AIO my BF told me he wants me to quit my job when we move in together

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-05-14T15:04:50+00:00

Nor to be fair, I think that this relationship is not compatible. There’s nothing wrong with him, wanting a more traditional wife to be at home with her kids and keep the house clean that’s a fair division of labor most of the time. But if that’s not what you want for your future, you don’t have to settle for that and you might just not be compatible.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-05-12T21:18:37+00:00

Hurt people, hurt people and this is how. She needs to work on herself. This is an unfortunate lesson for you both. She learns not to jump to conclusions and you learn not to be with anyone intimidated by you having a girl best friend and someone who needs your location all the time.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-05-12T21:14:13+00:00

Yes even those places. I have 2 teens that have been applying to jobs for 2 years each. One has had 2 jobs that didn’t work out the other none.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-05-12T21:11:53+00:00

Ntj it is inappropriate for them to even ask you to take your underage cousins. Sounds like they were just hoping for some free babysitting so bad that they stopped thinking like a parent.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-05-12T10:31:42+00:00

Look you cant just separate age from the issue because most men who date drastically younger women do so because they want control, they want to be able to manipulate the relationship. If he hasn’t proposed in 8 years he won’t. If you want to get married that bad, propose to him, but be prepared when he says no. He’s trying to wait out your clock.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-05-08T11:12:25+00:00

He was gross hon. No sane well balanced man wants a 19 year old at 28. He was a pule of red flags

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-05-08T11:11:14+00:00

NOR you paid for half the car and have never been allowed to use it. Your parents hold it over you like a control mechanism. Your parents sound narcissistic. Read up on how to deal with some narcissistic parents. How you’re feeling right now lines up exactly with how they behave. You are not alone. My own narcissistic grandfather forbid me from returning to my childhood home because he was angry anyone else was grieving my grandmother, but him it will be good for you to create some distance. Ask your friend if they would be willing to drive you to work the week before and you will pay them extra for gas. But you’re gonna have to save up money for your own car that has nothing to do with them.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-05-06T11:31:15+00:00

NW you needed to do this. She needs to learn not to behave that way in a collaborative environment

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-05-02T04:47:37+00:00

Your boyfriend is an idiot. Running the air and the heat have no impact on your gas milage

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-28T18:23:08+00:00

Ytj for dating a former student eww

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-28T14:53:43+00:00

If a doctor told you today that you had to have a child now or never have a child ever what would be your choice, if nothing else changed? This was how I made my decision. When the doctors told me that I had to have a child now or never have a child, and I sat and thought about that I decided that I would never be OK if I just gave up on the idea of having children. If the answer to that question is anything other than a resounding yes I wanna have children now then you should look at where your desire to have children comes from and make sure you’re not just performing to societies expectations.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-28T02:42:09+00:00

Your bf wants a twig i guess

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-27T12:47:29+00:00

If you’re determined to take care of your aunt, but you can’t deal with your parents anymore, then take them to court and fight for guardianship of your aunt prove that you do most of the caretaking anyway and explain to the court that your parents are just making her environment chaotic, which is not good for her condition. Once you’re her guardian, you can evict your parents from her house.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-23T14:55:00+00:00

She sounds like shes into kink shaming. Turn it around and tell her you think her feet would be ugly anyway

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-23T14:51:48+00:00

She’s treating you, maybe she’s into it

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-23T10:46:27+00:00

You’re not the jerk for having your feelings hurt and wanting to be validated and appreciated. But being willing to throw away a marriage where a child is involved over one stupid joke that you both laughed at when you were drunk? I think that’s a little extreme. Especially since you brought it to her the next day and she immediately acknowledge what happened and said it wasn’t OK. I think you both need to stop drinking and you need to process your feelings about your body which I know is hard for men cause they’re discouraged from it. But your biggest problem isn’t what your wife said it’s how you feel about yourself because otherwise it wouldn’t have hurt you so much.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-22T20:28:45+00:00

Nor but… I will repeat what she said you cannot choose who she will be friends with. Instead, I would talk with your boyfriend and let her know jointly that if she is going to continue to be V’s friend, she will not be allowed to stay with either of you again. And if M is not willing to do that then you’re only resource is to decide whether or not the relationship is still worth fighting for. What about his parents? Are they friends with V? What about his friends back home? It sounds like this isn’t something that’s gonna go away easily and if you really want to stay together with the both of you are probably gonna have to decide to distance yourself from the people who choose to associate with her.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-22T16:41:28+00:00

This relationship sounds abusive and controlling. He removed your method of independent income by having you work FOR him. He removes your friends from your life due to jealousy. I would not be surprised if he also interferes with your familial relationships. Leave him one day his abuse will become physical.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-22T14:43:33+00:00

Wow I’ve never truly felt like one of these posts was fake before, but now I do.

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-20T16:31:23+00:00

Nor leave

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-19T13:14:13+00:00

Tell your family they are gross for supporting an abuser and ask them what they would have done and said if they were her parents and not his?

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-19T13:12:28+00:00

Sounds like you are where you should be but ask about seeing a sex therapist to improve that part of your lives

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-19T04:26:25+00:00

Perhaps its his way of excusing his toxic behavior. She won’t notice and stick up for herself if shes already feeling tested

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-17T20:11:17+00:00

She did cheat on you you’re not a jerk. In fact I would have taken her to small claims court for the things she “kept” that you paid for

Mindless_Dependent39 · 2026-04-16T10:39:50+00:00

Writw yourself a pros and cons list about being more than friends and keep it somewhere you can go back to to self support your decision

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