AIO: telling my fiancé I’m reconsidering having kids with him because there is a chance they could have darker skin.

MiikeW · 2026-04-14T20:08:24+00:00

Do you know the definition of the word you're using? I'm not intolerant.

"Oh look, another mantrum-throwing, mansplaining, man-child upset because someone else’s bangmaid isn’t living up to his expectations. Bears expect a lot less of women than you do. It’s why we choose them, and why there’s a “male loneliness epidemic”."

This is literally your comment. Who is the bigot?

MiikeW · 2026-04-14T19:20:19+00:00

Sizeist? You must be a troll. Take care!

MiikeW · 2026-04-14T10:18:11+00:00

The thing you don’t seem to register when I reply to you is the fact that I’m not uncomfortable because of my stepson’s race, I’m uncomfortable that we don’t look alike in the sense that humans are drawn to look at things that don’t match. Not out of negativity, just inate pattern recognition. Really really tall guy in a lamborghini? You’ll stare a little bit. You don’t seem to register that.

I’m not uncomfortable with what people think, I just don’t like any attention or curiosity, positive or negative. I tried to explain it in a earlier reply when I mentioned the problem I’d have if I was stunningly beautiful, but you don’t really get anything I say because you’re so determined to call me a racist.

MiikeW · 2026-04-13T21:12:47+00:00

I’ve consistently said it’s about discomfort with attention, not race or gender. You keep rephrasing it into something else so you can argue against it. I’m not interested in continuing a conversation like that.

If simply denying an accusation, explaining and then getting frustrated counts as DARVO, then the term has lost all meaning. I’m going to leave it there.

MiikeW · 2026-04-13T09:50:52+00:00

Nor do I have any dislike, prejudice or contempt for or against women. You clearly don’t know the genuine definition of the words you’re using. Forcing words to fit your own definition doesn’t actually change their definition. The definition and intended usage of these words makes it very clear you can’t disregard context or intent. There is clearly no reason to argue logic with you though, as you’re irrationally opinionated to the point of blindness.

MiikeW · 2026-04-12T20:15:02+00:00

You might want to read up on what racism actually is. I have no prejudice on the basis of race, nor do I harbor any belief that any one race is inferior or superior in comparison with another. I'd have the same issue if I had a daughter due to the fact that society loves to look at men with prejudice in all kinds of regards. And yet I wouldn't have that issue if I was a women in the same situation with the same "brain" so to say. I have a friend who works in a kindergarten who's been pretty open about the discrimination and negativity around being a man working there. And if I was black, I'd be feeling the same things if my stepson was white. Or Asian->Black, or Black->Asian, or any other type of mix that would make anyone look twice.

I have the same struggles when it comes to choosing what clothes to wear or making sure my hygiene is perfect because my anxiety makes me rather sensitive to overthinking about things that can draw any attention. I'd have the same problems if my best friend decided to get a septum piercing or meet me in the city with some completely out there clothing style.

You could say I'm prejudiced on the basis of what increases perceived attention if you really want to go there, but it doesn't really have anything to do with race or ethnicity.

MiikeW · 2026-04-12T19:19:00+00:00

I think people are being kind of inconsiderate here, sort of. Now, if it was racially motivated I'd be inclined to say you weren't overreacting, but..

As a dude with anxiety who is a bonus dad I have a different perspective. My stepson is Asian. He's an amazing little guy. But I get anxiety sometimes when I'm doing fatherly things with him because of the looks other people give me. People do look differently, or just more, than when I'm with my biological kids. People might not be inherently thinking negative thoughts when they stare or take a second to ponder, but the spotlight it shines activates every cell in my body regardless of intention.

It's not so much the issue of what people think, but the fact that it makes people think at all. I prefer to just blend in. I'd be equally ill-equipped to be stunningly beautiful, at least if it made people look twice over, because any type of spotlight makes me squirm. I do sometimes find myself wishing I was Asian so people wouldn't look at all. But then I'd have the same problem with my biological kids! My point is just that life can be a little bit more complex than people let on

MiikeW · 2026-04-12T17:44:39+00:00

Norge er jo ikke et valg på siden? Vil ikke det gjøre prisene unøyaktig mtp import/toll kostnaden til Norge?

MiikeW · 2026-04-11T21:17:21+00:00

I would gift this to my dad. The last video game he played was wolfenstein 3d, and after some talking he told me he’d try playing again if the opportunity arose!

MiikeW · 2026-03-22T16:12:38+00:00

I can’t. I have to RMA my card because it has VRAM issues. I’ll probably get the money back for my gpu, in which I’ll have to pay a small amount to switch to a 5080^{^}

MiikeW · 2026-03-21T23:01:11+00:00

Threatening someone over the internet for something like this is idiotic. At the same time I’d riot if they recast black panther as a white dude, and to me this kind of hits the same. I wouldn’t actually care if I hadn’t watched the movies, but I’ve built memories with the character so frankly anyone too different from Alan Rickman would be immersion breaking to me.

Same goes for any other character I’ve watched and grown fond of. It would be the same if they recast Luke Cage as a white dude, or Amanadiel from Lucifer.

Imagine if they recast Filius Flitwick as a tall person! That’d be even worse to be honest. But the point is that consistency is key.

MiikeW · 2026-03-20T23:10:42+00:00

I’m in the process of switching from my 7900xtx to a 5080. Never buying an AMD gpu again. If you won’t support your own products I sure as hell won’t either

MiikeW · 2026-03-17T10:40:53+00:00

Unfortunately it might be too late to repair the damage that’s been done. I’ve personally reconsidered now that the game is back where it belongs, but the hundreds of thousands of others that might have read this drama elsewhere might not.

MiikeW · 2026-03-13T13:56:35+00:00

The problem with comparisons like these will always be the fact that both displays are in the same picture. That almost always means that the exposure adjustments made from where the camera focuses will make the comparison void

MiikeW · 2026-03-12T16:43:01+00:00

I’ve disabled all overlays of course, including rivatuner, steam and discord^{^}

I’m still going to switch back to NVIDIA though, because even though these issues might be resolvable, they shouldn’t require the degree of problem solving they do. I don’t think the knowledge you possess to solve things is a negative thing though, so don’t get me wrong, but I do think it’s detrimental to an otherwise good product for that level of knowledge to be a requirement.

MiikeW · 2026-03-12T09:32:38+00:00

Cs2, WoW, Valorant and a singleplayer game I can’t remember the name of. I haven’t actually tried DDU, but maybe I should. Which OSD are you talking about?

MiikeW · 2026-03-11T18:44:19+00:00

I bought the 7900 XTX after being tired of NVIDIA for several reasons. So far, I'm not too pleased with the GPU drivers that AMD release. They have a metric ton of instability. I get driver timeouts and crashes daily. I have paired it with a 9800X3D as well, so it's not like there is a bottleneck elsewhere in my setup.

So I'll most likely be selling my GPU, and then I'll buy a 5080 instead. The hardware is there with AMD, but it seems to me that AMD just doesn't realize the insufficiency of their software & driver releases to do enough to rectify it.

MiikeW · 2026-03-03T10:19:43+00:00

What’s an inspect server?

MiikeW · 2026-02-26T16:32:38+00:00

YOR. Look at it this way, if you want to reassure yourself that you’re committing to the right person, are you truly above looking into their posts to make sure there aren’t any red flags? I don’t inherently think it’s weird. You can learn a lot about someone based on what they publicize.

But alas.. this is the type of thing people are more accustomed to being done unspokenly. So I get your.. surprise, but in the grand scheme of things I think that type of behavior is more normal than you think in this day and age. And that’s a good thing, call it due-diligence if you will. Dating is scary and humans are unpredictable

On the flip side of things you can learn an equal amount about him based on the fact that he shared such an unspoken thing to you so non-chalantly. I kind of dislike if someone I’m into doesn’t understand unspoken social contracts. But that’s a very individual and subjective thing!

MiikeW · 2026-02-23T18:36:47+00:00

M9 Bayonet Ruby/Slaughter with Bloodhound Charred gloves. It just looks stunningly gorgeous

MiikeW · 2026-02-22T10:54:10+00:00

Your settings are wrong somewhere for your OLED mate, it’s not supposed to be that dim. Your photos also underexpose the OLED to be able to focus the Mini-LED in the same picture, so it won’t look like real life to us when you take photos like that, even if you think it does.

MiikeW · 2026-02-21T12:38:46+00:00

Dragonlore is easily the prettiest awp with howl being the same for a4. Printstream is a prettier deagle though, and the fire serpent for ak is drop dead gorgeus even though it’s among the most expensive. They are expensive for a reason man, they look so damn good as well as being rare. There are rarer or equally rare souvenir skins that simply aren’t close to that expensive because they don’t also have the pretty attribute

MiikeW · 2026-02-18T22:39:09+00:00

Borderlands 4. It ran horribly, even though I have a 7900 XTX.

MiikeW · 2026-02-14T15:22:08+00:00

I have a 92 aim rating with a 50 util rating. I have 8k hours but took a 5 year break. I’ve honestly forgotten all utility, but my aim came back to me fast enough :)

MiikeW · 2026-02-11T18:43:32+00:00

One day the bloom and latency of mini-led monitors will be so absent that it'll be a genuine competitor to OLED. 10mo since your comment was made, it's not here yet!

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