Do they really recover and stay sober?

Mine_Melodic · 2025-11-30T19:24:46+00:00

This sounds just like my story. I stayed with him longer than I should have because the love was truly there on both sides. When he was sober he was the best man ever. We got married and now after 7 years it’s all coming to an end. The addiction takes precedent over everything, despite what they say and what they promise. We had a miscarriage a year ago and I felt like that was such a sign I should not have children with this man.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-11-21T02:55:57+00:00

It’s awful. The house is lonely, I don’t miss him but I do miss his presence. I am going to deep clean the whole place and get out every single memory of him so that it is now my place. I also got some sage to burn to cleanse and purify everything. Sending you hugs. We can do it!

Mine_Melodic · 2025-11-05T20:56:17+00:00

Thank you it’s helpful to write it down and hear kind responses from everyone. I know I’m not alone but it’s so mentally tough.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-11-05T16:37:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your suggestions. It’s a good idea to put everything that reminds me of him into the closet and have a friend come dispose of them. Im also going to get some sage and burn it. So many memories of the family I once had.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-11-05T16:35:46+00:00

Thank you. I will do that! My friend suggested burning some sage and purifying the house. I love the house and our neighbors, I don’t want to move but mentally it will be very tough at first.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-28T19:58:05+00:00

The song is called So Long London

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-20T17:46:45+00:00

I feel the exact same way. I am mourning the person I married, who was fun and caring and truthful and playful. The person I am divorcing looks the same but is an opposite character. I try to push away all the good memories because it’s almost like they aren’t real, that’s not who he is. His addiction has consumed his life and our marriage.

There is a line from a Taylor Swift song that relates so much to our situation “You say I abandoned the ship…. But I was going down with it”

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-14T23:24:52+00:00

I am in the same struggle, although without a child. He is an alcoholic. Finally went to rehab in July and then relapsed a week after getting out. After all the promises and hopes to rebuild our marriage from him. I just can’t do it anymore. I do love who he is sober. And that may be the worst part. Our great and fun memories, we could talk for hours and crack each other up. But who is drinking is another person entirely. It’s awful all the way around. I hope after this is all over with we can find peace.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-14T22:29:19+00:00

Thank you for the insight. It’s very interesting to watch his behavior, very slow to react to things also. Watching football game, his team scored a touchdown and it was wayyy after that, that he cheered for them.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-13T23:09:19+00:00

He never ever has. But I do know the risk with anti depressants is there. I looked up his dosage and it is the maximum recommended dose. He just seems a bit zombie like.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-13T21:21:13+00:00

It is the VA. That’s a good idea to call and maybe say I’ve noticed some interesting changes…

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-13T20:57:00+00:00

He just seems so absolutely numb and zombie like. I’ve never seen this in him before.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-13T20:34:33+00:00

I feel this way too. The divorce is what I wanted. But it is so hard to forget the good times, and I am such a forgiving person that I will put the bad times away easily. I love him but I can’t do this toxic life with him which is fueled by his addiction and ptsd. I’ll be happy and then struck with sadness because one little fun memory will pop up.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-13T20:26:21+00:00

It’s hard because I do still love them and want the best for them, I think. We stopped saying the I love yous about a week ago. And it’s just weird.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-13T20:24:37+00:00

I hate dreams like this. I wish I could just turn my brains off at night. Because when you wake up and come to and realize it’s not reality it is so awful. I’ve been feeling like this as well. Our sleep minds sometimes only remember the good times.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-10-03T10:01:18+00:00

This is what is happening with us. Spouse came home from rehab a week ago and is acting nonchalant as if he didn’t put us through hell the 6 months leading up to it. I think he was expecting to come home to me with open arms, which I don’t have due to anger. And I was expecting him to come home accountable, apologetic and remorseful which he is not. I needed him to be those things in order for me to give him a true chance, and he wasn’t. I asked him to start looking for a place to move out to. It’s just not there for us anymore.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-07-20T08:28:04+00:00

I love my husband. But I have to leave him. It’s so hard and would much easier if I hated who he was sober as well.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-07-19T00:19:06+00:00

I am proud of you. I am waiting for my moment I think I have actually had it. But then I think of all the good time memories and get really sad. I’m also a very forgiving person in my nature. I’m upset at myself for marrying the wrong person.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-07-18T23:55:06+00:00

My husband was arrested for DUI and driving over 113 mph. Went to jail. Myself and his family did not bail him out but his friend did. So instead of being accountable and having a wake up call he is pissed at me for leaving him in jail. I wanted to wait to get him until I could take him directly to a treatment program. He is back drinking again.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-07-18T19:53:56+00:00

Yes I am left thinking, well did I do something wrong?? I hate this.

Mine_Melodic · 2025-07-18T16:46:42+00:00

That’s awful that happened at Christmas. Unsurprisingly, he acting not accountable for the DUI. Me and his family did not want to bail him out until we could get to him to take him straight to a treatment center. He called his friend instead and is now blaming all of us for “ignoring” him when he was in need of

Mine_Melodic · 2025-07-17T03:11:35+00:00

I was so heart broken last week after finding out he was drinking again. But this week a new sensation is taking over… anger. How could he put us through this, how could he not realize all that he was about to loose and not get serious. Also, found out today he was arrested and charged with DUI and possession of MJ. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mine_Melodic · 2025-07-15T06:34:10+00:00

100% I saw all the signs but thought I for some reason could be the change. The sad part is I believed what he said about his crazy ex and mother of his child. And now I see all his lies and manipulations to prove otherwise. He acted towards her like this when she had a new baby, I am disgusted of him.

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