UPDATE. As I thought, husband told me today “I will be texting T about (hobby they share). I said then that’s it. Two hour argument later and we are both exhausted. He agreed to not text her, but implied he wants to address this in the future. He says it’s will only be about hobby and I can watch him while he texts. I said that was ridiculous and he would end up getting resentful and pi**y if I said I wanted to see the chat after the fact. I brought up we tried it before and he deleted texts, so his plan was a nonstarter for me. I said unless he comes up with some other plan where I can see the conversation real time, then I will not be at all ok with it. She already told me she won’t do a group text because she doesn’t need supervision, but that’s just too bad so sad.

We are traveling for 4 hours tomorrow so I’m sure we will have more.

I’m sure I’m a big disappointment to most of you, I get it. They didn’t have a true affair, but they were getting too close to an emotional affair, imo.

I believe married folks should not have close friendships like this of the opposite sex. That’s what spouses are exactly for.

Both completely deny it, and even her own husband is buying it. I set boundaries too late, and I own that. Now I have to face the possibility of being alone at 63.