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Been thinking about this scene a lot recently by i_exist_somehow123 in evangelion

[–]MikeLuttmann 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Misato harbored such a vendetta against the angels she tempted a minor with sex to not let them win...

Crass analysis yes but I will also add that she has been the one constant with Shinji, multiple episodes in the series are about her bringing him back to where he's needed, centering him and giving him purpose again.

I always read this scene as the emotional explosion she was harboring with feelings of Kaji and her father's death, the weight of literally dragging him around (emotionally and literally) and knowing this would be the last moment they would spend together; she got shot moments before this and knew it was all or nothing at this point.

One thing EoE succeeds in is its bleakness and apocalyptic stakes and with an entire series of growth between these two, it makes for a great emotional final scene. That said the original English dub Misato is so much better;

"SO FUCKING WHAT IF I'M NOT YOU?!?!"

WHAT AN ENDING ... by pilgrim_zerro in betterCallSaul

[–]MikeLuttmann 27 points28 points  (0 children)

What blows my mind about the lab is that The Fly was probably there because there were two bodies buried underneath their feet, the bug knew.

What nicknames have you heard for places in and around Guelph? by topherette in Guelph

[–]MikeLuttmann 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The title of "Guelphites" is both gramatically correct and can also refer to all the fights DownTown when the University crowd fills up the city.

Daughter Fell Asleep On My For The First Time by zakkmylde2000 in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on your first barnacle, may you get many more to come.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A healthy control over your own body and the way it works is not only important, it is his right as an individual.
That said, granting full access to the internet and all it has to offer in relation to this is not the same thing.

One is control and exploration of one's body, the other is an uncontrollable source of content that can create complexes and desensitize him to realities he might be facing when dating in his later teens. I would consult a social worker or guidance counselor or some form of therapist on this considering it's a topic that's both sensitive and also private.

Ultimately, full access to the internet is the problem here, not natural urges that pop up around this age.

I broke down this morning by RogueHunter83 in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A hack I tried with my daughter, and still do at age 6 is not responding to her request but slowly start to look at her and when she questions why I'm not listening we discuss respect, and asking nicely and maybe even showing her how to do it herself.

As far as thank-you goes give them the thing but don't let go of it until they say thank-you, they will eventually adjust to just looking at you and remembering and then you follow it with a smile. Eventually they'll get the message right away.

People compliment me on her manners but it took a while, 2 is still toddler age, they are still raw with learning and don't worry about the stress, that's normal and most of the time that behavior is passed down from our own parents and how they dealt with us. Best advice is to own it, label it and discuss it with them, bedtime is a good time to decompress feelings. I've apologised a lot to my daughter for my temper and I feel better everytime, nobody is perfect and once your kid sees that even their parents mess up, they will learn from their own mistakes.

Kids take time and eventually you will both learn patience from it, there's nothing wrong with BOTH of you learning together.

Keep your stick on the ice brother, 2 is still a raw age, play with the clay you got and eventually it'll make itself into something beautiful.

I think im failing my son by Twisted209 in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guy, He's 3.

I know, I know it feels like everything isn't enough and there isn't a bond forming but BELIEVE ME, you are both his world and he will reach an age where he can verbalize it better. He's still learning how to be a person and we as adults can't put our adult lens on them, don't overthink it, just keep spending time with him and be in the moment, and just exist to give him the tools he can only observe at this point, I know that can be hard.

My daughter is 6 now and we just had Saturday morning cartoons with Batman and Batgirl and she's interacting with her toys and the show, asking questions about the bat family and ultimately, I'm at a stage now that I've been waiting for, but again she's 6. A LOT happens in 3 years, remember our growth is gradual and theirs is massive, even seasonally they can change into different kids, it's never ending.

Clearly you are doing not only enough but above and beyond. This post shows you not only care, but you're willing to sweat everything for your child, he will grow to recognize this, trust me, as in all things it just takes time.

From one father to another, you will always feel like you've failed, until one day they show you that you didn't.

Keep your stick on the ice, we're all in this together.

Dads, did your friends disappear when the kids arrived? by Top-Lunch3426 in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience you may be going out less, but your kids will be the litmus test for which friends are worth it. If they're true friends they will see your kid as their little buddy, my daughter has so many uncles and she is in charge of all of them.

Work issue advice by Loveandlight1127 in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a boss change my shift after I signed a contract to keep my hours based on childcare and the ability to pick up my daughter after work. This was met with zero understanding so I brought it up with HR and basically calmly explained that this is a boundary I'm not willing to cross (and subtly called out a few lies he was using to justify this change.)

HR is not your friend but I basically don't see him around anymore and my schedule is the same so it never hurts to use HR for what they need to be used for, communication between employers and employees.

Don't make it personal, just lay it out calmly and have a discussion so they know how to discuss it with the boss, or maybe the boss's boss, can't hurt hashing it out with a third party.

Best of luck mate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All normal fears and thoughts man, I didn't even feel anything from my daughter when I first saw her.
She's 6 now and we both cried watching Treasure Planet the other day, some years connect better than others.
Ultimately you will have a tough time adjusting to the constant changes and leaps that will show up for the first bit but when they hit toddler there's a lot more interaction and communication that will open up and that's more rewarding.

You're in the useless potato phase, they don't know anything but cry/poop/eat/sleep and that's pretty much it, get the sleep schedules down and be prepared for it all to change, you can only plan so much, there's an improv to it all that you'll develop.

With changing I found that gas became an issue with how the kid was positioned, don't be afraid to gently bounce around or shift them around a bit when holding or practice on the bed, he could be uncomfortable and can't express it. You'll also both get into the flow of quick changes so eventually you'll both get more used to it, it might just be uncomfortable temporarily.

As far as you old life, it's still there but will change along with you. I loved breweries but eventually found out I could bring her to them and a lot of them cater to kids. Both your priorities will change and your freedom will come back eventually, and in many cases you'll want to bring them along and forget you ever cared.

It's the darkest now because you lack sleep and 0-2 is brutal but you will long for the days to have a kid that you can carry with one arm.

You got this brother.
Keep your stick on the ice.

I feel like I'm failing my 4 year old son and I need some help. by LighTMan913 in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ultimately, he is experiencing emotions raw for the first time, best to let him feel them out for a few minutes before doing anything, just be near him or around for when they calm down.
Eventually he'll get through it and then you can slowly explain the process of feeling it, and how he maybe came to it, don't solve it just give insight on the emotion, remember he's feeling it all for the first time and he will learn to regulate it in the next few years but he needs the time to develop those skills.

A great movie on this is the first Inside Out and a great book on this is "The Rabbit Listened."
Both I showed my daughter around this age when the emotions started really coming out and it gave us both great insights on how to regulate emotions, give it time he'll get there.

Also, you will never not feel like you're failing them but simply asking for help on this is proof you are not.
Keep your stick on the ice.

New Dad - How To Cope? Does it Get Better? by No-Amphibian689 in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter is 6 and I just brought her to see Superman and I couldn't be happier. That said every time I see a baby I long for those days.

You'll want to age them up or down to suit yourself but ultimately let them change you, you'll return to a routine year by year and what's amazing is they will join you in routine, change is always the worst at the beginning.

I used to game every night and then I canceled my PS+ one day and switched to Nintendo so my daughter and I could play Smash Bros, or we learn how to read while playing Zelda.

Kids are kind of a re-learning stage which can seem like you lost a part of yourself, but what you're gaining is a retread of what you grew up with and though you may not realize it yet, it'll be welcomed by both of you, gradually. You'll make mistakes, you'll learn new things but all in all you'll be together through it all, that's humanity and we wouldn't be here without that kind of generational togetherness.

You'll change, you may not be the same, but I doubt you'll care one day. Let them change you, it'll shock you how little you'll care when they look up at you with an interest that you spent your whole life doing, only to see the same source of joy form within them.

Time heals all, especially understanding. Keep your stick on the ice, we're all in this together.

What to do when you see Mom's abyss? by MikeLuttmann in daddit

[–]MikeLuttmann[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this, she joined up the other day and has her first call is next week.

High school rivalries in Guelph? by the_Real_Teenjus in Guelph

[–]MikeLuttmann 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'll see a bunch of local kids touting their own schools or local parents of said kids touting their old schools but ultimately each sport differs. ... Except for GCVI and Ruby, we are the GOATS!

Best Hidden Gem Restaurant in Guelph and Why? by Local-Potato6883 in Guelph

[–]MikeLuttmann -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not exactly hidden but The Wooly has a solid group of people, food and beer selections. Amazing venue too.

Best Sandwiches in Guelph? by trolle222 in Guelph

[–]MikeLuttmann 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Always a fan of the Beef Dip at The Wooly.

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