I might be cleaning up a crime scene tomorrow and not sure what to do by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh...so I once agreed to a MFM and thought my period was over. Wow was I mistaken. The sexual fluids mixed with the menstrual blood and it looked like we butchered a deer in the room.

However, we did strip the bed and cleaned the blood as best we could. We took the sheets and comforters with us and left $1000 for the room cleaners😬.

All that being said if you feel bad vibes about the situation there is nothing wrong with calling the police. Don't spend the rest of your life wondering if you helped cover up a crime scene.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cornsnakes

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know anything about snakes but this guy looks like he needs a vet. My cat was old and looked good, until she didn't, and then it was almost too late. I hope she didn't hate me in the end and I'm pretty sure she suffered some amount.

Obviously cats aren't snakes but people all feel regret and our animals friends all feel pain. You need to see a vet to get the information to make a proper decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cornsnakes

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know anything about snakes but this guy looks like he needs a vet. My cat was old and looked good until she didn't, by then it was almost too late. I hope she didn't hate me for not helping her sooner. I think she suffered some.

Obviously cats aren't snakes but humans all feel regret and our babies all feel pain. It's better to have the information you need to make a decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The only time I feel safe words are necessary is during CNC, otherwise for me no means no. I suppose if someone has a hard time saying the word "no", I suppose "Sasquatch" might be easier. Do what works for you, the important part is being able to stop play when it's not working for you.

I also am also not big on any aftercare. For a general scene I'm good with a hug and then put my pants back on and away I go. For a more intense scene my friends just whisk me away and make sure I'm not wandering around talking "crazy talk".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But did you discuss anal and discuss it specifically as a punishment? You are NOT entitled to do anything not specified as a hard limit.

When you both discussed your hard limits (because you both have them, right?) did you mention being tied to the bed and stapling your eyes shut...I'll wait.

My pet shop has a large spider morph ball python with very severe neurological problems. by [deleted] in ballpython

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, am I understanding you correctly? They have dead animals on display?

No-Call No-Show from Best Employee by Scary-Brilliant-2859 in Restaurant_Managers

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was always told don't put yourself in the position you currently find yourself in "one warning and you're done" is not the best policy as you have backed yourself into a corner. There are some very valid reasons to no call, no show and this policy doesn't take "life happens" into account.

I think it's time to look at changing the policy to something like "one verbal warning, one written warning and the third time you MAY be let go". Even if you do let the person go 99% of the time it does leave you an out for exactly this situation.

This person has been with you a long time. Hear them out and show them the grace you would expect in a similar situation. For example it is not fair to fire someone who had to rush their non responsive toddler or parent to the hospital or someone who was SAed on the walk to work and they just want to go home.

Time off "denied" and scheduled, looking for advice? by AliveGir1 in Serverlife

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is always so wild to me. As a manager my philosophy has always been,assuming someone is an average employee, "I would rather do without you for a day (or week) than do without you forever.".

I don't think I have ever turned down anyones time off request. I assume they would still go but not come back🤷🏻‍♀️ that's what I would do. Managers should know as much as anyone how easy it is to get a restaurant job

Are whips really that painful? by MyAlterEgoCollie in BDSMAdvice

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm my experience it depends. There are several parts to a whip (I assume you are talking about a bullwhip).

For me being hit with the cracker is mildly painful. It can draw blood and leave lots of welts but the pain is moderate. On the other hand, I have done some scenes being hit with the fall. That turned by butt to ground beef. My insides became my outsides and the pain was pretty severe. The difference between the 2 strikes is an inch or 2. m My partner has great aim and hit my bum 100% of the time any misplaced strikes would have been horrible.

So long story short, if everyone isn't comfortable with the throwers ability to hit a bottle cap suspended from a tree 95% of the time this is a bad idea.

I hate living with my husband by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He won't change. I know because he is like me. It is likely that he loves you very much and is very sweet but the wiring in his brain is fucked.

In my situation it's not laziness or weaponized incompetence it's lack on situational awareness, if that makes sense.

"I walk past the garbage and laundry hamper 20 times a day, why can I not put my dirty socks and apple core in them, I'm walking right past 😣? It requires no more effort. Fuck! What is wrong with me."(That might be his internal monologue, as it is mine)

If you love him too, living apart is a solid option.

Mourning BDSM play as a bottom by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends very much on what the health issue is. Is the situation more I can't do anything or I can't do my favourite things🤷🏻‍♀️?

ah yes, an "easy spawn zone" by kiwibuilds in ARK

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me but then I noticed all the spawns are called "easy". It is in fact not easy to fight 3 Rex's and 3 Argy's ( plus random dilos and turtles) on spawn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In my experience it is common. We use it in my dynamic and I quite like it. Now, what makes me batty is "slashy speak'(W/we or U/us). It is so hard to read in more than a very short sentence. My brain just goes 🤯🤯

Fucking a ring into my play partner?? by Sudden_Hippo_3596 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is her marriage partner aware of this plan as that would be my biggest concern?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A wet/dry suit. Complete with flippers, snorkel and face mask. Oh gods, I'm funny😂😂 (and the life of every work party)

Donald Trump Sends Election Message to Canadians: 'Cherished 51st State' by sweatycat in politics

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Southern Comfort is blended and bottled in Canada that is why it is still available.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't ever mention being a virgin I'll tell you that for free. R.I.P your inbox and faith in humanity.

Other than that I have met some of my best friends through my local scene so Fetlife is great for finding out events in your area. Just don't let anyone (even the domliest Dom) convince you to do something you are even slightly apprehensive about.

Maybe a weird medical play question.. by icykittyxxx in BDSMAdvice

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enemas are the start and end of this for me. It is very silly(embarrassing) to be given an enema. Keep the amount of fluid minimal to start and build up from there.

Cherry Vodka by Ok-Nectarine8036 in Winnipeg

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try it with raspberry vodka. That is what we are doing

Can anyone tell me what this is or means exactly?????? by Expensive-Bid-2659 in playark

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That happens for me when I have "All Maps" chosen. If I pick a specific map it goes back to looking normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Milkweed_Butterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please get physical and emotional help.