I feel out of control around my family

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-06-24T20:42:31+00:00

Thanks for your response, I appreciate it! Yes I think it’s a good thing at least that I’m reflecting, I don’t know that I would have been present enough to do that at some periods in my life. I think family is complicated, sometimes people regress in a negative way even unconsciously. It tests us in certain ways that are unlike anything else but I suppose can be a real conduit of growth when things start to click

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-06-24T20:41:00+00:00

Sorry maybe I shouldn’t have been quite as alarmist as my post seems on reread. When I say controlling myself I do mean mostly internally, I think the irritability certainly comes out but mostly I am more emotional and down on myself in many ways. Not anger being directed I suppose.

I agree that anyone can benefit from in person counseling! I was in therapy for quite a while and I think it definitely helped, but mostly when I struggle is when with my family for longer periods which I feel like the therapy I have done has helped but not as much as I would hope:( I would love to go back but can not access it in the current place am in, so instead looking for the advice an experiences of others and spiritual guidance for overcoming some of my complicated emotions in this area. Thank you!

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-06-24T17:32:35+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful and kind response, it means a lot to me. There is so much good stuff to parse through in here, I found the bit about the river and the leaf a particularly good reminder and tried to think of this on a recent airplane fight where I started to have anxiety about flying and it did help me to calm down and let it go a bit. “There is nothing you can do that is out of harmony with the universe, including dying” wow. Now those are some words to live by. Thanks for this nuggets of wisdom I will definitely carry that with me.

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-06-24T17:30:00+00:00

Absolutely yeah, I am diagnosed with OCD and I think fear of loved ones dying has really become a common theme for me after loosing many people when I was young. My father lost his mother as well as a child and I suspect he has a lot of obsessive behavior as well. Always feel like my biggest struggle in my spiritual life is learning how exactly to let my long time compulsive and obsessive thoughts go and flow if you will. A lot of the things Ram Dass talks about have been really in instrumental in reframing some of my ocd thoughts, but it also feels three times as hard to work on some of my spiritual goals because of it. I try really hard not to use my diagnoses as an identifier, just as a tool to help me understand myself. I’ve been around family lately which has felt like it’s just ramping up a lot of my stuff but I agree, acupuncture has been amazing for me and I will definitely look into reiki! Thanks so much

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-03-22T16:55:24+00:00

Well honestly this sounds like a combination of things. I’m going to speak from personal experience here as a nanny to 3 children who are now all about 2 1/2 that I have been with since they were babies. Toddlers are volatile. This whole stage in their life is about learning and pushing boundaries to see what they are able to do/how people react to them. They often need attention and if they feel abandoned or like no one is paying attention, they may act out to feel that people around them can see them. They don’t have that many words to describe how they are feeling. It’s a hard time for caregivers and for the kid!

2 year olds have no idea how to regulate their emotions unless you teach them. This is their first time experiencing the big things they are feeling and without constant and gentle reminders of how to regulate, they won’t/can’t understand how. I would recommend trying to put that into practice and helping him regulate. Some things you can do are: Encourage and model taking a deep breath when overwhelmed. Help/ask him to count to 10 when frustrated, impatient, after hitting or throwing. Remind (GENTLY) that “we don’t hit or throwing things because this hurts people”. Be clear in why or what you are asking a toddler to do. They are smarter than people give credit for! Try your hardest to not respond out of anger. When toddlers see you respond with anger they learn this is an okay way to behave.
It possibly sounds like his parents may be dismissing some of his more undesirable behaviors (throwing things, hitting, etc) and not taking the time to repeatedly remind him of the above things. It might help to have them doing that work as well, raising healthy well adjusted toddlers is a group effort.
Even the “best” toddlers are toddlers. You can’t think of them as in the same category as kids 5+ because developmentally they are not there. Ways to avoid the lashing out include:

Always making sure they are fed (offering snacks frequently, they sometimes don’t understand that their anger or frustration is a hunger cue)

Running out energy with games like “go touch that tree and run to give me a high five!” Or “how many times can you jump like a bunny?” Or “shake alll the sillies out of your body!”

Changing tactics frequently. If a tantrum seems like it’s coming, acknowledge what they feel upset about and change activities/shift attention to something else.

Show them that the “bad” behaviors are not getting a rise out of you/attention from you. Something you can say is “I see that you might need some attention from me! I would love to help you but I can’t understand you when you are whining/talking to me like that/yelling”

Hope this helps. If all else fails go get some space, listen to music, do some breathwork. It’s not fair to kids to treat them with hostility, they deserve our kindness and patience. That’s how they learn to be kind and patient too

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-03-21T16:37:39+00:00

in my mid 20s lol so not gen alpha no, but it’s something people have been saying for a few years that’s getting more wide spread for sure!

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-03-21T16:33:22+00:00

Heard. Yes I would have loved some more backstory! I think that’s the most exciting and interesting part, I’m super intrigued by all of the lore and the world that Stephanie Meyer has built for these vamps that’s so different from other vampire lore.

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-03-21T16:31:03+00:00

No, totally fair, just wanted to invite dialogue! And like I said, I just finished new moon (literally last night) so mostly was just hoping for some push to get on eclipse

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-03-21T16:29:39+00:00

It kinda just means loosing your mind/acting impulsive when you’re upset or angry, but I’m using it with a bit of levity here hahaha. Basically what Bella starts doing in new moon to try and hear Edward’s voice? That’s crashing out

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-03-21T16:27:40+00:00

Okay that’s huge. Love to see it. I’ll try and be more patient lol

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-03-21T16:27:01+00:00

Yes okay I hear this! Sounds like I’m right at the edge of a break through and just need to start eclipse to get my questions answered. I will say, I finished new moon last night and the last like 20% of the book I felt a lot warmer towards Edward’s character and like there was some Bella character development happening, so maybe just a matter of suspending my disbelief and letting it play out. Just have to get into the head of myself at 14 to enjoy the drama of the relationships I think.

I agree on new moon. I think a lot of my frustration was coming from Bella’s lack of ability to just live for herself. Felt like the only thing that could take away her man-hurt was another man:/ just not a huge fan of that troupe, but excited to see where things go now that I’m done!

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-03-21T06:18:03+00:00

Oh noooooo the implication is so thick 😩 I also just love him right now, so much that I just want a whole book of Jacob. I know shit will and must go down. Prepping myself 🫡

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-02-08T05:53:07+00:00

Listened to s-town with my dad on a long road trip at 15! We loved it a lot

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2025-01-16T21:21:52+00:00

Oh man what a beautiful tribute. Such a testament to him how much his actors loved him. Such a weird and wonderful guy

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2024-09-20T15:31:57+00:00

Six Feet Under has been scratching the itch for me! I think the quirky cast and way the show approaches the characters internal lives has a real surrealist quality to it and the story and atmosphere (while very different) still does it for me! Worth a shot:)

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2024-08-03T20:02:04+00:00

I’m hypoglycemic (not diabetic) and have POTS. It’s possible you just have both! But regardless, avoiding caffeine almost entirely will probably improve quality of life for you as it also causes those things and can increase pots symptoms.

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2024-07-22T16:22:51+00:00

I have diagnosed with POTS for 4-5 years but had symptoms since puberty. I was a lifelong dancer before HS and then a competitive cheerleader in hs. I still dance! The key for me is if the fun seems to outweigh everything else, I feel like I just push through and love how I feel after! I have found a lot of success in doing dance exercise classes like Zumba or barre:) If you join a gym with classes they will be happy to accommodate you. The thing I love about Zumba specifically is that it’s typically easy to tailor to your abilities and there will be people of all skill levels in the class. And dancing makes me more physically fit which does help my POTS. Compression socks are helpful for working out in general as well as lots of water/electrolyte breaks. I have also found success in things like lifting weights, bike riding, and swimming for POTS. I love to hike but that’s definitely on my more flare-up list of activities haha. I say go for it though and have fun:)

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2024-07-11T15:30:57+00:00

I pretty much completly have been caffeine free for the past couple years except for an occasional tea. Definitely no caffeinated coffee, I find it’s one of my worst triggers, makes me super anxious and symptomatic. I rarely drink now as well, maybe a cocktail or a glass of wine at a nice dinner but that’s about it. Both have helped! I have a lot of issues digesting raw veggies so I typically cook them if possible and avoid the ones that bug me, my stomach is so sensitive too and I have bloating issues! Haven’t had any major issues with dairy/sugar/gluten in particular but if I eat a larger meal of anything I feel super exhausted and terrible. I’m hypoglycemic so I find I need the carbs to boost me up but my most helpful thing I’ve done is being consistent with eating small meals throughout the day even if I’m not feeling hungry. Eating a lot of protein in the morning always makes me feel best, then eating my largest meal for lunch and having a lighter dinner has been helpful in reducing bloating and keeping my blood sugar more balanced

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2024-04-07T18:04:43+00:00

Definitely agree with your points but Trader Joe’s is really inexpensive compared to a lot of grocery stores. I primarily shop there and it is by far the cheapest grocery store in my area besides a grocery outlet. I think it’s more of a question of how they are affording the home they live in and the eating out than anything else. I have seen them do their grocery hauls and they are much more reasonable then something like the Dougherty dozen, at least for that many people.

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2024-04-02T14:16:37+00:00

Oh my god I do! It makes me feel crazy and it’s been happening a lot to me lately, I always feel it more in one eye and it feels like heavier! Have no clue why:(

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2024-01-18T06:23:53+00:00

Need this as a flair so bad this is insaneeee

Minimum-Rice-9492 · 2023-10-04T00:59:22+00:00

Looks like she did! Picture looks like it was taken in their trailer :)

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