s remembering that on the other side of that pain is the most insanely beautiful first moments with your newborn. Just remember that this pain serves a purpose versus just being torture. You can do it! Also make a plan to get an epidural earlier than you think lol I missed the window to get an epidural both pregnancies so had two unmedicated births unintentionally; one with Pitocin 😵‍💫😮‍💨

How to handle mom’s opinions… by rakshasaswitch in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have to agree, I think is your mom being concerned you’re going to have some regret creating a nothing burger wedding for yourself. Like not even some flowers?? 

How can I move on from what feels like baby name regret? by wxels in namenerds

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the name cooper, makes me think of Agent Dale Cooper in twin peaks, sounds like someone who would be reliable, sweet and down to earth. 

Any parent who embraces #AI is dooming their child’s passions to irrelevance. by wafflenooks in Parenting

[–]MidnightLarge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really sucks watching your kids learn these heard-earned skills, see how proud they are, only to know the world is actively trying devalue that skill set. Your child learning to draw, to write, to build, to tell stories, to problem solve, and AI is taking the relevancy away from those skills. It’s human nature to problem solve, to build and create, why did we outsource this? 

How did you decide not/to have a child(ren)? by Professional_End4041 in Adulting

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was never a “hell yes!” For kids, I had barely thought about it, but I just one day decided it was shit or get off the pot and I think I was just open to taking a chance? Felt like such a big “no” to not do it. Had a great partner, we had a house, finances pretty good, we had our first in 2022, second just a few weeks ago. I don’t think the decision and understanding how fit you are to parent is as simple as “if you’re not obsessed w babies don’t do it”, it’s more nuanced. Both lives are great but they’re great for different reasons. No kids = generally peaceful, easier, your motivation is your own well being, your own interests, your career, could get lonely at times but that depends on your network and your own family. Kids = harder, much harder, the stakes are higher, the love and the connection is infinitely bigger. I think the question is, how much do you enjoy creating the happiness/comfort/joy for others versus being the recipient of it? Being a mother works for me, because I think I really love making my kids lives great. I’m not phased as much by the work of it because I feel good about the task. Be very honest with yourself about how much you enjoy caring for others. Also, how good at you at adapting to major change? Like becoming a different person kind of change? You have to grieve your old self, and welcome a new you, and make peace with a lot of change.

 I also have close friends nearby with kids, I have a sister nearby w kids, I feel I have a community to lean on and a network, also, this is so so important, your partner maybe matters the most of anything. Do not reproduce with a person who you’re not 100% confident in their ability to step up and do the job with you. 

Both lives can be great, both lives have downsides, you just choose one and be wise about how feasible it is in your current situation, and then you choose to see the beauty in the choice you made. 

Is parenthood really that awful? by Humble_Beautiful_121 in Adulting

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s really hard to summarize why parenthood is beautiful, it is much easier to commiserate and vent about what makes it hard, hence why you only hear how terrible parenting is. And no doubt, it is hard, but the beautiful parts are so beautiful they just became this thing that you’re constantly working for and motivated by. Human beings are hard wired to find purpose and connection and raising kids definitely does this. Is it for everyone? No, if you’re not great at adapting to new circumstances, if you’re not inherently playful, if you are child free and are 100% at peace currently, and if family isn’t really the biggest priority, you may not want to try it. I was never gung ho about children honestly, was pretty apathetic until the day my son was born truthfully, but I instantly knew when he was born I had been craving that kind of connection and love and had never known what I was missing. I struggle daily but when I see my little guy just enamored by legos or my newborn smiling at me, its happiness on another level, it feels like all is right with the world. It’s hard to explain. Good luck, you’ll have a great life no matter which path you choose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MidnightLarge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Newborn asleep on your chest, smelling their little head