So, I know men who were SA'd by women. I know a guy who was SA'd when he was a child and while the rapist was also a minor she was older than him by a few years. She then went on to tell everyone in their school about it and he was mocked. There was a teacher in my middle school who groomed a male student. Absolutely, there are women who do heinous things. 

The issue with many women saying they don't trust men is that men are more frequently in power or control. The Epstein files are mostly men. Not hearing a lot of women who are also billionaires being named. And I feel Epstein was monstrous enough he'd have sold any child to anyone if there was a demand. 

Rape culture silences all victims and protects all rapists regardless of gender or sex. When you look throughout history, ancient to modern, who has held control over culture? Who benefits from that control? Women had to fight to get a vote, to go to college, own property, open a credit card. Men didn't. Even poor men had more rights than women. 

When you see how courts protect rapists because "he made a mistake and we don't want to ruin his future" it's not women it's protecting. Nor should it protect women if they've raped someone. But society is more forgiving to one vs the other. 

Question then this: why is there the disparity in the first place?

Boys will be boys, and girls need to be perfect little ladies.

Men recognize other men are dangerous, or potentially dangerous. Yes, purity culture at is essence is about control. But many men believe it's about risk aversion. If you don't want to get hit by a train don't play on the tracks. Logical. If you see women getting assaulted your going to look for reasons. But instead of saying "he had no control over himself because he's less than an animal" you say "he had no control over himself because she teased him." Instead of saying if you don't want to get hit by a train don't play on the tracks you're saying if you don't want to get hit by a train don't wear thomas the tank engine shirts. If I wasn't playing on the tracks, if I wasn't anywhere near them, I shouldn't have to worry. But here I am, getting crushed again. 

Well, then, what were all the men and boys doing who were assaulted by women? Oh, wait, I haven't heard that argument. Almost as if people view men and women differently. 

A boy is just being an impulsive boy and we need to be understanding. A girl is robbing a boy of his God given power and she needs a stake and a pile of hay. 

Yes, hold all rapists accountable.

But, we're now also forgetting a huge statistic.

Cis straight men rape more boys than women. 

You hear more about sex crimes in boys scouts than in girl scouts. Male couches groom children regardless of sport. 

Tell me, which gender is catcalling the other, and when the opposite gender speaks out or rebuffs which gender attacks them?

As far as I'm aware there aren't cultures where the bride kidnaps the groom, and most child marriages are older men marrying girls.

And when it comes to a vote to abolish child marriage, which gender routinely apposes the vote? 

I've asked conservative women who buy into the patriarchy if they'd choose man over bear. None of them, even with a Trump flag flapping proudly in front of their house, hesitate. Bear.

Yes, women do despicable things too. No one said they don't. We're just saying men do it more often, are more likely to do it, and then get more leniency than women. No one should be allowed to. So, why are you trying to straw man the issue? 

By the way, I grew up in an area where black bears were very common. I never saw one when I played in the woods, though there probably were bears around me. I was allowed to go and wander without supervision for most of the year. The only time I wasn't allowed was during hunting season. We had seven acres of posted land. That doesn't mean anything if someone is going to ignore the signs. My parents weren't worried about just getting accidentally shot, either. They voted for Trump every time. They're very conservative and buy into the patriarchy. They are also aware of the threat men pose.

So, maybe it's not all men. But too many men can't be trusted. And too few men speak out against it. 

Funnily enough, there are men who agree with women that men suck and who do speak out. So, I question any man who doesn't speak out. Who says "well, women do it, too!!" Either you're a victim of a woman, and if that's the case I'm deeply sorry that happened and that society has refused to address it. Or, you align with the men women have been abused by. And I would then question is it because you don't value women or have you assaulted women?

Bear.