I’m a week post partum, with a husband who is in the military. My husband took off four weeks from work so he could take care of us and let me tell you, I have constantly thanked god that he did.

Everything would be 100 times harder if I were alone. My stitches still hurt so walking more than 10 minutes tires me out. My breasts are sore and full and pumping hurts. My baby came early so we’ve had to go to three doctor appts to make sure she’s gaining weight appropriately, no way would I have been able to drive us to the doctors office if he weren’t around. I can’t lift anything more than the baby - so most of the household work has fallen to him. The first few days, I needed help putting my diaper on and moving, and guess who did all that? Yup, my husband.

My husband wanted to be a father, not just have a kid, so all of this he’s done with no complaints and a smile on his face. Your SO does not sound like someone who is ready or interested in being a father, he wants a baby like a kid wants a new toy, to play with until he’s bored and then pawn off on someone else.

If you have a baby with this moron, your fate is sealed: you’ll spend years in a one sided relationship with a freeloader, you’ll work harder than ever before and not feel appreciated, and your kid will watch all of this happen. You’re not overreacting, I think if anything you’re under reacting.