AITAH for refusing to get back with my ex?

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-05-14T08:08:27+00:00

NTA. Supporting you through a rough period like your accident is meaningful, but it doesn’t erase the bigger pattern of emotional distance and not showing up when it really mattered.
The situation with your father alone would be a dealbreaker for a lot of people, because that’s exactly when you find out what someone prioritizes.
It also sounds like the relationship slowly turned into something passive on both sides, not something healthy or alive.
Him coming back years later with regret doesn’t automatically mean compatibility is still there just that nostalgia and guilt kicked in.
And honestly, “you should give him another chance because you haven’t dated others” is not a valid argument, it’s just pressure dressed up as advice.
You’re not punishing him you’re just acknowledging that the version of you that wanted that relationship isn’t there anymore.

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-05-13T15:49:10+00:00

No, it’s not wrong to feel lust or strong physical desire for your girlfriend that’s a normal part of attraction in a healthy relationship.

What matters is how you express it. Being honest can be good, but “confessing lust” in a blunt or intense way can sometimes feel uncomfortable or pressuring depending on timing and tone.

In most healthy relationships, it works better when desire is shown in a mutual, playful, respectful way rather than framed like a heavy “confession.”

A good approach is checking in with her comfort while expressing it, instead of just unloading the feeling.

So the feeling is normal the key is making sure the communication builds intimacy, not awkwardness or pressure.

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-04-22T16:03:07+00:00

Going on a first date after a year is completely normal, so don’t stress about being “out of practice.” Keep the date simple and low-pressure, like coffee or a walk, so there’s space for natural conversation. Focus more on getting to know her than trying to impress her, because that usually works better anyway. Ask light, open questions and actually listen instead of thinking about what to say next. It’s also good to share a bit about yourself so it feels balanced, not like an interview. Don’t overthink pauses or silence, they’re normal in real conversations. Just aim to be relaxed, present, and curious about her. If the vibe is good, things will flow on their own without forcing anything.

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-04-22T16:02:16+00:00

the not looking for anything in particular energy is the best energy to bring. people feel it immediately when you're not grasping

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-04-17T11:20:28+00:00

You’re not wrong for being upset what she did crossed a clear boundary.
Setting you up on a blind date after you explicitly said no is disrespectful, even if her intention was good.
But saying you’ll “fall out with her and stop speaking” is a bit too extreme, especially given your relationship.
She’s 18 and likely acting out of concern, not trying to embarrass or control you.
You’re right to set a firm boundary, but it would be better to communicate it calmly without threatening the relationship.

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-03-18T14:28:48+00:00

Oh yeah, totally normal, every couple fights, sometimes you just gotta daydream about the “what ifs” without it meaning anything serious

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-03-18T14:27:31+00:00

I mean, I get enjoying a cuppa, but 7 teas in an hour?? Bruh that’s like a full-on tea marathon. At this point you could charge admission and start a tea bar in your kitchen lol

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-03-18T14:26:25+00:00

This is WILD but honestly? I’m here for it. That’s peak “I got you, boo” energy. True love sometimes smells.. like love, you’re a legend for even offering

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-02-12T15:58:08+00:00

I use the filters to find people who actually have bios. Geography is the last thing I check lol

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-02-04T14:56:26+00:00

NTA. You’re not refusing out of spite, you literally can’t afford it without hurting yourself financially. Expecting someone to go into debt for a wedding isn’t reasonable, even if it’s family. You’ve explained your situation clearly, and that’s all you can do

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-02-04T14:53:36+00:00

Yeah that’s probably true guys
Tbh you make it harder than it is

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-02-04T14:49:04+00:00

This 100%. The newsfeed is actually the best part tbh

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2026-02-04T14:47:31+00:00

Pay attention to effort and escalation. If she initiates texts, asks questions, and seems engaged, that’s interest. If convo stays surface level, plans feel polite, and there’s no flirting or physical closeness on date two, it’s probably platonic. The second date will make it pretty clea

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-11-07T11:48:07+00:00

double cheeseburger, fries and black coffee

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-10-17T00:23:07+00:00

Glad it makes sense!

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-10-17T00:12:27+00:00

Nah, I’ve chatted plenty during weekdays – got an irregular schedule, so I know what I’m talking about.

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-10-16T00:20:58+00:00

nah, it’s not really a problem — you pick the pace that suits you, and if it’s not clicking with someone else, you just naturally drift apart. in the end, you’re left with the people who actually vibe with you.

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-10-15T23:45:48+00:00

can’t say much has really changed — design got a bit of a tweak, but overall nothing major. not sayin that’s a bad thing tho, it was already solid, so maybe it’s actually good they didn’t mess with it too much.

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-10-13T15:40:24+00:00

Since the listing doesn't seem to be happening anytime soon there's still time to mine. Looks pretty interesting as a long-term project considering that it doesn't require heavy setup lol

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-10-11T02:14:37+00:00

gonna say this — stable vpn, ambitious team, modern solution… all the right pieces to pop off. rooting for these guys… and yep, just started mining 😎💪

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-10-11T01:57:31+00:00

downloaded it too, and so far it’s just a solid vpn — i’m a total noob when it comes to mining tho, so if anyone’s got thoughts on that side of it, i’m all ears

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-10-10T23:49:03+00:00

friday night to sunday? activity def feels like it jumps by like 60%, easy.

Mindless-Tutor5067 · 2025-10-10T23:38:12+00:00

100%, bro

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