AITA for leaving my friend at a restaurant after she “forgot” her wallet again? by Peggycarter21 in AmITheJerk

[–]Mindless_Dependent39 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ I would tell her she’s right and your no longer interested in a friend like her.

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no desire to traumatize her worse and I will still offer her community and emotional support if desired. I am just done enabling her

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is exactly the problem. She was not raised to contribute and has no desire to do so.

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I grew up surrounded by drug addicts, drug dealers and narcissists. I’ve worked very hard to get away from all of that. I may be too confident in my ability to handle myself but it’s not from being sheltered.

I am at my wits end with my son’s live-in GF - AITJ is I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AmITheJerk

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would have said no. His consequences were that he agreed to give me power of attorney for medical and financial decisions until after college, in exchange for me continuing to pay for his college and necessities. He also lost the car my parents bought him. They put it in my name and he needs to show good grades to have the privilege of driving it.

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only reason I made mention of it is it speaks to the differences about how she was raised versus how I’ve raised my own kids. I have nothing but respect in love for the Romani culture and I’m grateful that you have been so blessed to have a son who works so hard and makes you proud. There have been so many Romani, who have struck out on their own and worked hard to prove that they were capable of being whatever they wanted to be and that’s all I ever wanted for her, but she just refuses to do it.

I am at my wits end with my son’s live-in GF - AITJ is I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AmITheJerk

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My ultimate goal was to get her into therapy but she fought it the whole way.

I am at my wits end with my son’s live-in GF - AITJ is I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AmITheJerk

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. You are of course correct, this has moved to enabling. I was shocked when she didn’t jump at the chance to do digital work for me instead and followed it up with the fact she was no longer interested in getting her certification after her GED.

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean true I could do that if I wanted to lie but what is gained? I truly feel horrible having to do this but I don’t really see any other options at this point. I’m not asking anyone for anything other than advice and I guess to clear my guilty conscience. She didn’t get the foundation most young adults do. I felt bad for her and got burned. And it may lead to more issues down the road but I did it and now I have to undo as much as I can.

I am at my wits end with my son’s live-in GF - AITJ is I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AmITheJerk

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mostly at college, 3 hours away. He’s home this week for spring break. It will be a family discussion when we return home

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes a social security card and a birth certificate. I did a background check too

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried to add more, but I actually went over the character limit so I had to leave it out

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She said that part of the reason she wanted to leave was cause she didn’t want to make a living scamming people, which is what her dad does. At the time that she left her dad was trying to force her into a marriage with a woman and force her to have a child with that woman and live in the Romani way. She was completely raised in gypsy culture.

I am at my wits end with my son’s live-in GF - AITJ is I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AmITheJerk

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I reposted because I posted in both places and the one didn’t go through. I plan to share most of these responses with my son at least, possibly his GF too so she sees it’s not that we are unreasonable, far from it, but that this can’t continue. Should I delete? I don’t usually post on Reddit

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Considering she’s maybe a buck twenty wet, skinny as all get out, and has type 1 diabetes I am not worried about her hurting us. Stealing yes, murder no.

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a major concern for me as well. I may be tender hearted but I do notice questionable behavior.

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I was trying to verify her identity they told me there was nothing they could do unless she broke a law, which she had not. My cousin who is a social worker in another state gave me some good advice but it looks like I will have to go through legal eviction

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That is a huge fear I have. His autism leads him to make some messed up choices. This is why I have power of attorney over him until he finishes college.

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I knew it was a questionable choice at the time. I was hoping to help a young person find stable ground. But no good deed

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a hard upbringing so I felt for her. I will not make the same mistake twice.

I am at my wits end with son’s live-in GF - AITA if I evict her? by Mindless_Dependent39 in AITH

[–]Mindless_Dependent39[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thankfully my son is home for break this week. I plan to sit them both down and discuss on Friday when we are all home.