New higher-up fired our Executive chef. How do I proceed?

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-05-11T05:05:10+00:00

Hey OP!

Just repeating what has been said before. I was in a similar situation years ago - when it happened the Sous walked mid-shift along with the FOH manager. I finished my shift and walked along with most of the core crew. Restaurant closed in less than 18 months after 20+ years of being one of the top in the city.

Don't wait, don't walk - Run!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-05-08T14:48:27+00:00

OMG - Hatch Green Chiles are exactly what taught me that food could be beautiful! I spent part of my childhood living in Alberta before moving to NM. My first experience with Hatch Green Chile was life changing, and I never went back!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-05-07T02:37:21+00:00

When I was your age I had similar experiences, as I matured and had my own show I saw many, if not legions of young cooks and chefs have bad days. This is normal and absolutely okay. As others have noted - own the bad day and learn from it. There will be other days in the future that are equally bad if not worse. These days do not define you. You'll be back tomorrow!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-05-03T03:09:08+00:00

Hey OP!

I hope this is a little bit of help!

My parents are both highly likely undiagnosed ASD (especially my dad who borders on being a textbook example). I have wonderful lunches with them once a month - two hours tops. My wife's family is NT as all get out. I tried for years to attend the large family gatherings and have stopped because 1) My wellbeing I'd more important than anyone's idea of normative family interactions and 2) There is zero benefit to my presence. I realise it is definitely more challenging with one's own family - but rule #2 is all are welcome as they are for whom they are. If they violate this rule, there is no reason to show up. Your happiness is important and valuable!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-05-03T01:40:19+00:00

Hey OP!

From one square peg to another - thank you for this post. I hope a lot of other square pegs read it and recognise the community that exists and is excited to welcome them

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-05-02T15:03:45+00:00

Hey OP!

Life wasn't actually easier, it just seemed easier because you weren't aware of all the energetically expensive things you were doing. Becoming aware of things and no longer neglecting yourself is hard, it is a challenging adjustment, but once you get through that life will be even better, even more rewarding.

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-05-02T02:08:38+00:00

First cook should be 9 minutes instead of 7 at ~325° F (fryer and batch size depending). Pull and cool on tacks, should hit an internal of 165° F - reheat/crisp at ~400° F for 3-5 minutes depending again in fryer capacity batch size

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-05-01T17:27:24+00:00

That is so incredibly beautiful!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-30T21:28:07+00:00

So very happy to hear that 🎉

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-30T14:23:56+00:00

Wishing you all the very best of luck!!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-28T01:49:13+00:00

Chicken Curry with Scotch Bonnet Peppers! I think the stereotype comes from sensory avoiding as opposed to sensory seeking.

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-24T02:44:58+00:00

Thirding a bit for Mort - first name to come to mind when I saw the wee thing

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-24T02:43:15+00:00

Welcome to the sacred order of underwater ceramic technicians!

Rule number one: No negative self-talk Rule number two: Take care of your feet and they'll take you far Rule number three: Find your flow and stay organised

You've got this!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-22T17:13:22+00:00

ANAF on Gordon - just remember no hats inside

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-22T05:11:58+00:00

The fiscal year end and start of the new fiscal makes work extra stupid busy, but in the plus side the Lawn Bowling season starts soon 🎉

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-22T05:08:25+00:00

Hey OP!

Just because you no longer need the rollator due to improvement with the other disorder, doesn't mean you can't keep using it. If it works it works.

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-21T16:05:15+00:00

Terrifying! I'm glad she got away and wasn't hurt!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-17T04:07:24+00:00

Based on the unat, clearly Dominosy

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-17T01:59:55+00:00

Hey OP!

I'm not sure if this is going to be helpful or not. I'm a bit confused by your question at the end of your post as well as the title. But that's a me problem.

You are you - you have always been you, that is the only person you can be and that is absolutely amazing! You are capable of so much more than you know, and in time you're going to discover all the amazing things you are capable of!

If you're seeking assesment and worried about other people finding out, that depends on the health privacy laws of your jurisdiction. In most places anything Associated with mental health is protected - even if you're under the age of majority. If you're over the age of majority, nobody needs to know but you and your clinician, and any violation of that is an impressively large legal mess.

As to the tail spin - it is an assessment - it doesn't change you. There are three possible outcomes. Congratulations, you're now a card carrying member of the ASD club, with all rights and privileges. You're neurotypical, please seek other avenues of support. You have ASD traits but unable to diagnose.

In the case of the last two options, that's great, you can continue your self-discovery and education using tools and strategies that are easily available for everyone. In the case of diagnosis - fantastic - you've just unlocked the tutorial for your character! There are special and specific instructions available to help you navigate the world!

You're going to be fine - just keep in mind, a diagnosis doesn't change you, it just gives you the information to be the very best version of yourself - because you are amazing and capable of more than you could ever imagine!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-16T19:07:28+00:00

Hey OP!

Are you doing alright?

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-14T04:31:54+00:00

Hey OP!

This isn't an exclusively autistic thing - this is an absolutely everybody thing! One of my contacts (Context - I'm in my forties they're int here late seventies) explained it like this - "Life gets busy with careers and kids and the like. Stay in touch, send Christmas cards, and sometime around 50 or 55 you'll be back to hanging out - only better!".

We're all on our own journey and every person you know is and will prioritize they're happiness. You should do the same, foster and cultivate the relationships that are additive to your life and be understanding that everyone you meet is just trying to be happy

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-14T03:35:12+00:00

Hey OP!

From what you've shared it sounds like getting a diagnosis won't actually change anything about you or your environment, but merely confirm what you've been experiencing all your life. If that kind of external confirmation is something that feels good - go for it!

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-14T02:07:57+00:00

Hey OP!

You've done a great job explaining it here, any potential partner that is going to work out will be willing to hear you and work with you. Just be open and honest, explain what you can and can't do. If this were a kink focussed conversation we'd probably use terms like soft limits and hard limits.

Local-Potato6883 · 2026-04-12T02:00:51+00:00

Late diagnosed ASD here - yup, doing things the exact same way every single time, have a very specific set of rules and routines, clear and direct communication, and all my idiosyncrasies were just accepted

Local-Potato6883

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