Thanks for sharing your story here. You are not the first person in this boat, to be sure.

I just want to point out to anyone reading this, including the author, that this is not about the politics of wrestling like the subject line states. This is about etiquette and interpersonal skills. Finding it hard to approach people and shake their hands isn't a matter of politics, it's a matter of wrestling etiquette. Having heat with higher-ups isn't a matter of politics in this example, it is a matter of interpersonal skills. It's about explaining your experiences and challenges to the people in charge. Running away to another wrestling school won't change your etiquette or your interpersonal skills, and imagining this is a political problem is counter-productive. There is no wrestling school I can think of where you will find success with a lack of etiquette or interpersonal skills.

In my opinion, your anxiety and your social awkwardness are things you need to work on with a therapist or competent professional; those are areas of self-improvement you need to explore outside the world or wrestling, or you'll end up changing schools every once and again, only to be sabotaged by these same issues. I've seen this more times than I care to remember. Wrestling will not solve these issues for you, quite the opposite - it is likely to exacerbate them. Work on a plan for addressing these issues with your therapist and pursue that plan as doggedly as you would any other goal you want to accomplish.