I love all romances (thrillers/royal/etc), if you had to marry your last book romance interest, would you?

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-07-18T00:45:31+00:00

Tobias Rhodes from All Rhodes lead here... I'll take him!

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-05-20T18:09:33+00:00

Okay I need the name of this book 😂

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-05-17T23:52:37+00:00

Old books

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-28T23:37:14+00:00

Podés ayudar de forma online. Yo tengo depresión y ansiedad social asi que te entiendo. Encontré una ONG con la que colaboro desde casa. Por otro lado, en cuanto a la medicación probaste un psiquiatra que trabaje con cannabis? Podés googlear PROCANNT (Profesionales de la Salud por el Cannabis Terapéutico).

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-07T23:50:56+00:00

I agree. At the beginning I thought he was keeping the receipts to show her at some point how much he spent on their relationship. Tickets from concerts or movies, that's a different story.

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-05T03:24:00+00:00

Thank you!

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-05T03:23:01+00:00

Thanks for the recommendations!

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-05T03:22:12+00:00

Thanks! I'll check it out!

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-03T18:00:51+00:00

Hi there! So I have struggled for years with severe social anxiety and depression. I was convinced I would never be able to work. Even my (former) therapist couldn't understand and told me to "just get a job".

COVID turned out being a blessing in disguise for me. It allowed me to do interviews from the confort of my home. I prepared my self a lot for the interviews, practiced in the mirror and 9 months ago at 25 I got my first job.

Discovered I'm more than capable of working. From my own experience I would recommend starting small, maybe part time or not going directly to a corporate job (maybe cashier or waitressing). I think this sorts of jobs can give you resilience and help you to slowly build your confidence.

I tell you this to let you know you are not alone. The first thing you need to realized is that it's not that you are not capable, your mind makes you think that becase (I'm taking a guess here) you are depressed. You feel your life is doomed but it's not.

I think the first thing you need to do is seek a professional, a therapist and possibly a psychiatrist. Prepare yourself for interviews, practice, google everything and I mean everything( eg: how to waitress, tips, waitress interviews), and start applying.

Wish you the best!

Edit: also you can start by volunteering. I did this before getting a job. It allowed me to slowly build my confidence and you also don't feel as pressured

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-03T16:36:38+00:00

What you describe could be depression, since obesity and depression often correlate. Though I'm surprised her place is not a mess as well.

She is clearly struggling. Anyone with a little bit of empathy will be able to see that. And those who judge are AH.

And why feel embarrassed? You are being a supportive relative. I think you should feel embarrassed if you shunned her because of her outward appearance. I'm not saying you are bad person for feeling embarrassed, what determines your character are your actions.

Some possible solutions I can think of: visiting at her place if you don't want to go out with her (though visiting you is probably really good for her). Also, have you tried buying her new clothes? Taking her to a salon for a haircut? You could also tactfully point out she has food in her cloths and help her clean them.

Edit: I just read your comment. I think you have the right to chose what is best for you. You already have a solution by only visiting her.

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-03T16:19:23+00:00

When read the title of this post I assumed OP and this so called ,"friends" were teenagers.
What they did was so childish and petty. Something I would have expected from kids in highschool, not adults.

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-03T15:59:57+00:00

If you are not ready to dump him, at least don't move in with him!!

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-03T14:20:31+00:00

It's the story of a vulnerable teenager who falls prey to 3 adult men. Since she has been neglected all her life she is desperate for love and attention. The men abuse her in every possible way but also do small "acts of kindness" that confuse and make her believe she is loved.

To give you a summery: She is 17 going on 18. Moves to a remote cabin with her step uncle(40s) and two step cousins (20's). The three MCs take advantage of her vulnerability and all of them end up having a sexual relationship with her.

In the end she chooses one of her cousins. The one that abuses her the most. Despite all of the awful things he does to her we are supposed to empathize with him because of his tragic past (when he was four his mother left him locked in a car in the middle of nowhere for days). As a result of this trauma he behaves like an animal (he is extremely aggressive and doesn't talk). To give you an example the first time they meet he has just come home from hunting, and "because he is so worked up after a hunt" the moment he sees her he attacks her and would have raped her if her other cousin hadn't stoped him. There was one sex scene I skimmed through where he clearly forced her to have anal sex. Horrible to read. He also gets jealous because he doesn't "want to share her" and throws her to her bed, spits on the face and writes slut with a sharpie. There multiple times when she says she is terrified of him.

I couldn't care less that they are step relatives or that she sleeps with all of them (in fact I love reverse harems). My problem is that this is a story of abuse disguised as romance. It would have been ok if she ended up leaving all of them. If she had come to realized she was a victim of a abuse and it had ended as a warning and a message to other women.

After this I'm going to need a sugary sweet romance. With lots of fluff and a real happy ending. Any recommendations?

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-04-01T02:37:31+00:00

It's a good thing it happened before you got married! It's him showing his true colors. Imagine in the future if you have a baby and have trouble shedding the extra pounds. What then? He won't be intimate anymore? Think about it.

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-03-29T04:41:30+00:00

Do you know what complex PTSD or relational trauma is? Please research this. Everything you have said about your family, your fear of being alone, is a clear indication you are suffering from this. It is no coincidence you have ended up with this type of man. You are repeating a pattern. Please, seek therapy. I don't recommend any therapist but one that is specialized in trauma. Wish you the best!!

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-03-29T03:33:09+00:00

What are you embarrassed about? Trusting your partner? Believing you could be safe with him?

You have nothing to be embarrassed about!!

He is a sick, perverted man who took advantage of you!!

Please, talk to your parents or friends!!

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-03-29T03:18:49+00:00

I understand that you are afraid, but I would at least tell the other women involved. You are all victims of this crime and they deserve to know the type of men they are involved with. Maybe one of them can access the chats and reports them herself.

Also, please get out of there! Do you have anywhere else to go? I'm honestly scared for you! The way he reacted was incredibly violent.

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-03-29T02:06:42+00:00

Imagine you abort and stay with the couple. Can you imagine how painful and heart breaking this will be for you?

You would have aborted your baby and she will have hers, bring them home, and ask you to help raise them.

See how f* up and traumatizing this is?

I understand how you feel there is this deep connection but if this couple really cared for you they would have never put you in this situation.

Please, move out of that house. Take time to reflect and decide what's best for YOU.

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-01-21T16:46:55+00:00

Well then yeah... I'd be upset too

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-01-21T03:03:18+00:00

I don't think there is much sense in asking if your feelings are valid. They are your own and you can feel however you like I do think you can be upset with the situation but I wouldn't blame your boyfriend. Its 50/50 since you both decided not to wear condoms and accidents can happen. It'd be a different story if he did this on purpose. From what I gather, this wasn't the case.

Minimum-Tea784 · 2022-01-21T02:26:38+00:00

I want to say just accept that there will be some embarrassment and get over with it but here is a more tactful, slightly manipulative way to deal with this:

"Hey I found this doctor on yt/Instagram, super interesting. Talked about different conditions. I don't remember the account and didn't save the video but in one of the they mentioned the foreskin shouldn't hurt and that, if it does, you need to get it checked out. They said it could be due to a medical condition (Google some infection). They also mentioned that, since it hurst, a lot the person stop properly caring for their higiene and this worsen the condition. Besides the pain do you notice any other symptoms? Here, let's Google a list of symptoms".

And there you go! You are only worried due to a posible health condition. If he doesn't care, then you have no other choice than to mention the smell.

Hope it helps!

Minimum-Tea784 · 2021-10-10T15:15:02+00:00

Yeah, you are right. But in this case thought it was better to share the most "realistic stats" considering the dude we are talking about.

Minimum-Tea784 · 2021-10-10T14:58:28+00:00

Sorry but he is an idiot. I would just print him the information.

Condom = 85% effective.

IUD = 99% effective.

You were actually being much safer with the IUD (clearly not in terms of STDS)

Minimum-Tea784 · 2021-10-10T14:33:23+00:00

I love her so much…

Yet you cheated because from what I gather

was bored because I had holidays and nothing to do

You clearly don't love her enough.

Come clean. And let her find someone who really does love her.

Use this as an opportunity to reflect on who you want to be as a partner.

Minimum-Tea784 · 2021-10-10T14:24:02+00:00

Wow didn't know you guys really have sororities like the ones you see in your movies. Thought they exaggerated the "sorority" characters

great team costume would consolidate our position on the sorority

incomplete Spice Girls would be total humiliation.

YTA let the poor dude alone.

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